Forgive my poor choice of wording. Generally I find that kidding around and using gamer talk sometimes helps people to relax. I am sorry for that and will be far more careful with my joking.
STD/STI's are always going to be stigmatised in the world. Various reasons but mainly due to relgious and general up bringing of most of the "older" society. The belief is that sex shall hold until marriage. While the suggestion is sound (less chance of catching an STD if you don't have sex and your partner won't have an STD unless they have sex). The fact of the matter is our generation (30 and below) are changing the way they feel about sex. More and more people (and kids) are having sex. For example think back again to your high school days. I am sure you had some pregnant girls going to your school. If not at mine we had about (not kidding) 20. (I would know I rode the bus with them to a special campus they went to that was a part of a technology school I went to). If you look back at the years say 5 or 10 years ago there would be a less number. Say 20 years ago and schools within 200 miles of each other MAY have one child. You truly won't see that stigma go away anytime soon. Sadly it is going to remain for a few years.
Again your sleeping is I am sure stress/depression. You are beating yourself up and you are fearful. Your body is in overdrive for stress and I am sure expeling a lot of energy. When you go to sleep your body finally gets to relax a little and then when your conciounes kicks in you start to worry about things agin. Trust me I did the same thing you did for about oh 6 weeks. Today I still worry and I still freak out (see my own thread to see for yourself). I worry for the same reasons and then some but none the less worry I do. But its what I do when I worry what I find helps me out. I have spent a lot of time studying, reviewing, researching, and flat out absorbing all the information I can. What do I do with what I have learned? I post on here. Don't get me wrong I still ask questions because I don't understand things and I do want to.
You are speaking to the choir when it comes to the attitude of "I will believe you when the symptoms are gone". I think I co-wrote that book. For another example... I have been diagnoised with a fungal infection. The most stressful part of this is and was that it hasn't gone away and I have tried various different fungal creams. In my dermatologist alone visits I have spent 300.00 and about 80.00 on perscriptions. Why? Because I have a fungal infection. But does that mean I don't examine myself. I worry about EVERY itch, bump, tingle, pain, etc I feel down there or around my lips. Why? Because I am worried of what I did.
So with all of that said I want to share a link of a post that took place here on MH by a guy named Leapoffaith. Really nice guy Leap is. I have talked to him on AIM a lot of times. Leap isn't a doctor or anything. He is like you and I. Hes a college student. While his situation of possible exposure is different than ours the fear is the same.
Things to remember about your lab work. Herpes infection can't be ruled out unless the test was done 4 months after your last sexual encounter. Only change on this would be HerpeSelect test which would show something by 12 weeks. You will have to wait the 12 weeks. I can read your mind.... I know you don't want to wait. Let me tell you bud I am right there with you. I didn't want to wait. I am on week 10. But I remember every day waking up crushed because I felt CRAP I don't want to go to school I don't want to do this and etc. I would walk around the house and literally say "I can't WAIT for 12 weeks to get here". I would say that 3-4 times a day. What I quickly relaized is that going to school meant that I was spending time focusing on something else and those hours would go by so much faster when I didn't count the seconds. But believe me I counted the weeks. Each monday I say what week it is. (Technically speaking it is a sunday but none the less a few hours doesn't matter that much.).
Your questions are fine and use of the forums for asking them regardless who they benefit doesn't matter. Our focus on answering them is to answer YOUR question. If someone doesn't want to answer your question no biggie someone will eventually.
As for counseling I don't know. We will talk to you hear and posting your fear in your journal may put it out there for you and everyone to see. People can respond to it as they want. Don't think though that you are any different than the majority on this forum. We all made a mistake and we all had some fear or stress over it.