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Handjob and herpes

Can you get herpes from getting a handjob from a girl that's infected? Thanks.
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Thank you.
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897535 tn?1295206435
You really should become educated - as should your partner, about herpes and STDs in general.

http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/

More specifically, read "how is it transmitted" in the link above.  Remember, if you've never been tested, you have no way of knowing your own herpes status, same goes for your partner.
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Well we didn't so this yet we are talking bout doing it and I'm just not sure I want to really bad but if a handjob won't give me anything then I'll do that but if she asks me to finger her then i don't what I'd do cause if she has herpes I would get them from fingering her wouldn't I?
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897535 tn?1295206435
Read the first link I sent you - really helps to do your part.

Herpes can "shed", meaning the virus is active but there are no symptoms. So hypothetically, you could have herpes yourself and transmit it without ever having a cold sore or genital sore. Same for those who in fact know their status and have outbreaks; they also shed in between. It's why we all should be screened for herpes if we're sexually active.
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If the sore is not showing and we kiss does that mean I couldn't get it at the time
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897535 tn?1295206435
Well it may or may not have been herpes. But even then, if it was, it's not a risk to you unless she performed oral sex on you or kissed you. In this instance, her giving you a handjob is safe sex.

As well, have you every been tested to know your own herpes status? About 60% of the adult population has oral herpes, it's incredibly common. And the majority never have symptoms to know it.

You can read more about herpes in general here:
http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/

And why this wasn't a risk here:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/STD-scare-from-vaginal-fluids/show/1264035
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Wow guys I appreciate all this stuff you sent to me and helping me out I really appreciate it if I have other questions I will be posting them as well this girl had a sore on the outside of her mouth and she said that the doctors said it's not herpes it's when she gets stressed or gets really sick. I don't know if that's truthful or not
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http://www.teensadvisor.com/teen-dating/mutual-masturbation.html
Awful. It looks like the only safe sex is phone sex.))))))
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http://www.outinamerica.com/Home/safesex.asp?safesex=15 Read the abstract "How you get it" it is said that fingers can transmit herpes. I´ll post some more stuff later, maybe tomorrow. I saw such warnings many times, my best friend who is a doctor (GP) said it is possible to get smth. this way. I also thought it was not really possible.
But, if we think logically, say, you have sperm on your hand and then touch your mouth or eyes, do you really think it is impossible to get smth. this way?
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OK, I will try to find some sources from which I have these infos.
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101028 tn?1419603004
the open cuts and wounds on the hands would be an issue as far as blood borne infections of which herpes is not.

grace
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897535 tn?1295206435
Indeed carrie89 is correct and beat me to the punch. I keep up with Dr. Hook and Dr. Handsfield's postings - both experts in the field of STDs, and they emphatically state that masturbation is not a risk - it is safe sex.
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Actually, you are not correct about that either:

The STD experts, Dr Handsfield and Dr Hook, consistently reiterate that hand jobs do NOT transfer the virus. They have NEVER seen it in 30 plus years of working in STD specific clinics.  If someone with HSV2 is shedding, for example, and then touches herself,/himself there is not enough active virus on the hands thereafter to transfer to another person in order to cause infection.  It takes more than one virus to transfer an infection.  This is why is takes mucous membrane to mucous membrane contact, that is, direct contact with the virus.  Indirect contact is not a sufficient method of transfer.  If you can site a particular example of infection through hand contact, do so, but I think you'd be hard pressed to find any such example. It simply doesn't exist.
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Petal130, it is completely safe only if you do not have wounds or cuts or open sores on your hands, and wash them before you touch your partner and then before you touch your own mouth, eyes, nose, genitals. There is video on youtube about STDs where a consultant recommends wearing a glove! No kidding.
Bigman, if the girl did not touch herself well, you know where (and herpes was active or shedding asymptomatically), before she touched you, everything is ok. Relax.
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897535 tn?1295206435
Mutual masturbation is considered safe sex. Most people who have herpes either have it orally or genitally, hence why it's not a risk.
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1285653 tn?1288358629
Maybe if there are open sores on her hand. However, VERY UNLIKELY!
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