A woman giving a hand job is no risk. Same for the man pleasing a woman with his hands. Now a man is at a very very very slight risk of herpes whitlow of the finger. This is very rare and I wouldn't be concerned over it at all.
I am positive this is nothing to worry about. She won't transmit hsv to you penis with her hand. Even if she touched herself first. Now if you asking if whitlow needs an outbreak to spread the virus. Yes. Like I said you can go get 100,000 handjob and my mind won't be changed on your risk.
That's correct. No risk = no worry
Sounds like your Dr got it right. I wouldn'the worry