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Hello I hope you guys are doing well. I am a 26 year old made who made a drunken mistake. I had sex with a prostitute. It was a condom Both oral and vaginal and their was not so much grinding specially because I know skin stds pasa through friction. It has been 7 days and have no real pain or anything on my penis or the base. The only thing I have a red spot above Two inches from
The penis or on the pubic area. since yesterday that looks quite better still red but more faded. I have tested negative in the past for both types so I know I don’t have any yet.
I am circumcised, 10 minutes later I showered and have been looking to see if everything is okey. I do not have fever or swollen lymph nodes, a scratchy throat but I will blame it on the weather and no fever.
1. If I was to have an outbreak i need to wait around another week?
2. If I don’t develop this classic pictures should I test ?
3. What would be my chances of one protected encounter?
4. It’s anxiety or guilt because I am married , either way I have postponed sex until further notice.
Thank you guys and greetings from the south !
The penis or on the pubic area. since yesterday that looks quite better still red but more faded. I have tested negative in the past for both types so I know I don’t have any yet.
I am circumcised, 10 minutes later I showered and have been looking to see if everything is okey. I do not have fever or swollen lymph nodes, a scratchy throat but I will blame it on the weather and no fever.
1. If I was to have an outbreak i need to wait around another week?
2. If I don’t develop this classic pictures should I test ?
3. What would be my chances of one protected encounter?
4. It’s anxiety or guilt because I am married , either way I have postponed sex until further notice.
Thank you guys and greetings from the south !
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Chances of you getting herpes from a 1 time, protected encounter are about 1 in 10,000, so quite low. I can't tell you what this spot is you have. You should let a doctor see it, though, since you did have sex, and you are married. It could be irritation, chafing, a fungal infection, or a host of other things.
It's not syphilis, though, since that wouldn't appear this soon - that takes at least 3 weeks to develop.
1. If I was to have an outbreak i need to wait around another week?
Herpes sores typically show up within 2-12 days. Since you had a protected encounter, I'd be very surprised if you got it.
2. If I don’t develop this classic pictures should I test ?
No, I wouldn't. There are a lot of false positives on the IgG test, and unraveling that can take months and a lot of money. If you don't live in the US, it can be impossible.
3. What would be my chances of one protected encounter?
About 1 in 10,000.
4. It’s anxiety or guilt because I am married , either way I have postponed sex until further notice.
Anxiety wouldn't give you a red spot, but lots of other things could. Herpes probably wouldn't, but a simple fungal infection might, or irritation, folliculitis, etc. Let your doctor see it to be sure. If they think it's herpes - even possibly - make them do a type specific culture on it. Don't let them just give you a visual diagnosis. It's often incorrect.
Let us know what happens.
It's not syphilis, though, since that wouldn't appear this soon - that takes at least 3 weeks to develop.
1. If I was to have an outbreak i need to wait around another week?
Herpes sores typically show up within 2-12 days. Since you had a protected encounter, I'd be very surprised if you got it.
2. If I don’t develop this classic pictures should I test ?
No, I wouldn't. There are a lot of false positives on the IgG test, and unraveling that can take months and a lot of money. If you don't live in the US, it can be impossible.
3. What would be my chances of one protected encounter?
About 1 in 10,000.
4. It’s anxiety or guilt because I am married , either way I have postponed sex until further notice.
Anxiety wouldn't give you a red spot, but lots of other things could. Herpes probably wouldn't, but a simple fungal infection might, or irritation, folliculitis, etc. Let your doctor see it to be sure. If they think it's herpes - even possibly - make them do a type specific culture on it. Don't let them just give you a visual diagnosis. It's often incorrect.
Let us know what happens.
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Dear Aunt Jessi,
Thank you for the warm message. At the moment I am abroad but will go back to the USA next week. It’s 8 days today and well the red spot turned light pink today and I believe it was from the rubber of the underwear being tight. Today it looks less red and way better. Either way I am getting close to the 12 days so I am looking forward for that. Either way I’ll keep you updated if anything. Thank you for the nice advice it really made my day.
Quick question , it’s the scrotum and pubic area thicker than the skin of the penis ?
If I am negative for both would symptoms could had shown faster ?
1 out of 10,000 really helps me and thank you for helping me calm down.
Thank you for the warm message. At the moment I am abroad but will go back to the USA next week. It’s 8 days today and well the red spot turned light pink today and I believe it was from the rubber of the underwear being tight. Today it looks less red and way better. Either way I am getting close to the 12 days so I am looking forward for that. Either way I’ll keep you updated if anything. Thank you for the nice advice it really made my day.
Quick question , it’s the scrotum and pubic area thicker than the skin of the penis ?
If I am negative for both would symptoms could had shown faster ?
1 out of 10,000 really helps me and thank you for helping me calm down.
Yes, the scrotum and pubic area are thicker than the penis. The penis is considered a mucus membrane, the others are not.
If you are negative for both hsv1 and hsv2, you'd have what's called a primary outbreak. Typically, these are more severe, with worse symptoms than if you had hsv1 already when you got infected with hsv2. You might have more sores that were bigger, more painful, and had more aches, pains, maybe a fever, etc., and it would take longer to heal.
Really, this doesn't sound like herpes, though it's possible, and given that you were protected, it's very unlikely.
If you are negative for both hsv1 and hsv2, you'd have what's called a primary outbreak. Typically, these are more severe, with worse symptoms than if you had hsv1 already when you got infected with hsv2. You might have more sores that were bigger, more painful, and had more aches, pains, maybe a fever, etc., and it would take longer to heal.
Really, this doesn't sound like herpes, though it's possible, and given that you were protected, it's very unlikely.
