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Transmission rates?
I had unprotected vaginal intercourse with someone for 1-2 minutes (pulled out, decided no condom was a bad idea). I found out later that she was positive for HSV2 and didn't think to tell me because she didn't know you could transmit it if you didn't have symptoms.
What are the chances from this single exposure of me contracting the virus being that she didn't have symptoms at the time of the exposure?
What are the chances from this single exposure of me contracting the virus being that she didn't have symptoms at the time of the exposure?
I found your story, had sex with a prostitue twice with condom.
It's bleedin' obviouse to me what the problem is...You feel guilty because you cheated on your fiancee and now you've directed your guilt into imagined anxiety. Herpes.
Tell your fiancee, your anxiety will disappear.
The guilt sounds like it will kill you before herpes will.
Wish I could practice what I've preached though...It's sometimes easier looking in from the outside
It's bleedin' obviouse to me what the problem is...You feel guilty because you cheated on your fiancee and now you've directed your guilt into imagined anxiety. Herpes.
Tell your fiancee, your anxiety will disappear.
The guilt sounds like it will kill you before herpes will.
Wish I could practice what I've preached though...It's sometimes easier looking in from the outside
If herpes caused weight loss then I'd weigh about 15 freakin pounds.
Herpes is not associated with weight loss. Sure the first ob you might drop a pound or two because of less eating/drinking due to pain but the virus itself doesn't cause weight loss.
grace
Herpes is not associated with weight loss. Sure the first ob you might drop a pound or two because of less eating/drinking due to pain but the virus itself doesn't cause weight loss.
grace
COMMUNITY LEADER
Nope, it doesn't affect your metabolism at all. Stress can, though.
If you think there is another reason besides stress, you should follow up with your provider.
And I sure wish herpes made me skinny. :P
AJ
If you think there is another reason besides stress, you should follow up with your provider.
And I sure wish herpes made me skinny. :P
AJ
Lol, yea I used to wish for weight loss myself....
But it's a little different when it's "unexplained" weight loss - that's scary.
I was just wondering if the body burns extra calories trying to fight the virus.
But it's a little different when it's "unexplained" weight loss - that's scary.
I was just wondering if the body burns extra calories trying to fight the virus.
COMMUNITY LEADER
I can't answer for Grace, but I can say that in my 13 years of working in this field, I haven't ever seen anyone lose weight because of herpes unless they were super stressed about it.
Herpes itself doesn't cause weight loss (but I'm sure some wish it did.) Stress can cause weight loss.
AJ
Herpes itself doesn't cause weight loss (but I'm sure some wish it did.) Stress can cause weight loss.
AJ
Grace, In your years as a medical service professional, have you really never seen anyone suffer any type of weight loss as a result of contracting HSV2?
Well you know the men always think it's easier for the ladies and vice versa. dating in general sucks no matter what your gender. Part of the reason why waring and I come at it all differently than some posters is we've both had hsv2 for 20+ years. Most of our sexual life has been with genital herpes - we know it's not the big deal many folks assume it has to be. Been there, done that and if it's affected our sex lives - we sure haven't noticed it. Nothing to do with our gender - has to do more with us as a whole - someone who is self assured, smart and funny is a heck of a lot more attractive to others than someone who plays the oh woe is me card or locks themselves away afraid to take chances in life. I don't know about waring but I know for myself - I usually send the menfolk running off long before I ever get around to bringing up the topic of my herpes!
