completely confused

[Lydia_97]

Hi,
   I'm a female 21yrs old. I got super drunk one night and made bad decisions and ended up having unprotected sex with a guy. I got tested for herpes last November and got a positive result of 1.35. I've never had an outbreak before or any symptoms. I just went in to get my routine testing and asked for everything. I've had no symptoms or anything and I know sometimes the virus can just lay dormant in the body. Before this recent guy I've had sex with another guy in April without a condom and he hasn't said anything to me about becoming infected. Is that a sign that maybe I don't have it? Since I've never had a breakout and apparently he hasn't either I was just thinking maybe it could be because I don't have it? I experience itching sometimes so I'm not sure if thats related or not. I've heard of asymptomatic shedding before. Does it happen all of the time? Can someone explain it to me? Am I constantly shedding? like if anyone ever grazes my inner thigh, butt, or vagina with their genitals even if I'm not having a breakout due to shedding are they at risk? Lastly is there a high chance that i've infected this recent guy? I know I'm asking a lot of questions I'm just really confused.

[feelingundone]

If he touches you then himself, no risk at all. The other situations are EXTREMELY low risk. It really takes intercourse to have any real world risk of spreading the virus. Loke i said earlier, I would be surprised if you actually have hsv2.

[feelingundone]

In my opinion. I highly doubt you acrually have hsv2. The hsv2 tests are very sensitive and can pick up odd protiens and your 1.35 is in the realm of being 75% a false positive. Retest again. If it comes back negative then you are all good. If it comes back with a very low positive then seek out the western blot test. We can cross that bridge when and if it gets here.

[Lydia_97]

okay cool! one last question can you explain to me how the virus is spread? I don't really disclose to people that I may or may not have it unless we're going to have actual sex because otherwise I don't see a point (unless I'm wrong). So exactly how intimate can I be with a person without serving a risk? Like if I'm giving him a handjob and he's fingering me and then he touches his genitals does it spread that way? If hes rubbing his genitals against my inner thigh with friction does hit highly spread? If his genitals touch mine but we do not actually have sex is that a super high risk? just wondering. Thanks!

[feelingundone]

Ik. Lets start with the basics. Genital hsv2 sheds on average of 15-20% of days, meaning 80% of days you are no risk to anyone. It does very from oerson to oerson but thats about average. Now, no one will contract hsv by brushing against you. The virus need much more than that to transfer. This is why the penis shaft, vagina and anus are the areas mostly infected. It's due to thin skin and high friction. The virus essentially gets massaged in.
As far as your hsv diagnosis by the bloodtest becoming positive. Anything less than a nuneric value of 3.5 is suspect for a false positive. Your number is very low and can definitely be a false positive. I see this a lot. Unfortunately most Dr's are clueless about hsv and it's testing.
I have a few questions. What test became positive igg or igm? How long after exposure did you test?

[Lydia_97]

Hi thank you so much for your reply and your patience! I really appreciate it. to answer your question I had an IgG test done. The results said 1.35 "HIGH" I only had sex with two guys in my lifetime before I got tested. I went home from school for thanksgiving break and about 5 days to a week after possible exposure I got tested (thats after the second guy I slept with) the first guy it would have been about 3 or so months after possible exposure. I know that symptoms can lay dormant but I just dont understand how I've no symptoms. The two guys I slept with have no symptoms and then the third guy I slept with hasn't said anything. There's no way it can be lying dormant in all of us....right? Also like I mentioned earlier the guy I was drunk with I honestly cannot remember if we had sex or not or if he was rubbing against my inner thighs or vagina or not and I'm just worried he's gonna sue me or something. I'm just scared and no one seems to be able to explain anything to me.

[Lydia_97]

also thank you for all your help. I really appreciate it.