Daily treatment lowers the risk of being contagious during a.s.
I was in the same situation. My boyfriend had it and I didnt. However he hadn't had an outbreak for 14 years (since he contracted it as a child) and we had been together for 3years. I never got it until recently. I had an outbreak on my lips and somewhere down below... Just because they dont have an outbreak doesnt mean they arent contagious. Stay safe and use condoms!! Seriously. It completely changed my sex life now.
Yes the virus does shed from time to time when no symptoms are present. The odds are low you would contract the virus when no symptoms are present but being in a relationship you are at risk as you are exposed often. Have you been tested? You may have it and not know it as well
Asymptomatic Shedding is called that for a reason. Read about Acyclovir for example and how it works at lowering the risk of shedding and the risk of outbreaks. You definitely need to talk to a doctor about this. You need qjestiona answered medically.
P.s. it doesnt mean you are safe or protected from hsv.