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Please help!! I had oral sex with a transexual I used a condom during the oral sex then switched to anal I used lub but didn't change condoms. Anal went on for about  2min or so then i stopped I realized it wasn't my cup of tea thing. The condom look like it didn't break I saw blood on the condom so rushed and took the condom off. I washed up with anti bactiura soap and water and dryed off. 2 days later I felt itching and burning sensation around genitals and it burned when I peed. I went and saw my urologist and did blood work everything can back negative except for HSV 1 he told me it was to soon to show HSV 2 or HIV i know i had HSV1 already .He said it could been a reaction do to strees and guilt  of the encounter I'm on valtrex now it's been 2 1/2 weeks and in still feeling flu like symptoms. I feel weak and headache, feeling of ill no fever no chills. My question is

1. During oral sex could  there have been holes in the condom before going to anal sex?

2. When cleaning myself  with soap and water could it have went inside my urethra?

I'm not sure of its my outbreak that causing my symptoms or if its something else. I don't have any bumps or liaisons or anything my lower back hurts every now and then and I think my lymph node in my neck might be swollen. I went and did an oral hiv test on day 18 that came back negative but I know that's too soon. Can any help please I'm really stressed out
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washing up after sex doesn't reduce std risk at all. Sounds more like perhaps you gave yourself a chemical urethritis by getting soap inside your urethra.

did your provider do any urine testing when you were seen?

protected oral sex is as safe as sex as it gets. It's no risk for std's.

Protected anal sex is a low risk for herpes, hpv and syphilis.  

really no reason for your provider to have put you on valtrex either. You will need to wait at least 3 months after your encounter to seek out hsv2 igg blood testing if you are concerned about herpes from this encounter.

grace
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I was really concerned about holes being made in the condom before starting anal... But I was told that it would rip if there were any holes in the condom.

I was also concerned of blood that might have been on my gentals. I used soap and water to wash my self off but I was wondering by wash would the blood along with soap go inside my urethra?

He put me on valtrex because I tested positive for HSV 1
101028 tn?1419606604
most adults test + for hsv1, it's very common.  we don't routinely treat it when you aren't having issues with it.

http://www.ashastd.org/std-sti-works/Herpes/oral-herpes.html  has terrific info on oral herpes for more reading for you.
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I was tested for HSV 1 and 2 I was positive for HSV 1. It burns when I pee and I have a burning sensation around my genitals and thighs. My question is can HSV 1 cause these symptoms or can I have HSV 2 but tested too early to show in my blood work ?

Thanks
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Sucks I don't how I'm going to deal with having herpes 2 if my test results come back positive. I don't want live with that.. Stressed out
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I lost everything because of this std.. My girlfriend just left me I don't know what to do anymore. I want to overdose on my BP meds and slow my hart rate down and die
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It gets much better.  I promise !  It thought the same thing 9  months ago.  Now, I don't even think about it !
101028 tn?1419606604
most adults test + for hsv1, it's incredibly common. We don't consider it a std when it's oral.

if you feel like you want to kill yourself, call your local suicide hot line or your medical provider to get help.  
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Does HSV 1 cause a burning sensation on your skin or could I also have HSV 2?
101028 tn?1419606604
usually just a burning sensation without obvious lesions isn't due to herpes.

if you have new symptoms, be seen.

did you talk to someone yet about how you are feeling mentally?
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The burnig sensation is in my genatals
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I won't be able to have kids without infecting my partner.. No will want to be with me. I really don't want to be alone.. I know you're trying to make me feel better and I appreciate that but I know I have herpes type 2 it burns in too many spots both thigh and buttaks even though I don't see any bumbs or anything I know it's herpes. I hope type 1 herpes but that wouldn't make my skin burn. What's the point of living if you don't have anything to live for.
101028 tn?1419606604
you have convinced yourself that you contracted herpes from this encounter.  you are your own worse enemy.

if indeed you do have genital herpes, you will be able to have kids and the risk of infecting a partner is incredibly low even with the simplest of precautions.  

you need professional help to work through this.
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I thought you can transmit herpes to your partner even if there's no outbreak? I think I have  lesions on my leg they look like little clusters of bumps and it burns. Damn I'm so angry with myself one freaking time with a TS and I got this std I have to live with for the rest of my life. I can hid this from anyone in dating the moment i give them this std there going to leave me or if I'm tell them I have they'll leave me. It's a lose lose situation how wants to be with someone who has genital herpes its nasty that's the reality of it I'm just being honest. I'm never going to have a normal life again..  
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No conversation is going to get the std out of me. I don't want to live like this you can infect anyone even your own kids just by touching them.. I don't live me life know that and having to constantly wash my hands and be scared knowing I can infect them them with this.. Who wants to live that way  
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I'm afraid of being alone I had the perfect girlfriend that left me I'm very depressed right now I don't want to call any hotline I don't think talking to someone will help me.. They only thing that would help is a cure for this std. I'm messed up big time and now God making me pay for my mistake. I'm afraid if overdosing on my medication because it might just put me in the hospital with kidney fialur and whole list of other things failing or it might work. I'm not strong enough to deal with this.. It's just knowing how I contracted and knowing it could've been prevented. I can't live me life with this constant reminder on how I messed up my life.
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I thought about heaven  and hell and how the bible says you'll go to hell if you kill yourself I hope that's not true because I'm a really good person that just made a mistake. I just want to start my life over and have a second chance  
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I'm scared that I might do it because I know in my heart that I won't be able to live like this knowing I can pass this to the people who I love in my life. The symptoms have horrible I wish this on no one they last for over a month feeling sick fatigue painful urination fevers and the list goes on.. I would've rather been shot then to have this std. Some times I wish something did happen to me so I wouldn't have to take my own life
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What makes having this std is feeling like you're the only one that has it.. I'm living with roommates no family around for support I don't want tell anyone its embarrassing and I know it won't make me feel any better.. All these thoughts are running through my head I don't know what to do.. I just want my life back I want to be myself again.. I'm never going to be happy I can't live with this constant reminder... I just afraid overdosing wont work. I thought about buying a gun at the pawnshop I don't have any felonies I'm sure ill be able to buy one and then it'll be quick.
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I've been up all night it's 730am in California Sunday morning we usually would go to church together but I no longer have her in my life. I should've fully dedicated myself to god along time ago but now it's too late. I get paid this Wednesday Im thinking about buying a hand gun. I'm scared... I don't have anything to live for I don't have kids or anything I have nothing to lose.
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1-800-273-8255
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
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Calling a hotline is not going to help take this std away.
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I know you're just doing your job but that hotline is not going to help me. The only thing that'll help is pill that can get rid of my std forever..  But thanks anyway.. This is the only place I can talk where ppl are going through the same thing Im going through..
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Is there any possibility I can have HSV 1 and not HSV 2. I have lesions now on my leg in different spots. I'm really stressed out
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