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I see that Grace is the person that a lot of peple ask there questions too- so Grace I have had a situation for about 3 years after receiving oral sex from another male whom I did not know- it was an anonomous encounter... I have sever pain at the tip of my penis and severe reness and irritation that comes and goes- also tingling sensation- pincing sensation- it gets real itchy as well- I was in the past diagnosed as having Trich which I was treated for- also diagnosed with Prostatitis- hard to urinate- dribbling after urination- pain upon ejaculation...also tested for HSV 1 and 2 hsv 1 positive (had oral blisters when younger) however HSV 2 is negative- I am freaking out that the redness/ tingling is Herpes- my Dr insista that it is not after being tested for it 3 times... I have been on every antibiotic known to man and NOTHING helps the redness/ pain/stinging sensation- it will be there for 3/4 days then go away- then come back for another 4/5 days then go away and so on..this patter repeats over and over for the past 2.5 years...why am I so worried this is Herpes...was also on Valtrex for 1 month to no avail... I am going absolutely crazy with fear... what are the chances that this is Herpes ? Never any visible blisters at all however at times the slit of my penis gets a chapped looking appearance- like when your lips get chapped- I get these TINY little dimple impression looking things every now and then just inside the slit...I examine my penis every day and can not obsessing about it.. there is no pain upon urination..the redness and stinging get real bad after ejaculation...is it possible that I have herpes in the urethra ?? Can Herpes affect the Prostate- as my Dr's tell me this is the source of my problem...aside from the Trich I have had no infection according to urine tests..been tested for Syphilis/Gon/NGU etc..all negative...This has put me into a major depression- it has effected my sex life as ejaculation causes me severe pain and anxiety... Do I need to get past the Herpes obsession or is Herpes a posibility ??? ANY ADVICE WOULD GREATLY BE APPRECIATED... again the redness/ itch/ stinging has been there for almost 3 years and no one can tel me what it is- not even the Dermatologist...PLEASE HELP...
Depression, anxiety, chronic pain states, neuropathy --- all emanating from the same neuronal pathways in the brain. That's why they work.
But gottabelieve doesn't want anything to work - he wants to stay in a dysfunctional state because there is a psychological payback for him. On this website (and who knows how many others), he gets attention. That's a payback. In his real life, maybe there are other paybacks, like attention from other people, not having to go to work, not having relationships - there are many reasons why people want to stay in a dysfunctional state. Perhaps examining his penis off and on all day is some sort of OCD behavior. Those behaviors are soothing to some extent. They deflect your thought processes away from the actual problem; that's why people do them. Questioning over and over again the reasons why you have something and saying that "nobody has answers" keeps people stuck. People stay stuck for a reason - again, there's a payback there.
But gottabelieve doesn't want anything to work - he wants to stay in a dysfunctional state because there is a psychological payback for him. On this website (and who knows how many others), he gets attention. That's a payback. In his real life, maybe there are other paybacks, like attention from other people, not having to go to work, not having relationships - there are many reasons why people want to stay in a dysfunctional state. Perhaps examining his penis off and on all day is some sort of OCD behavior. Those behaviors are soothing to some extent. They deflect your thought processes away from the actual problem; that's why people do them. Questioning over and over again the reasons why you have something and saying that "nobody has answers" keeps people stuck. People stay stuck for a reason - again, there's a payback there.
ill check it out. just seems hard to believe thats all....i thought it was just for things like depression...
Well...its true. Look up Cymbalta on wikipedia.com You will see that it is used for depression, anxiety and neuropathy.
I'm aware of that. It's why you people with chronic pain need SNRIs and not SSRIs. It has to activate the epinephrine pathways in the brain to be effective on neuropathy.
My symptoms are a bit different from the OP. However, there is some pretty intense and frequent pain associated with my situation. This goes beyond "Oh I think I have an itch", it really hurts and is quite a distraction.
There is also a good amount of anxiety associated with chronic pain. Try concentrating at work when your pants are on fire all day for 4 months.
The Cymbalta has worked for the physical symptoms. If it helps out with the "oh my gosh what is wrong me" anxiety that is fine too.
There is also a good amount of anxiety associated with chronic pain. Try concentrating at work when your pants are on fire all day for 4 months.
The Cymbalta has worked for the physical symptoms. If it helps out with the "oh my gosh what is wrong me" anxiety that is fine too.
Good call on the Cymbalta. Since it's used for major depressive disorder or anxiety, it makes sense that it got rid of your functional symptoms.
I have had pain for 4-5 months and consistently negative herpes tests.
I do not have any thoughts about the redness/irritation. However, a neurologist prescribed cymbalta for my pain/stinging/burning. That worked.
I do not have any thoughts about the redness/irritation. However, a neurologist prescribed cymbalta for my pain/stinging/burning. That worked.
I understand the psychological aspect to a certain extent. There were times where I moved on and stopped thinking about it and all of a sudden a got some other kind of "symptom" or something happening that was not happening before so I think the mental aspect plays a part but can go only so far. Does anyone know of people who tested at 4 months negative and was positive say at 6 months? Does the antibodies "ramp" up after a period of time. My urologist thinks they would have done so. He told me i was wasting my time getting another test or a WB at this point? Just wondering if anyone has had similar problems?
You may never be able to have it "explained." Sorry. That's the way it goes. As I said, tons of people have undiagnosed pains and aches and symptoms, and yet they live with that and accept that there is no explanation (besides the functional).
Where you rolled off the rails is in the continuous search for an explanation! Until you decide to get help for the psychological/anxiety portion of your disorder, you won't have any peace.
