October 20th I had (after being heavily pressured) unprotected vaginal sex with a male who was not aware of his STD status.
Around October 30/31, I noticed a painful spot on the inside of my labia (majora). However, it was pretty low, so it was pretty difficult to look at it. It looked red, but didn't appear fluid filled, or looked like any of the classic herpes pictures you see online. I say this knowing full well that symptoms of herpes vary. The spot only hurt when I bothered it, but did not hurt on its own. I checked the spot again on November 1st, and it was gone (no noticeable scabbing over or anything). I had no tingling, and no flu-like symptoms.
Appointment on November 7th at my university health services building with an RN. She examined me and didn't see anything. Told me not to worry.
November 6th, my partner tested for herpes type I and II via Quest Diagnostics. They use an IgG HerpesSelect test. This test was taken 14 weeks after what would have been his last possible exposure (excluding me, as during the summer I tested negative for both type I and II after 8 months since last possible exposure)--his last possible exposure would been around July 25-27. We got the results the next day, and he tested negative for both type I and II. I told the RN this, and she said not to worry about having herpes then.
My partner is also sure he's never had symptoms, even stating that for the past two years he has been paying close attention to what's been going on down there. However, I am also aware that some people with herpes may never have symptoms or very mild symptoms.
My (then) partner is getting tested again this Thursday, so it would be six months since his last possible exposure prior to being with me. I asked him to do this because I know that for some people, it takes six months for antibodies to be detected.
My question(s) are:
1. How conclusive is testing at three months? Do I have any reason to be as worried or scared as I currently am right now? I don't think I would feel so bad if I didn't have what I thought to be a symptom.
Any sort of reasonable reassurance would be great right now.