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herpes and my ruined life.....
OK now get prepared this is a LONG ONE.. march 25th 2011 I was drugged and molested. I have a strong fear and phobia of herpes not, myhusband and i have been tested since igg/igm numerous times all negative.. I live in constant fear of catching hsv1 &2 Anyways- I am on anxiety meds and seeing a therapist..... This phobia has changed my life so much, that I wont even kiss my daughter, and my sex life with my husband has almost diminished.. questions:
#1- i receive bikini and eyebrow waxes from salons, reading on google I guess 2 women are claiming that one of them has caught genital herpes from a brazillian and another woman caught herpes of the eye from eyebrow waxing,. this is causing confusion since I was told by my doctor- herpes was only spead via direct skin to skin contact. Taking hour long breaks in between customers and using a stick would put it at no risk of transmission even with double dipping. So, is it possible to catch herpes hsv1 or hsv2 from waxing?
#2- touching a cart, pen, remote, ETC. after someone with a coldsore has touched it. Can I catch herpes from any of those? What about shaking hands? toilet seats? door knobs, someone sneezing or coughing near me?
#3- If a cook was to spit in my food and i consumed the food, could i catch it? Or if the person who ate off the fork before me at that resturant had a coldsore, could i get it?
#4-my doctor I think is just trying to ease my mind so I am looking for a second opinion. He explained to me hsv1 & 2 are only spread via direct skin to skin contact with an infected or shedding area, and that i am at no risk catching the virus living a daily life as long as I dont kiss an infected person or sleep with them. is this true? in that case if i only kiss my daughter and my husband and they only kiss me and each other, I am safe?
Please bare with me. If there is any way to speak on the phone too if you would rather I do that, I would be more than happy to. Thank you and have a merry christmas!
#1- i receive bikini and eyebrow waxes from salons, reading on google I guess 2 women are claiming that one of them has caught genital herpes from a brazillian and another woman caught herpes of the eye from eyebrow waxing,. this is causing confusion since I was told by my doctor- herpes was only spead via direct skin to skin contact. Taking hour long breaks in between customers and using a stick would put it at no risk of transmission even with double dipping. So, is it possible to catch herpes hsv1 or hsv2 from waxing?
#2- touching a cart, pen, remote, ETC. after someone with a coldsore has touched it. Can I catch herpes from any of those? What about shaking hands? toilet seats? door knobs, someone sneezing or coughing near me?
#3- If a cook was to spit in my food and i consumed the food, could i catch it? Or if the person who ate off the fork before me at that resturant had a coldsore, could i get it?
#4-my doctor I think is just trying to ease my mind so I am looking for a second opinion. He explained to me hsv1 & 2 are only spread via direct skin to skin contact with an infected or shedding area, and that i am at no risk catching the virus living a daily life as long as I dont kiss an infected person or sleep with them. is this true? in that case if i only kiss my daughter and my husband and they only kiss me and each other, I am safe?
Please bare with me. If there is any way to speak on the phone too if you would rather I do that, I would be more than happy to. Thank you and have a merry christmas!
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
1. The likelihood of transmission from a person who has HSV but isn't active and is a peck on the check or lip is close to zero. It takes a much different kind of kiss to transmit herpes in this situation.
2. I've never heard of transmitting ocular herpes in this way. I think it is a conceptual possibility but so is a bolder falling from the sky into your backyard.
3.See #1.
4. The most frequent shedder is the person with HSV 2 genitally.
Terri
2. I've never heard of transmitting ocular herpes in this way. I think it is a conceptual possibility but so is a bolder falling from the sky into your backyard.
3.See #1.
4. The most frequent shedder is the person with HSV 2 genitally.
Terri
Calm down :)
If you had herpes you would know by now, especially with the stress you are putting yourself through. The first outbreak is normally within two weeks of exposure. Herpes can stay dormant for years after that but there is a blood test you can get to check for it, the problem with the test is if you have had a cold sore you are more likely to come back positive for it. Your daughter will be fine getting kisses from you and grandpa as long as you do not have an outbreak. Trust me on this, you would rather your daughter get the love and affection than her feel as if she wasn't good enough for it later in life. Don't miss out on life because you are scared, life is too short.
If you had herpes you would know by now, especially with the stress you are putting yourself through. The first outbreak is normally within two weeks of exposure. Herpes can stay dormant for years after that but there is a blood test you can get to check for it, the problem with the test is if you have had a cold sore you are more likely to come back positive for it. Your daughter will be fine getting kisses from you and grandpa as long as you do not have an outbreak. Trust me on this, you would rather your daughter get the love and affection than her feel as if she wasn't good enough for it later in life. Don't miss out on life because you are scared, life is too short.
Thank you for your input it was greatly appreciated! This actually has helped me take a new major step, but I still have a few questions....
#1- what is the likely hood of someone who gets cold sores but does NOT have an active coldsore at that time, transmitting it to a non-infected person when they give them a peck on the cheek or mouth? Also- what about someone who has never ever had a coldsore?