How did you get hsv1 before the age of 8? When we are young our immune systems are not fully mature so it's a heck of a lot easier for us to pick up everything - including hsv1 orally. About 1/3 of us in the US contract hsv1 orally before we start kindergarten. We get it from our parents and our caregivers - not thru sexual means mind you but from ways that as an adult we are more immune to . Same with genital herpes - sure you can get it from a one time encounter - I'm proof enough of that myself- but you are more likely to get it from multiple encounters with someone who has it. All my long term partners haven't contracted hsv2 - thankfully haven't transmitted it since the first year I was infected. Herpes really isn't THAT contagious - especially for males. Even if someone isn't on suppressive therapy - if it's after the first year or so of infection - they are not actively shedding the virus about 311 days out of the year on average!! That's a heck of a lot of risk free days you can be having sex with someone :)
grace
How did you get hsv1 before the age of 8? When we are young our immune systems are not fully mature so it's a heck of a lot easier for us to pick up everything - including hsv1 orally. About 1/3 of us in the US contract hsv1 orally before we start kindergarten. We get it from our parents and our caregivers - not thru sexual means mind you but from ways that as an adult we are more immune to . Same with genital herpes - sure you can get it from a one time encounter - I'm proof enough of that myself- but you are more likely to get it from multiple encounters with someone who has it. All my long term partners haven't contracted hsv2 - thankfully haven't transmitted it since the first year I was infected. Herpes really isn't THAT contagious - especially for males. Even if someone isn't on suppressive therapy - if it's after the first year or so of infection - they are not actively shedding the virus about 311 days out of the year on average!! That's a heck of a lot of risk free days you can be having sex with someone :)
grace
Ok I am going to have to rewrite my bloody post because it was lost!
To 2worried 2578, I think your comments to Jason were very rational, not you, you could be one of these people who 'I got given oral sex with a condom and now I have AIDS people' because, well...i could not find your story.
Jason and me are in different boots, I like your comments because they were rational.
I could have it so could Jason but you...are you sure about getting married?
You need to tell your story because well I think everyone gets weird feelings throughout there body all the time. Sounds like your more nervous about marrying someone and may have some cold feet type feelings, it's pretty common for people to brush certain problems under the carpet but to come out through imagined anxieties!
anyway
I don't get it it, this whole Herpes thing, so how did I get oral herpes before the age of 8 if its harder to catch than genital, I wasn't exactly having hard core pashes at the nursery!
Now I'm negative post 6 months after having hard sex, and some inside contact with a proven female HSV2 carrier and I get negative IGG results? well I've read the stats and I've still got a just under 18% chance of still having it, 1 in 5 odds!
Waringblender and Grace come from a different perspective, HSV2+ an female. Women find it easier to get men. End of story. I find it hard to get girls ,, let alone with an STD, it would be over for me.
It's much more serious for blokes!
To 2worried 2578, I think your comments to Jason were very rational, not you, you could be one of these people who 'I got given oral sex with a condom and now I have AIDS people' because, well...i could not find your story.
Jason and me are in different boots, I like your comments because they were rational.
I could have it so could Jason but you...are you sure about getting married?
You need to tell your story because well I think everyone gets weird feelings throughout there body all the time. Sounds like your more nervous about marrying someone and may have some cold feet type feelings, it's pretty common for people to brush certain problems under the carpet but to come out through imagined anxieties!
anyway
I don't get it it, this whole Herpes thing, so how did I get oral herpes before the age of 8 if its harder to catch than genital, I wasn't exactly having hard core pashes at the nursery!
Now I'm negative post 6 months after having hard sex, and some inside contact with a proven female HSV2 carrier and I get negative IGG results? well I've read the stats and I've still got a just under 18% chance of still having it, 1 in 5 odds!
Waringblender and Grace come from a different perspective, HSV2+ an female. Women find it easier to get men. End of story. I find it hard to get girls ,, let alone with an STD, it would be over for me.
It's much more serious for blokes!
enough of the nit picking at other posters or it'll be time to shut down the thread ok?? Remember we are here for support and education - not bickering.
Thank you :)
grace
Thank you :)
grace
I guess we're gonna make this thread the longest in the forum eventually....
Thanks for thinking I'm rational Breeder. However, right now i'd rather not be correct about my thoughts - cuz if they are right, I have herpes.
I wish that I am indeed being irrational (like waringblender says) about the symptoms i am having, or overly-anxious rather. I should get my results in the next day or two, and I am more scared than ever.
I also just found out that children born to mothers (like my future wife) who have HSV2 are at a higher risk of developing schizophrenia, something which already runs in my family. These are the results of a study.
