herpes from mutual masturbation

[caljake]

Hi Grace i'm Jake and im 25 and really nervous. I had an encounter with mutual masturbation where someone i didnt know from gym [but know he's been around by what he was saying] licked/sucked my balls but not my shaft [i didn't do any oral at all] and we briefly jacked each other in a stall. I ejaculated into my hand but the other guy didnt come on me although there was precum on his hand and i think it got on my penis when i was stroking it. Im really scared about having caught herpes or hpv from this and it was my first time doing this since high school- I'm not promiscuous this was unusual. I got tested about a week later for stds at a clinic and was clean but now I'm worried that was too soon. Also my penis head has tiny bumps on it and sometimes they sting for a second/penis twitches sometimes and I've had some flu symptoms and achy balls now and then since that happened almost four months ago[haven't had sex since of any kind xcept jerking off and even that isn't as often as it used to be but sometimes I have to or I feel like I'll go crazy]. I haven't had big sores or breakouts like pictures I've seen and nothing on the shaft but have had serious depression since it happened and am afraid I ruined my life/chances of being with anyone and I'm just getting going with things. Also I shave my balls and the area clean and I've read now on internet that can make it very easy to catch stds on them? I didn't know that until after all this happened and thought this was safe sex. Please help me im scared to the point of being on the edge.What do you think about this I can't tell anyone!! Thank you so much for all you do here for everyone.

[caljake]

Hi GRace and all.. Well i got my results today, ironically the same day as a friend. Tests showed neg for all stds i tested for incl hiv hsv chlm gono syph. Thing is is still have these littel bumps on head of my penis and not sure bu mab below my sack outside butt. Feels like tiny goosebumps. And the head is irritated almost all the time. Sometimes like today more and sometimes just the littel bumps and almost no irritation. Does hpv present itself w ANY pain or discomfort? The tiny needle pains i get now and then must be from something and the bumps were NEVEr there b4. Also does hpv cause any burning/warmer feelings where it is? Please if anyone knows anything about it i'm having a hard time understanding y after 2 sets of std tests[one at 1wk post xposure and now at almost 5 mos] i have no answer to this hell of symptoms. I could handle the hsv ob's coming and going and was ready to hear that but having this go on daily and the never go away bumps [not getting bigger realy in four mos since they showed up] is more than i can take. Thanks for listening. I really need someone who knows or has symptoms like me to help me to. Any info is huge for me., JAke  

[caljake]

Hi GRace +all, wanted to update u on my progress. Got retested for gono, syph, hiv,hsv, chlamyd,etc and awaiting results. Got my hiv one back though, NEG =]  Didn't think i could have it but now i've been tested in April and this wk, both neg so they said i def don't have that. Got a visual hpv and doc and nurse both said the little bumps [which they could hardly see but r there!!] are most likely not hpv. Still looking for cause of my discomfort on butt area and head of penis. Was thinking of trying lamisil on the bumps?? Would that clear up a fungal thing if thats what it is?? I will let u know my results when i get them for hsv. Thanks so much for ur ears.,  JAke

[caljake]

Thanks Grace, i feel like u have enuf xperience w it all, its not that at all just that it all started after the gym thing. I'm going to dr. fri and getting retested for everything as i said. Hoping for the best news possible and an answer to what's happening down below [something!!]. I've been doing some things to relax like running and kayaking and it has helped, i just wish the symptoms would clear up. I want to have a good relationship w someone and just need to know for sure i'm not going to spread stuff around if i decide to be with anyone and i haven't since my encounter. If i do end up w something [or don't] i will tell u here and hopefully learn to understand/cope w it from others.  Very greatfully., Jake

[gracefromHHP]

odds are this isn't hpv going on either. You could in theory contract hpv from oral sex but it's not likely to occur.

bottom line is, be seen for your symptoms to try to get a better idea of what's going on. no reason to think this is std related from your encounter you posted about originally. we've already told you that a few times now.

if your anxiety continues, consult a counselor or a therapist to work on ways to relax and relieve anxiety. the more you worry, the more you examine yourself, the more you will find to worry about!

[caljake]

Hi Grace, wondering if u have any thoughts on the hpv possibility for me in my situation. Was gonna post in the hpv area but thought it mite b easier to here. I'm really getting xhausted from the constant symptoms and trying to deal w the discomfort and the sight of the bumps i have. At this point they r small and unnoticeable to others [in shower or peeing at urinals etc.]but i'm afraid they will continue growing and become worse. Again i only had mutual masturbation and one time, 4 months ago. My hsv retest will be fri and i will b xamined again and be checked for the hpv. My mind is a tornado of thoughts surrounding this awful xperience. I can't believe i could have gotten all these std's from m/m and someone sucking my balls for a couple minutes. So confused as to all of the yes u can and no u can'ts. Please give me some insight. Thanks so much., Jake

[caljake]

Hey i was wondering bout all of this. And when u say hpv is rare orally do u mean getting it orally from giving oral or from receiving oral on ur penis/genitals and getting it down there?? Thanks., Jake