I am in search of information and answers...
I have been with my husband for 18 years. We had sex 2 weeks ago, and failed to use lubricant. The next morning I noticed small cuts down south. I figured it was due to the sex. I also changed soaps and started using a powder in my underwear around the same time. Shortly after, I noticed that the cuts were becoming infected and painful.
I went into my doc and she took a look and said I had Herpes! I was totally freaking out. She swabbed the area and sent me home with Valtrex.
I confronted my husband, thinking he had to have given it to me. He ademantly denied ever having sexual contact of any kind with anyone other than me. He has never had any symtoms, and went in for the blood test, which came back negative for HSV-1 and 2.
Mine came back positive for HSV-1.
I have only had one other partner, in high school, and have never had oral sex performed on me. I broke up with this ex 18 years ago. Could this lie dormant that long, and pop up now?
I have had 2 pregnancies, and lots of stress in my life. Would think this would have reared it's ugly head a long time ago...I've never had anything like this before. Never a cold sore, either.
How could I not have spread it to my hubby after all of this time? We never use protection, as I have an IUD.
How do I prevent him from catching it? He is pretty upset and wants answers, which I dont have. I have been totally faithful to him as well.
I have been going crazy trying to find accurate info on the web. Could I have caught this in any other way besides a partner 18 years ago?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.