On top of that, my mother came down with Bell's Palsy last night, WHICH I UNDERSTAND, can also be caused by HSV1?
What's goign on with this virus???
Anyway, Breeder, lay off my friend Waringblender.
Thanks for thinking I'm rational Breeder. However, right now i'd rather not be correct about my thoughts - cuz if they are right, I have herpes.
I wish that I am indeed being irrational (like waringblender says) about the symptoms i am having, or overly-anxious rather. I should get my results in the next day or two, and I am more scared than ever.
I also just found out that children born to mothers (like my future wife) who have HSV2 are at a higher risk of developing schizophrenia, something which already runs in my family. These are the results of a study.
On top of that, my mother came down with Bell's Palsy last night, WHICH I UNDERSTAND, can also be caused by HSV1?
What's goign on with this virus???
Anyway, Breeder, lay off my friend Waringblender.
This should ease some minds, though I am one to tell people to err on the side of caution...please! I got herpes from my bisexual (scum sucking bast***) ex-husband. I didn't know I had herpes till eight years later, after I had been married to my wonderful husband I have now for six years! I thought I was having a lot of repeats of the horrible yeast infections I have gotten since I started having periods.
My husband never once showed signs of infection. The occasion that sent me to the Dr. was the worst outbreak I had ever had...got in my eyes too. I had spent two weeks at a sort of boot camp for Navy Reserve, and had gotten stressed out of my ever lovin gourd, and that was what triggered that outbreak. Friends, I was one sick cookie.
Anyway, THAT was when I learned I had herpes. My husband went in to be checked, and he did not have herpes. It's true that I never wanted to have sex during those wretched "yeast infections", but that my husband never got infected is a concept worth pondering.
People shouldn't go crazy just because they have had sex. Be cautious, yeah. Wear a condom, absolutely! Be a little smart about partners. There is too much fear in the world. Carpe Diem everybody.
My husband never once showed signs of infection. The occasion that sent me to the Dr. was the worst outbreak I had ever had...got in my eyes too. I had spent two weeks at a sort of boot camp for Navy Reserve, and had gotten stressed out of my ever lovin gourd, and that was what triggered that outbreak. Friends, I was one sick cookie.
Anyway, THAT was when I learned I had herpes. My husband went in to be checked, and he did not have herpes. It's true that I never wanted to have sex during those wretched "yeast infections", but that my husband never got infected is a concept worth pondering.
People shouldn't go crazy just because they have had sex. Be cautious, yeah. Wear a condom, absolutely! Be a little smart about partners. There is too much fear in the world. Carpe Diem everybody.
most folks don't have food triggers. The herpes diet never panned out outside of the test tube. No need to limit what you eat food groupwise because of herpes.
Back pain all the time that gets worse with herpes flare ups needs to be further investigated. You need a full work up by a neurologist or orthopedic specialist for that.
grace
Back pain all the time that gets worse with herpes flare ups needs to be further investigated. You need a full work up by a neurologist or orthopedic specialist for that.
grace
I would be more inclined to put your weight loss down to anxiety,it's just the whole way HSV seems to affect most of us in the beginning,I am a year down the line with my diagnosis but if I think back I'm sure I lost weight back then through thinking of nothing else and not feeling like eating,it has the ability to consume your every waking minute,it can be a lot to do with fear of the unknown and anxiety than anything to do with the Infection.
I'm unsure of how the blood testing works time wise as my test was a culture from the lesion which is almost always conclusive!
Until you get your test results try not to associate everything you feel as being Herpes,I know how difficult it is to do that but please try to relax.backache can be caused by many things.
Hope this helps a little
Daisy
I'm unsure of how the blood testing works time wise as my test was a culture from the lesion which is almost always conclusive!
Until you get your test results try not to associate everything you feel as being Herpes,I know how difficult it is to do that but please try to relax.backache can be caused by many things.
Hope this helps a little
Daisy
Weight loss is related to taking in fewer calories than you burn. Really, it's that simple. If you are stressed about your possible condition, that may be why - because you are eating less.