#2-makeup--- growing up i was always told not to share makeup because you could get pink eye from sharing eye make up..... now i read you can spread herpes of the eye this way, is this true or is it ONLY if your using it IMMEDIATELY after the person who is infected?
#3- my grandfather loves to give my daughter little kisses goodbye, he hasnt had a coldsore in almost 10 years, and said he would never kiss her if he had an active outbreak, what are the risks involved with him giving her a kiss goodbye on a daily basis without an outbreak.
#4- which virus sheds more, cold sore herpes, or genital herpes?
thank you sooo much! i live in a tiny town and my therapist knows nothing about viruses/infections, etc. im currently on zoloft and another medication for severe panic attacks. But based off the information you gave me yessterday, my husband has already noticed a difference in my anxiety over it. Yesterday my aunt who does get coldsores, kissed my daughter on top of her head, normally I would went into panic mode and gave her a bath and instead i got a little upset but moved on since it was her hair she touched and not her actual skin....
#1- what is the likely hood of someone who gets cold sores but does NOT have an active coldsore at that time, transmitting it to a non-infected person when they give them a peck on the cheek or mouth? Also- what about someone who has never ever had a coldsore?
#2-makeup--- growing up i was always told not to share makeup because you could get pink eye from sharing eye make up..... now i read you can spread herpes of the eye this way, is this true or is it ONLY if your using it IMMEDIATELY after the person who is infected?
#3- my grandfather loves to give my daughter little kisses goodbye, he hasnt had a coldsore in almost 10 years, and said he would never kiss her if he had an active outbreak, what are the risks involved with him giving her a kiss goodbye on a daily basis without an outbreak.
#4- which virus sheds more, cold sore herpes, or genital herpes?
thank you sooo much! i live in a tiny town and my therapist knows nothing about viruses/infections, etc. im currently on zoloft and another medication for severe panic attacks. But based off the information you gave me yessterday, my husband has already noticed a difference in my anxiety over it. Yesterday my aunt who does get coldsores, kissed my daughter on top of her head, normally I would went into panic mode and gave her a bath and instead i got a little upset but moved on since it was her hair she touched and not her actual skin....
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I hope you're talking with your therapist about how your anxiety got focused on herpes. That's an important question to resolve, I think.
Here's the thing about waxing - we know that trauma can elicit an outbreak - prolonged or particularly vigorous sex, back surgeries, plastic procedures on the face, etc. Waxing is exactly the same! If you've ever had waxing done, you know it is truly trauma and hurts a lot. That trauma can elicit an outbreak in someone who has previously not recognized that they have herpes. People don't get herpes from waxing, but they can get outbreaks of a pre-existing infection from waxing trauma.
#2. No, you don't get herpes from inanimate objects or shaking hands or sharing toilet seats or coughing or sneezing. My only exceptional thought here is sharing lipsticks or lip gloss immediately after someone who has a cold sore would not be advised.
#3. You would not get herpes from a cook with herpes spitting in your food. Gross! How likely would it be you would eat food from a fork that someone with a cold sore? I probably would advise against that particularly odd situation.
#4 I would agree fully with your doctor here. It is safe for your family to kiss,yes. You should weigh the dangers here very carefully - not kissing your daughter and not having much sex with your husband, in my opinion, is far more damaging than any benign virus acquisition might be. And I don't see that you are at any risk of getting herpes in your life. I so hope you can get a handle on this OCD situation with your therapist. And I hope you are seeing a therapist who specializes in this type of disorder, preferably a cognitive behavior therapist, you may also need to consider taking medicine to get better as you work through the talking part of this treatment.
Terri
Here's the thing about waxing - we know that trauma can elicit an outbreak - prolonged or particularly vigorous sex, back surgeries, plastic procedures on the face, etc. Waxing is exactly the same! If you've ever had waxing done, you know it is truly trauma and hurts a lot. That trauma can elicit an outbreak in someone who has previously not recognized that they have herpes. People don't get herpes from waxing, but they can get outbreaks of a pre-existing infection from waxing trauma.
#2. No, you don't get herpes from inanimate objects or shaking hands or sharing toilet seats or coughing or sneezing. My only exceptional thought here is sharing lipsticks or lip gloss immediately after someone who has a cold sore would not be advised.
#3. You would not get herpes from a cook with herpes spitting in your food. Gross! How likely would it be you would eat food from a fork that someone with a cold sore? I probably would advise against that particularly odd situation.
#4 I would agree fully with your doctor here. It is safe for your family to kiss,yes. You should weigh the dangers here very carefully - not kissing your daughter and not having much sex with your husband, in my opinion, is far more damaging than any benign virus acquisition might be. And I don't see that you are at any risk of getting herpes in your life. I so hope you can get a handle on this OCD situation with your therapist. And I hope you are seeing a therapist who specializes in this type of disorder, preferably a cognitive behavior therapist, you may also need to consider taking medicine to get better as you work through the talking part of this treatment.
Terri
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
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STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
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