Nightmare "hookup" fling

[synthetic111]

Last friday I met a girl that I had been talking to on a dating site for awhile. We met went for a walk and talked for awhile. She seemed very level headed and was into nutrition alot. Well we went back to her apartment and one thing led to another and we started making out and kissing. Well she proceded to give me oral sex, and I tried to like unzip her pants and was going to finger her then she said no that this is a one way street. I didnt understand what she meant by this, and I asked her what are you talking about? She said I will tell you later. Well after she wasnt able to get me off by giving me oral sex I asked her if she wanted to have sex she said yes and went to get a condom. Well we started to have sex and after about 10 minutes of sex the condom broke, but we continoued to have sex for another 5 or 10 minutes. Well I ended up staying at her place over night. The next morning when we woke up she says I think there are some things that you should know about me. I said ok. Then she says that she is bipolar and taking several medicines for this. Then she says she has genital herpes. I really didnt know what to think when she told me this. After all she told me after we had sex 2 times. Well after I went home I researched genital herpes more because I just wasnt sure about the whole thing. Now after reading all about this disease im very freaked out with anxiety and paranoia of getting it. I dont want it! Well I called her up and I guess tryed talking about it with her. I told her it was really messed up you told me after we had sex to tell me you had genital herpes. She said I will have to deal with it now and its not really her problem. lol I really dont know what to do. I feel she is just a snake in the grass with venom in her fangs trying to get guys infected. Well I said it was really not fair you doing this to me, and I thought it was illegal to do this. She said if I come down with herpes I can always call her up and ask questions about it since she knows about it now for 4 or 5 years dealing with it herself. I feel totally used and feel like I threw my life away on this messed up girl. Im nto sure what to do about this situation? I have read that symptoms come in about two weeks time? Should I just wait 2 weeks for symptoms to come? should I get a blood test? Im lost

[sunster]

Get a blood test..it is the only way to know 100% for sure if you have herpes type 2..get it.Good luck but if you have it its not a death sentence. peace

[Mistakeguy789]

You should see symptoms within 2-20 days.  Chances are this is low risk.  Her knowing what her outbreaks is a great tool in prevention.  If she wasn't having an outbreak at the time which it sounds like she wasn't chances are you have nothing to worry about.  Yes viral shedding does play a roll in things but the chance overal and risk was low for a one time encounter.  

If you get symptoms be seen within 24-48hrs for culture and typing.  

[Scalelot]

Hello synthetic
Just to let you know that I am in the same boat as you. I had a unprotected oral 7 days ago.

She told me she was clean and both of us were drunk. I didn't check for any sores.

They said the average time for symptoms to show up is 2 weeks. I am super sensitive to any itch or pain on my penis or anus now...

I have been to the clinic 3 times..they didn't really tell me anything new..

Not sure if this helps.. just to let you know you are not the only one out there..

[synthetic111]

Thanks for answering me grace. no I have never been tested for herpes I dont think. Just wondering should I expect symptoms in 2 weeks time if they come at all? Im pretty sure I have never had genital herpes symptoms , but I do think I had cold sores along time ago on my mouth. She has told me she gets out breaks every 3 months and her last one was 3 months ago so is there a higher chance of me getting this from her? I have read the expert doctor forums , and they put alot of my anxiety to ease, but there is still that little bit that I might have been infected. I guess it is just a waiting game now to notice blisters on my penis

[gracefromHHP]

the risk of contracting genital herpes from a one time, mostly protected encounter is incredibly low.

have you ever been tested for herpes before to know your own status? If not, I recommend getting a type specific herpes igg blood test done this week and then repeating it in 3 months.   that way you've shown her that you weren't infected prior ( if indeed that is the case ) and can prove that you were most likely infected by her if indeed you do test + in 3 months or get any symptoms between now and then.

grace