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What should I do?

I've been married for 13 years and haven't been with anyone other than my wife in 15 1/2 years. About four years ago I came down with a staff infection on my leg...fought staff infections for a year. During this time I developed 3/4 blisters (very small...not painfull) on the the head of my penis. I was concerned but thought since I hadn't been with anyone else and I'm sure my wife hasn't that they were from the staff infection of the medicine I was taking or just poison ivy.  I didn't know a thing about herpes.

This past week (four years later) I developed those same four blisters (I believe).  I felt achy, my stomach hurt, my legs hurt, my but hurt.  Looked these symptoms up on the net and BINGO..sounds like Herpes!!!!  I was very premiscous before I was married (was with way too many women).  

What should I do? I've been having protected sex (besides when we wanted children) for 13 years.  Should I tell her? If yes...what good would that do except make her worry? I'd surely imagine she has it by now and just isn't showing any symptoms.

I'm so scared that I will lose her and my children as she won't believe that I had never slept with anyone other than her and I'm scared that she will get it and suffer for my early in life transgressions.
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Get the doctor to run a herpes igg blood test.  Your Staph infection maybe to blame but its best to get a test to find out.

If you get the symptoms again be seen within 24-48 hrs for a lesision culture and typing.  

Condoms do not remove the risk of herpes.  Condoms reduce risk by 30%.  
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FIRST you need to have a MEDICAL doctor diagnose it as herpes. Please do not go by what you read on the internet exclusively. Many things resemble others...esp in the dermatology realm. Once you know 100% then you move forward from there. If you want to be a great husband, then keep using protection til you know something for certain and take it from there.
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