Just wondering Daisy, I'm waiting on my HSV results and lost about 10 pounds recently.
I also have had lower back pain, on the left side only, for the past 6 months.
Is it like a tingling, sometimes burning sensation? It got worse 2 weeks ago and was hurting real bad for 2 days or so, I thought I was about to have an outbreak, but I didn't.
Does this describe herpes? (my first tests were negative, but it was only at 7 weeks, i recently did a 6 month test).
I also have had lower back pain, on the left side only, for the past 6 months.
Is it like a tingling, sometimes burning sensation? It got worse 2 weeks ago and was hurting real bad for 2 days or so, I thought I was about to have an outbreak, but I didn't.
Does this describe herpes? (my first tests were negative, but it was only at 7 weeks, i recently did a 6 month test).
No I haven't lost weight at all my weight is the same as it's always been if anything I may have put few pounds on...not much though!
why do you ask this ???
Daisy
why do you ask this ???
Daisy
Thank you both for your responses ..... My rash is in the Lumbar to theleft of my "tailbone" really it's very small in size and never varies in size nor does it ever appear anywhere else I would say the lower back pain I have there is much worse than any outbreak I've had it's there mostly all the time even when I have no outbreak.
However I will take the precautions as do those with genital lesions .... I just a minute ago came across a Site that actually mentioned the lower back issue, but it just said Sacral Herpes was considered a "form" of Genital Herpes but nothing more than that ...... I also recently read that Chocolate can trigger outbreaks oh my goodness just when I thought it was safe to curl up on the sofa with my "permanent friend" and do a bit of comfort eating another Herpy bombshell drops!!! eeeekkk!! now thats just plain nasty to deprive us of our Chocolate time too!!
Good thing it hasn't reached my sense of humour yet !!
Daisy
However I will take the precautions as do those with genital lesions .... I just a minute ago came across a Site that actually mentioned the lower back issue, but it just said Sacral Herpes was considered a "form" of Genital Herpes but nothing more than that ...... I also recently read that Chocolate can trigger outbreaks oh my goodness just when I thought it was safe to curl up on the sofa with my "permanent friend" and do a bit of comfort eating another Herpy bombshell drops!!! eeeekkk!! now thats just plain nasty to deprive us of our Chocolate time too!!
Good thing it hasn't reached my sense of humour yet !!
Daisy
It's hard to tell if your infection is just in the lumbar area or if it's actually in the preferred sacral area or both even. where on the back was the rash - below where the waistband on a normal pair of pants would sit ( not low waist pants ) or above that?
No matter which is the case - you still have genital herpes. You are still shedding the virus from the anogenital area from time to time in between obvious lesions on the lower back and when you have lesions on your lower back. You should be taking the same precautions with a partner that someone who only gets lesions on the actual genital area should be taking.
Sorry your regular provider confused you so much about it all - what a shame. He was doing you a disservice if he wouldn't have cultured it and gotten you answers out of fear of upsetting you :(
grace
No matter which is the case - you still have genital herpes. You are still shedding the virus from the anogenital area from time to time in between obvious lesions on the lower back and when you have lesions on your lower back. You should be taking the same precautions with a partner that someone who only gets lesions on the actual genital area should be taking.
Sorry your regular provider confused you so much about it all - what a shame. He was doing you a disservice if he wouldn't have cultured it and gotten you answers out of fear of upsetting you :(
grace
I believe they classify HSV into basically two types:
below the waiste : Genital
above the waiste: Oral? I think this is what my Dr. told me.
It doesn't matter if you don't get it on your Genitals, I guess they still refer to it as genital herpes.
below the waiste : Genital
above the waiste: Oral? I think this is what my Dr. told me.
It doesn't matter if you don't get it on your Genitals, I guess they still refer to it as genital herpes.
This is my story and just some of the conflicting advice I've had over the past year.
It all started with a small rash on my lower back I went to the nurse at work to show her it she sent a culture away and it came back HSV2 Positive.