Dear Aunt Jessi
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The spot that I told you about went away, since it was only red and probably from the underwear.
Today I woke up with a red spot by the base. Both of the pictures seem like maybe it’s just the begging of an ingrown
So far it’s only 9 days from exposure. No fever , no swollen lymph nodes and no oil in the area . Please let me know what you think. Also, I decided that if by day 14 I don’t show symptoms I’ll take a test about 7/7 weeks.
Thank you for helping out ‘
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The spot that I told you about went away, since it was only red and probably from the underwear.
Today I woke up with a red spot by the base. Both of the pictures seem like maybe it’s just the begging of an ingrown
So far it’s only 9 days from exposure. No fever , no swollen lymph nodes and no oil in the area . Please let me know what you think. Also, I decided that if by day 14 I don’t show symptoms I’ll take a test about 7/7 weeks.
Thank you for helping out ‘
Yeah, that spot, which I really had to search for, and I assume you must have to, doesn't look like herpes. It could be dry skin, the start of an ingrown hair like you suggested, normal skin variations, etc.
Be really careful about testing if you have no symptoms. I don't see any reason to test if you don't get symptoms. As I said before, there are false positives on the hsv2 IgG blood test that can take weeks or months, loads of money, and untold stress to unravel. Obviously, it's your choice, but really think about that.
Your chances of getting herpes from this encounter are extremely low. If you don't get symptoms, I wouldn't bother with testing and risking the false positive. Just my opinion, though.
Be really careful about testing if you have no symptoms. I don't see any reason to test if you don't get symptoms. As I said before, there are false positives on the hsv2 IgG blood test that can take weeks or months, loads of money, and untold stress to unravel. Obviously, it's your choice, but really think about that.
Your chances of getting herpes from this encounter are extremely low. If you don't get symptoms, I wouldn't bother with testing and risking the false positive. Just my opinion, though.
Dear Aunt Jessi,
I hope your doing well and just wanted to have a quick update with you. So far I am at day 13 and no symptoms, fever, swollen lymph nodes. Or flu symptoms. Which it should be a good sign right ?
How long should i wait in case I get a primary outbreak ? Also if their was not so much rubbing of the genital areas doing, which means not having to much contact, is good right ?
For example if I take a six week test negative , no symptoms , I should leave it like that ?
Final question, in the lab where I was planning to test they offer a HPV PCR in urine test for men , do you think it’s a valid test ?
Sorry for bothering you , and thank you!
I hope your doing well and just wanted to have a quick update with you. So far I am at day 13 and no symptoms, fever, swollen lymph nodes. Or flu symptoms. Which it should be a good sign right ?
How long should i wait in case I get a primary outbreak ? Also if their was not so much rubbing of the genital areas doing, which means not having to much contact, is good right ?
For example if I take a six week test negative , no symptoms , I should leave it like that ?
Final question, in the lab where I was planning to test they offer a HPV PCR in urine test for men , do you think it’s a valid test ?
Sorry for bothering you , and thank you!
If you were going to get a primary outbreak, which means you don't have either hsv1 or hsv2, you'd probably already have symptoms by now. That happens between 2-12 days.
I understand that you went outside your marriage and are basically just freaking out. Remember that guilt does not equal risk. You used a condom. Your risk is near zero. I don't think you need to test at 6 weeks. There are false positives on the hsv2 IgG, and unraveling that is a nightmare. It takes weeks, if not months, a lot of money, and if you aren't in the US, it can be next to impossible to get the confirmation test you need.
The HPV PCR urine test is an okay test. It misses some infections. Again, though, your chances of getting HPV from this are really low.
I think you should get some counseling. Your reaction to this is out of proportion to level of risk, and you need some way to cope. I don't know why you went outside your marriage, and if you and your spouse consider that cheating or not, but clearly, it's weighing on you, and why not start to deal with that now?
I understand that you went outside your marriage and are basically just freaking out. Remember that guilt does not equal risk. You used a condom. Your risk is near zero. I don't think you need to test at 6 weeks. There are false positives on the hsv2 IgG, and unraveling that is a nightmare. It takes weeks, if not months, a lot of money, and if you aren't in the US, it can be next to impossible to get the confirmation test you need.
The HPV PCR urine test is an okay test. It misses some infections. Again, though, your chances of getting HPV from this are really low.
I think you should get some counseling. Your reaction to this is out of proportion to level of risk, and you need some way to cope. I don't know why you went outside your marriage, and if you and your spouse consider that cheating or not, but clearly, it's weighing on you, and why not start to deal with that now?
Dear Aunt Jessi,
After reading your comment I will take a step back. Regarding the stepping out it’s the guilt and mainly that it was a decision lead by the situation and alcohol. I do think you are right and will drop it for a bit. Will still test because of the safety of my partner. But only after 3 months since I am before my wise I have always been negative and she has never had any symptoms of either or. Either way I will update you later and thank you so much. I will seek help more on the therapy way.
Kind regards and have a great one !
After reading your comment I will take a step back. Regarding the stepping out it’s the guilt and mainly that it was a decision lead by the situation and alcohol. I do think you are right and will drop it for a bit. Will still test because of the safety of my partner. But only after 3 months since I am before my wise I have always been negative and she has never had any symptoms of either or. Either way I will update you later and thank you so much. I will seek help more on the therapy way.
Kind regards and have a great one !
If alcohol is an issue, bring that up in therapy, too. It may or may not be - I don't know you. If it's a coping tool for you, that's something to address as well.
In any case, best of luck, and keep me updated. :)
In any case, best of luck, and keep me updated. :)
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