Your really going in the wrong direction with this. Your doctor said its scabies so im not sure why your insisting its hsv2 herpes and bringing in child protective services concerns. Go have a blood test to see if you have herpes
My IOS device won't allow me to upload a picture, but there is one blister on the bottom palm of her hand that is almost the size of a penny and it's really red around the blister. The blister itself is flat not raised like it's gonna burst. And when I feel or push down on it feels almost like a lump/ bump
This does not sound like a herpes lesion at all. There are a number of things it could be so I'd see a doctor quickly (hand, foot and mouth for example).
Your daughter is not at risk of any genital HSV2 infection you may have, although I suspect there is no reason to assume you do have one.
I also wanted to comment that she had the same blister to appear on her palm about a month and a half ago on the same hand, it was about the same size and was deep-seated in the palm just like the one she has now. It never burst open or turned into a sore it just gradually went down within a week and a half, but left her hand red in that area so that means whatever it is, it's definitely recurrent. So that automatically put herpes in my mind. She has an apt to see an allergist tomorrow morning to see if she have skin allergens, next will be a dermatologist. Her pediatrician just says its scabies but I know that can't be it looks nothin like scabies. is there any other way I can send you a picture of her hand?
Herpes should never have entered your mind. Seek medical advice for the diagnosis. Online pictures do not help in this regard.
Most likely just to rule out herpes. By the way, Whitlow is rare and most at risk are in the dental profession and the finger is the common place for an outbreak not the palm. Also whitlow turns into a open blister that very painful not just a red mark that goes away on its own. I would not be concerned about whitlow at all as for her to contract it, she would have to rub her finger into an open lip sore that someone was having and im sure that did not happen.