I absolutely think it would suck to be you. You have set up a psychological/physical tension that must be enormously difficult to live with. The way you have tried to release the tension is by an ongoing and continuous search for "answers." The way to release the tension you have built up between the psychological duress and the genital symptoms is to accept that there will be no answers.
So, yeah, I sure as sh*t don't envy you.
Where you rolled off the rails is in the continuous search for an explanation! Until you decide to get help for the psychological/anxiety portion of your disorder, you won't have any peace.
I absolutely think it would suck to be you. You have set up a psychological/physical tension that must be enormously difficult to live with. The way you have tried to release the tension is by an ongoing and continuous search for "answers." The way to release the tension you have built up between the psychological duress and the genital symptoms is to accept that there will be no answers.
So, yeah, I sure as sh*t don't envy you.
I totally agree with you about the whole Psychological issue, but it is a fact that the symptoms listed are there which were never there before- how does one explain the stinging/ pain and irritation if it is all psychological..seriously..and no it does not suck to be me..I assure you.
BTW, comments like "I find this answer hard to accept" speak volumes about your psychological state. Meaning you are not letting it go. That's psychological, sad to say. You can argue until the cows come home that it's your "redness and rash" or whatever the hell your symptoms are that are the main source of your problem, but probably of greater import is the psychological drama you have attached to your genital symptoms.
Stop holding on so tightly to genital symptoms that are clearly rooted in a psychological origin. That's why therapists exist - to help people like you work out their psychological symptoms in relation to physical problems. Which is what you have - in spades. Good luck to you. Must be a drag to be you.
Stop holding on so tightly to genital symptoms that are clearly rooted in a psychological origin. That's why therapists exist - to help people like you work out their psychological symptoms in relation to physical problems. Which is what you have - in spades. Good luck to you. Must be a drag to be you.
Start thinking psychological problem. If doctor after doctor can't "figure out" what's wrong with you, it's time to fall back on a functional reason for your "symptoms." Sorry, but you won't be the the newest write-up at the next urology convention for being the 1 in a million new disorder out there. Not going to happen.
You have functional written all over you, just based on your posts here. You might want to look into antidepressants. One of the most productive things you can do for yourself is simply move on. Get over examining yourself every day - it's not helping. Get over wallowing about your symptoms - it's not helping. Start putting the focus outside your pants instead of inside them. Many many people have "unexplainable" symptoms that the medical profession can't "figure out." They either get help for their underlying chronic pain state/depression for their symptoms, or they continue to doctor shop looking for answers that they have no hope of getting, or they simply forget about their symptoms and start living their life.
Your choice.
You have functional written all over you, just based on your posts here. You might want to look into antidepressants. One of the most productive things you can do for yourself is simply move on. Get over examining yourself every day - it's not helping. Get over wallowing about your symptoms - it's not helping. Start putting the focus outside your pants instead of inside them. Many many people have "unexplainable" symptoms that the medical profession can't "figure out." They either get help for their underlying chronic pain state/depression for their symptoms, or they continue to doctor shop looking for answers that they have no hope of getting, or they simply forget about their symptoms and start living their life.
Your choice.
Yea it's real frustrating- I have a multitude of symptoms that are related to prostatitis/ bladder spasms- I personally think it's due to my encounter and getting Trich that went undiagnosed for about 1 1/2 years- I think it caused some permanent damage, but again the inflamation/redness/ itchiness/pinching feeling at the tip etc are nothing to do with Prostatitis which makes me believe it's HSV-1 genitally but the Dr's tell me it isn't...I do not get blisters or sores ever- just constant redness/irritation that varies in severity through out the day- and is there every day... it's just frustrating that no one can tell me what it is- they just say "that's just the way it is"- well it was never like this before so I find it hard to accept that answer... thanks for your reply.. good luck
i have the same stuff......i have been tested multiple times also......i also get the burning and chapped skin and little red bites at the tip of the penis.....last test was done at 17 weeks. I dont know what is either. Right now I just deal with it. It sucks. Scared to death also seems to be in the same situation. You have been tested at over 2 years so i don think that is what it is. I was debating whether to take a test at 6 months. I also had blisters/bumps at 8 weeks.....they disappeared after 2 days. I dont know what to tell you
You examine your penis every day? Sounds like it's become a hobby.
What you have at this point is an anxiety disorder. They have medication for that. Ask your doctor about it. You're off the deep end.
What you have at this point is an anxiety disorder. They have medication for that. Ask your doctor about it. You're off the deep end.
dude I do not know as much as everyone in these forums BUT if you tested negative after 2.5 YEARS i think your results are negative. IF you got any questions a W. Bolt from the U of W. will give you a DEFINITE answer.
Hope this helps.
This is what i've read from many posts from the doctors and people in this forum.
Hope this helps.
This is what i've read from many posts from the doctors and people in this forum.
Thanks for the reply..I am freaking out..I don't know why I am obsessing about Herpes, a friend said that you can get oral HErpes on the genitals and that's all I focusing on..especially since no one can give me an answer and NO antibiotics have helped this situation... and it does't help at all that all this happened right after my encounter..anyway, again thaks for the reply..has the meds you were given helped at all?
You are not alone...search on medhelp for burning/pain/penis. You will find many posts from people with similar symptoms. Most do not have herpes (after repeated tests). Many have gone through testing at urologists and neurologists without finding an answer. My neurologist put me on Cymbalta to treat my symptoms. It works for pain, etc. However the cause was never determined. Good luck.
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