also I'm not ignoring your oral sex questions, just can't really answer them until we know if you have hsv1 or hsv2.
so you had a lesion culture done of active symptoms and it said + for herpes but was not typed? if so your partner should seek out type specific herpes igg blood testing to see what his status is so that you know if it's hsv1 or hsv2 genitally. won't make a darn bit of difference as far as precautions for the two of you but knowing type will help you decide how to treat your herpes at this point.
I had the test come back as positive from herpes. But the doctor said they can't do a guaranteed blood test for type for 4 months after infection but that it appears as hsv2. My boyfriend has not been tested yet but he is my first sexual partner of any type so that's how we know he for sure has it.
did you have testing of your genital lesions that came back as hsv2+?
has your bf been tested to know his status?
from your other post - aches and pains aren't too unusual with a newly acquired herpes infection - it's part of the flu like symptoms we talk about.
grace