Here is just some of the very confusing information I have had since my journey started I couldn't possibly tell them all on here,suffice to say I still don't know what to believe.
NUMBER ONE : I had many many talks with my Health Care Advisor who told me not to worry anything about it since the rash was on my back and never my Genitals I was almost zero risk of transmitting it if at all even during an outbreak so long as the rash was covered there was no risk as it is only spread through skin to skin contact with active lesions ( sex protected or otherwise was NOT mentioned )
NUMBER TWO : My own Doctor told me he personally would NOT have cultured the rash on my back because it was not in my Gentitals and therefore not worth the anxiety and mental grief the very words HSV2 Positive would give me he said he would have simply made me aware of how infectious the rash would be during an outbreak and to take extra care that it did not come in contact with anyone ( sex protected or otherwise was NOT mentioned )
NUMBER THREE : Response to a question I posted asking if only ever having the rash on my back meant I was Genitally infected also .... the answer was YES !!
In the past year since being diagnosed I have searched and searched for somewhere to tell me about HSV2 which is outwith it's preferred site and have found virtually NOTHING about that at all .... it's always about what to do during Oral or Gential outbreaks .... what about those of us who NEVER get an outbreak where it's allegedly supposed to be,there is literally no guidance or advice on this whatsoever ..... the word "generally" and "usually" are used a lot ..... what about those who don't fall into the "general" or "usual" pattern of things?? do we not count where solid advice is concerned ????
Lesions etc in Genitals i can understand but I remain totally confused as to how someone who has never had a single Genital problem can possibly be classed as having Genital Herpes !!!
I am not an unintelligent person but this totally has me beat!!
Daisy
It all started with a small rash on my lower back I went to the nurse at work to show her it she sent a culture away and it came back HSV2 Positive.
Here is just some of the very confusing information I have had since my journey started I couldn't possibly tell them all on here,suffice to say I still don't know what to believe.
NUMBER ONE : I had many many talks with my Health Care Advisor who told me not to worry anything about it since the rash was on my back and never my Genitals I was almost zero risk of transmitting it if at all even during an outbreak so long as the rash was covered there was no risk as it is only spread through skin to skin contact with active lesions ( sex protected or otherwise was NOT mentioned )
NUMBER TWO : My own Doctor told me he personally would NOT have cultured the rash on my back because it was not in my Gentitals and therefore not worth the anxiety and mental grief the very words HSV2 Positive would give me he said he would have simply made me aware of how infectious the rash would be during an outbreak and to take extra care that it did not come in contact with anyone ( sex protected or otherwise was NOT mentioned )
NUMBER THREE : Response to a question I posted asking if only ever having the rash on my back meant I was Genitally infected also .... the answer was YES !!
In the past year since being diagnosed I have searched and searched for somewhere to tell me about HSV2 which is outwith it's preferred site and have found virtually NOTHING about that at all .... it's always about what to do during Oral or Gential outbreaks .... what about those of us who NEVER get an outbreak where it's allegedly supposed to be,there is literally no guidance or advice on this whatsoever ..... the word "generally" and "usually" are used a lot ..... what about those who don't fall into the "general" or "usual" pattern of things?? do we not count where solid advice is concerned ????
Lesions etc in Genitals i can understand but I remain totally confused as to how someone who has never had a single Genital problem can possibly be classed as having Genital Herpes !!!
I am not an unintelligent person but this totally has me beat!!
Daisy
THIS IS ALL MY FAULT.
I apologize. Didn't mean for it to go into Valtrex conspiracies and Greek accusations, lol.
I feel like I've made Jason into a sacrificial lamb for agreeing with me.
Bottom line, i'm gonna get my results on Friday, then I'm outta here.
(This has got to be the longest thread ever! We broke the record u Guys!)
I apologize. Didn't mean for it to go into Valtrex conspiracies and Greek accusations, lol.
I feel like I've made Jason into a sacrificial lamb for agreeing with me.
Bottom line, i'm gonna get my results on Friday, then I'm outta here.
(This has got to be the longest thread ever! We broke the record u Guys!)
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