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Just a genital contact causes herpes?

I was fooling around with another man in a public background at a park, his penis merely touched my anus. I saw his penis, it looked normal. He also fingered me afterwards. But months later I feel a bump under my chin and sores on my butt. Some take days to heal, some others take weeks. They don't hurt unless being touched. I'm scared, I might have herpes. That thought gives me constant anxiety of how I'd spend the rest of my life with herpes, or how I can have sex anymore

Was there a risk from genital contacts and fingering? please advise.

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Like how did his penis touch your anus? I don't need graphic details, but was it a quick touch, or was it rough rubbing for a long time?

There is no risk from fingering. If his penis just briefly touched your anus, and there was no friction, herpes wouldn't transmit. If there was friction, it could.

Has a doctor seen this?

The bump under your chin wouldn't be related to this.

If you do have herpes, you can have sex again, but let's cross this bridge after you see a doctor and find out what you have going on. It could be a fungal infection, or a variety of different things, and you need to let a doctor see it. If the doctor thinks it's herpes, make sure they do testing. They can culture it, PCR swab it, or do blood testing. If they do blood testing, make sure it's a type specific IgG blood test.
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It was just a brief touch of the tip on the anus. No rough rubbing. I forgot to mention we also had mutual masturbation
Mutual masturbation is never a risk - see the posts I included below.

Just a touch isn't going to transmit herpes. It requires some friction, and a touch doesn't have friction.

Here are some posts on mutual masturbation from our experts (when we had them) that may help -





https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.
Okay, so it keeps happening. It began with itches, then ended with sores that didnt hurt unless came into contact with fingers or soapy water

That's definitely herpes isn't it?
I don't think you're reading my answers. Please read this. Read it slowly, then read it again.

No, it's not definitely herpes. The only way to know is to get it checked by a doctor, and ask for some testing. They can do a culture, a PCR swab or a type specific IgG blood test. I'd ask for some PCR swabs or a culture, since a blood test will only tell you if you have herpes or not, and it won't tell you if this is herpes causing these symptoms.

Lots of things cause sores. You could have dermatitis, eczema, an allergic reaction, a fungal infection, or a host of other things. Get some testing done by a doctor. That's the only way you'll know.

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