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A couple days ago, my STD test came back positive for Herpes 2. I am devastated, crushed. I can't help but feel like maybe I should just kill myself and get it over with... I'm 22, I can count my sexual partners on both hands, and now.... I'm ****** for life. I've never had an outbreak. EVER. Never an outbreak, and no symptoms. I've been in 3 serious relationships, all lasting over a year. I can't even imagine dating at this point. How in the world will anyone accept this? I doubt I can date anyone new; I mean, I know that if I started seeing a guy, and he confided that he had herpes, he would have to be THE ONE for me to continue seeing him... I know thats vain, but god, there is such a stigma associated with this disease. Like I'm a ****, or dirty or something. Fuckin christ. How can Magic Johnson beat HIV, while one in four people have to wear a condom for the rest of their ******* lives?! I'm pretty, and smart, and I have a degree............... and now I'm ******. ****!!!!!!
NO BIG DEAL!? R u crazy?!
Did you give it to your husband? How do you move forward. I just found out I had it and gave it to my wife of 30 years. She is so upset and disappointed in me. Did we tell my daughters of 16 and 18. they hear things hear and there. Please give advise
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i've read some of you posts and they are very helpful. however, as i wrote to bob, sores inside the mouth for herpes is not uncommon: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gingivostomatitis. This is what I had. Please spread the word!
I took a look at that picture and my primary infection looked similar to canker sores. This is called herpetic gingivostomatitis: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gingivostomatitis.
Also blood test may not be accurate during the first outbreak since your antibodies won't show up. A swab during infection at an STI clinic plus a blood test would be best. Usuall and infectious disesase clinic will not charge you so please get tested!
Also blood test may not be accurate during the first outbreak since your antibodies won't show up. A swab during infection at an STI clinic plus a blood test would be best. Usuall and infectious disesase clinic will not charge you so please get tested!
CallMeBob: I tried salt water and mouth wash. Don't think it really did much for me but can prevent reinfection. Try Lysine and a lot of vitamins including C and E, reishi mushroom pills, olive leaf extract, and plenty of sleep.
As for your post, I will be honest and say it doens't make me very happy to know that you are taking a risk with these women. I understand that everyone takes risks when they have sex, but I also believe there is a mutal trust that exists when you are with someone. I would hope you would want her to tell you if she had HIV in case the condom breaks.
As I have mentioned in my previous posts, I found out I was infected a month ago by a guy who has had cold sores. He didn''t tell me and then when I confronted him, he told me that he has had cold sores but didn't have an outbreak. I now have oral and genital herpes even though we used a condom. So, even though you won't go down on a girl when you don't have an outbreat, you can still give it to her. I personally think everyone with herpes and myself included should tell their partners before sexual activity/contact. She/he has a right to know and make a decision based on the risk.
If you really don't think it's a big deal then why not tell the other person? Who said you have to give up on sex? Just be responsible. If I had known about my partner having HSV1, I may have taken more precautions (eg. asking him to take antiviral drugs, using soap right after, not letting him give me oral sex since if I had read about viral shedding or obstaining from contact since I knew he hadn't been getting a lot of rest so his immune system was weak). So all in all, if you really don't think it's a big deal, great...but let someone else make that decision because it has devasted my life. It is a big deal to me and my health.
Did you know women have more to deal with because of our hormones? 3 outbreaks in 1 month in 2 loctions so that makes 6 in total because I caught a cold and had my period. Also, my triggers include alcohol so no more wine, not even a bit. Some people do want babies and yes it has made me fearful..lots of psychological stress.
So PLEASE PLEASE, think twice about this. You decision can cause a lot of suffering and by telling your partners it doesn't mean you can't have sex.
As for your post, I will be honest and say it doens't make me very happy to know that you are taking a risk with these women. I understand that everyone takes risks when they have sex, but I also believe there is a mutal trust that exists when you are with someone. I would hope you would want her to tell you if she had HIV in case the condom breaks.
As I have mentioned in my previous posts, I found out I was infected a month ago by a guy who has had cold sores. He didn''t tell me and then when I confronted him, he told me that he has had cold sores but didn't have an outbreak. I now have oral and genital herpes even though we used a condom. So, even though you won't go down on a girl when you don't have an outbreat, you can still give it to her. I personally think everyone with herpes and myself included should tell their partners before sexual activity/contact. She/he has a right to know and make a decision based on the risk.
If you really don't think it's a big deal then why not tell the other person? Who said you have to give up on sex? Just be responsible. If I had known about my partner having HSV1, I may have taken more precautions (eg. asking him to take antiviral drugs, using soap right after, not letting him give me oral sex since if I had read about viral shedding or obstaining from contact since I knew he hadn't been getting a lot of rest so his immune system was weak). So all in all, if you really don't think it's a big deal, great...but let someone else make that decision because it has devasted my life. It is a big deal to me and my health.
Did you know women have more to deal with because of our hormones? 3 outbreaks in 1 month in 2 loctions so that makes 6 in total because I caught a cold and had my period. Also, my triggers include alcohol so no more wine, not even a bit. Some people do want babies and yes it has made me fearful..lots of psychological stress.
So PLEASE PLEASE, think twice about this. You decision can cause a lot of suffering and by telling your partners it doesn't mean you can't have sex.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
