It’s just the thought of having it for life, and the stigma on it, it’s really scary for me. Also correction, 3 people went in unprotected and 1 of them were virgins so I’d only have to worry about those 2. And mind you every person she had sex with before me is under 18.
Also one more problem that I forgot to mention, we weren’t really in a house it was the movies and we almost got caught so I pulled my underwear up with the condom still on my penis. And walked with it for like another 3-5 minutes, I was trying to find a bathroom and most of them were crowded so I guess I was doing a lot of walking. I was still erect; not fully so does that mean while I was walking was there friction?? Also when I get to the bathroom I took the condom off and put my underwear back up and then when I get home which was 25 min later I took a shower. So would me walking around without the condom in my penis in a “potentially” infected area from the condom still be a risk?? Also my pubic area isn’t shaved or trimmed so does that prevent it even more?
All we did was have vaginal intercourses, we didn’t kiss and there was no oral performed on both our ends so there wasn’t any other risk.
And thank you very much for offering help, all that would help is your thorough and honest thoughts and opinions on this situation, it would help a lot.
So if I'm understanding you correctly - the condom was resting on your pubic hair area after sex?
If that's correct, that's no risk for a couple of reasons. First, the skin there is too thick for the virus to penetrate. Second, it requires direct skin to skin contact to transmit - it won't transmit from a condom to skin, and it needs friction to do it, so the condom just resting there won't transmit it.
Otherwise, your chances of getting herpes from a one-time protected encounter are very, very low. I wouldn't worry about it at all.
Certainly, there are people your age who have genital herpes. Some have hsv2, but it's becoming more common that people in your age group are getting genital hsv1, from people who have oral hsv1 performing oral sex on someone who doesn't have it.
I don't say this to panic you, but just to inform you.
What's the big fear of herpes? Anything I can help with?