About a month ago I had relations with a partner who knows she has type 2 herpes. She became aware of her having it around 3-4 months ago and says she has never had any visible symptoms. As well, I do not know if she is taking any medication. I am unsure if I have herpes as the most intimate we got was dry sex (humping), I had pajama like pants on, no shirt and she was only in her underwear, but her vagina was revealing at some point. As this was going on I had rubbed the exterior of her vagina a couple of times and my fingers were in her mouth at some point too. The dry sex was followed by her giving me oral sex. I saw no lesions or blisters on her mouth or genital area.
A couple of days after contact with her I felt a tingling in my scrotum after masturbating. At this point, I did not know she had herpes and was not worried about having contracted anything. I got in touch with the girl about any STDs and she told me she had herpes. After the tingling I felt a sharp consistent pressing pain in my scrotum and lower genital area, this persisted for around 5 hours. It may of been in my head but then my legs and back got sore and I had a headache (flu like symptoms) but then again I had been all over the internet stressing over if I had herpes. Since then my genital are has been on and off itchy, some days its really annoying and it's uncomfortable to even wear clothes and walk and other days it's fine. 3 days ago I noticed a single small dark red bump on the area above the genitals, with small patches of red skin around and in separate areas near the bump. All together the area is small, around the size of my thumb finger nail. At this moment, 3 days after I noticed it, the bump and red patches are fading, with the bump being smaller and less red than before. I know it is not a hair as it does kind of look like a pimple. This scares me because it is the area in which her skin would have made contact with my skin.
I have had a urine sample for gonorrhea and chlamydia, both negative and I have just received a culture test for the bump yesterday, but the bump was not at the same redness as initially spotted. I've been to two doctors requesting a blood test, but both have said one does not exist for herpes in males. I am still unsure to if this is the truth. It's worth noting I know I have type 1 herpes (oral) and live in Canada.
What are my next steps? Does it sound like I have herpes? What are my chances that I did contract it? Does anxiety cause some of my symptoms?