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herpes from mutual masturbation
Hi Grace i'm Jake and im 25 and really nervous. I had an encounter with mutual masturbation where someone i didnt know from gym [but know he's been around by what he was saying] licked/sucked my balls but not my shaft [i didn't do any oral at all] and we briefly jacked each other in a stall. I ejaculated into my hand but the other guy didnt come on me although there was precum on his hand and i think it got on my penis when i was stroking it. Im really scared about having caught herpes or hpv from this and it was my first time doing this since high school- I'm not promiscuous this was unusual. I got tested about a week later for stds at a clinic and was clean but now I'm worried that was too soon. Also my penis head has tiny bumps on it and sometimes they sting for a second/penis twitches sometimes and I've had some flu symptoms and achy balls now and then since that happened almost four months ago[haven't had sex since of any kind xcept jerking off and even that isn't as often as it used to be but sometimes I have to or I feel like I'll go crazy]. I haven't had big sores or breakouts like pictures I've seen and nothing on the shaft but have had serious depression since it happened and am afraid I ruined my life/chances of being with anyone and I'm just getting going with things. Also I shave my balls and the area clean and I've read now on internet that can make it very easy to catch stds on them? I didn't know that until after all this happened and thought this was safe sex. Please help me im scared to the point of being on the edge.What do you think about this I can't tell anyone!! Thank you so much for all you do here for everyone.
Hi Grace =] No i haven't been retested again/i was last fall and was neg for hsv. I never knew my igg results or anything tho. They just said neg for herpes. I was tested in April 2011 and Sept 2011 at 2 diff places. I haven't had an genital symptoms but i have had a sort of tingling/ache in my mouth/lips area since early last wk. No sores on my mouth or anything or no open/weeping stuff. Mostly its my left corner of my mouth/in the crease. It was better for a day and then yesterday i was in the sun all day and it bothered me again. =/ Im afraid of rubbing my eyes or even when i shower im afraid of spreading hsv from my mouth onto m body/genitals. Is that possible?? My clinic won't test me for hsv bc i have no oviuos symptoms. I am plannaing to get tested for stds [they will test for all the other kinds] this week. I'm pretty sure im fine that way tho. Its this crazy hsv that seems to be the one i keep getting symptoms for!! If i hadn't had hsv as a child than i was thinking this other guy coulda gave it to me when we were kissing/makeing out on 5/14 and we only were together that one time. The sensations started the next weekend and i hadn't been w my current bf then. I'm mostly scared of oral sex w my bf now bc i'm afraid to give him hsv1 from my mouth if i have it. Am i being to paranoid?? And yeah i talked to him bout stds/we talked. Neither of us had been real active and always safe but u know hsv is diffrent it seems bc of how it gets on u. If i had got hsv1 on my genitals or my mouth would i have had a outbreak by now/2.5 weeks later?? And have u heard of an outbreak/orally w/no sores just tingling and achy/would it last a week and a half like this?? I am confused. It seems inevitable that ppl will get hsv.
=[ JAke
=[ JAke
if you were negative for hsv1 and contracted it genitally, you would've had very obvious and 'classic" herpes symptoms.
have you and your new partner discussed std's and herpes testing? has he been tested at all?
have you and your new partner discussed std's and herpes testing? has he been tested at all?
hey grace/all. =] So it's been a long time since i posted on here/jan was last time. I had a scarey time last year re herpes but came out neg on 2 separate tests. U told me over and over i didn't have it and u were right..so ffwd to now. I had met this gr8 guy and was seeing him sort of casually. I was seeing one or two other guys/hanging out really more then anything and i had oral sex w one of them[one time]/as well as kissing/no sores at all on it or his mouth. The guy i'm seeing and me have not had any sex xcept oral on him/no sores on it or his mouth at all. Last week[bout a week after i was w/the other guy] i got a weird feeling in my left corner of my lip and it was/is tingling some and sore/bothering me. I haven't seen any kind of bumps/sores or anything yet but idk how long it might take to have it break out[what would it feel like/would it have broke out already?? Also i had a sore throat/headache which lasted bout 5 days around then. I'm also now reworried bout getting/haveing oral/genital hsv1. =/ I know a one time encounter is sup to be lo risk but i'm really into the guy im seeing and don't plan on doing anything w/anyone else. It's hard enuf already to be a bi guy [which i'm ok w/now] and i'm scared that if i end up haveing the hsv1 this guy will drop me. He has seriosly changed my life and has made it better getting up everyday. I've had some terible things going on in last few yrs and if i end up w/the fking herpes after being selective and careful bout who i'm w/then it will really be a kick in my b*lls bc i've been doing much better. The other guy said he's clean. The clinic i have gone to before won't test for herpes unless u have symptoms. I got my gardasil shots there/3x and was tested for everything they test for last fall/all neg. I really cn't believe that it's this ez to get stds u know?? Guess i'm needing some advice and direction so pls hmu w some. Thx very much JAke =]
hi grace =] Wanted to ask u this q. I've been pretty lo in last sev days since i stupidly got the unprotected oral. What r the chances i got oral hsv1 and gen hsv2 both from this encounter?? I know its said that oral is safe/lo risk but i need to hear someone who knows there stuff. Also if i test a week or 2 after it can i beleve the results? R they reliable at all? So many ppl i talk to and know think that the oral thing is just nuthin to worry on. I'm confuesed. THanks/JAke
Well i hope not Grace. I know this is a busy place n i know my q is kinda vanilla. But i was really good/smart bout thingsand now this. I know u mite get a empty chamber playing rusian roluette but i guess the only way to avoid the bullet is to put on the safety if ur not putting ur gun in the holster. The irritaetion is mild to medium but i have a hi tolerence for things. My penis is def irritateted so somethings up/balls to. Literaly a min or 2 tops down there was all that went on. I'm hopeing that it won't cost me 4 my whole life. One q that i really wanna know. Is neone else dealing w this rite now?? Also would u get these feelings b4 a 1st outbreak? I had no interscourse btw. Thanks/JAke
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