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herpes from mutual masturbation
Hi Grace i'm Jake and im 25 and really nervous. I had an encounter with mutual masturbation where someone i didnt know from gym [but know he's been around by what he was saying] licked/sucked my balls but not my shaft [i didn't do any oral at all] and we briefly jacked each other in a stall. I ejaculated into my hand but the other guy didnt come on me although there was precum on his hand and i think it got on my penis when i was stroking it. Im really scared about having caught herpes or hpv from this and it was my first time doing this since high school- I'm not promiscuous this was unusual. I got tested about a week later for stds at a clinic and was clean but now I'm worried that was too soon. Also my penis head has tiny bumps on it and sometimes they sting for a second/penis twitches sometimes and I've had some flu symptoms and achy balls now and then since that happened almost four months ago[haven't had sex since of any kind xcept jerking off and even that isn't as often as it used to be but sometimes I have to or I feel like I'll go crazy]. I haven't had big sores or breakouts like pictures I've seen and nothing on the shaft but have had serious depression since it happened and am afraid I ruined my life/chances of being with anyone and I'm just getting going with things. Also I shave my balls and the area clean and I've read now on internet that can make it very easy to catch stds on them? I didn't know that until after all this happened and thought this was safe sex. Please help me im scared to the point of being on the edge.What do you think about this I can't tell anyone!! Thank you so much for all you do here for everyone.
Hey man thanks for the advice. I guess its poss to have hemroids but idk?? Doesn't xplain my probs w/penis though and those started first. Going to diff dr. this week to hopefully get some answers. The hpv worries me less than hsv1 which i think from reading everything here is what i would get from oral if anything?? Is that right? Anyway the hpv is scary enuf for sure and I'm worried that i can spread it since its supposed to be really contagious. I keep avoiding any sex xcept jerking off myself at this point bc of my fear of spreading something. I would never do that to someone. Could i have gotten hpv from his precum that got on my penis when we were jerking each other? There was a good amount of it and also he was uncut so i wonder if that would make it easier to catch something if he had it? Thanks again and your journal entry was really helpful..did u worry about any of these things like i am after ur encounter? Jake
HPV orally is rare. Oral sex is a LOW RISK for all STD's. Its not the best way for you to get an STD. Be seen by your provider. But at this point it could be anything. You could have hemmorids.
Hey Grace i was wondering what u mite know about hpv/hsv transmission orally?? By that i mean together at the same time if the other person has both. I have no idea if they did but its on my mind that one or both is causing my probs on penis and butt area. Feels like little bumps around hole but not sure if its hair follicles or what. Goin to new dr. nxt week to get looked at and try to xplain the symptoms i still have. Not sure but i think the head of my penis where the bumps started is getting a little better? Idk. Also the small [1 inch] area around head that has a red veiny discoloration is still there and stings less frequently but sometimes. Also is it consistent w/hpv or hsv 1/2 to have warm/almost very warm feeling around anus? Does a bacterial infection do that?? I'm still trying to find my way here and understand all the std stuff. Very thankful for the forums here they have helped me alot in this. Jake
Hey Grace i was wondering what u mite know about hpv/hsv transmission orally?? By that i mean together at the same time if the other person has both. I have no idea if they did but its on my mind that one or both is causing my probs on penis and butt area. Feels like little bumps around hole but not sure if its hair follicles or what. Goin to new dr. nxt week to get looked at and try to xplain the symptoms i still have. Not sure but i think the head of my penis where the bumps started is getting a little better? Idk. Also the small [1 inch] area around head that has a red veiny discoloration is still there and stings less frequently but sometimes. Also is it consistent w/hpv or hsv 1/2 to have warm/almost very warm feeling around anus? Does a bacterial infection do that?? I'm still trying to find my way here and understand all the std stuff. Very thankful for the forums here they have helped me alot in this. Jake
Thanks again Grace u have been a great help and u r in my prayers. I pray alot and although i don't get many answers it makes me feel unalone in the world.I 'm not sure what's going on w/my genital areas but there's definitely something happening. Idk if the herpes is responsible or if i even have it but it feels like hpv/warts are possible since the little bumps on penis head and small discoloration on rim of head don't go away and i think i feel them around my butthole/not sure but it tingles somewhat there and feels like its warm?? Hopefully i can get some answers from another dr visit. Its hard for me to deal w/the fact that touching/jacking someones penis and having my balls licked for a minute or two has produced this hell i've been going thru since april. Since i've never had symptoms of any kind before this and tested negative [1 week after so can't be from before this] for all std's xcept syphillis [which i didn't test for at all] i know whatever is happening is from the gym guy incident.. Lasted all of about 5 min! I will never again do anything casually as far as sex is concerned. I have had horrible days thinking of why this happened to me and at least when i get here i feel less separate from other ppl and that i'm again, not alone. I'm optimistic but trying to stay realistic as well. Thanks again for your ear. Jake
it does get annoying to have to keep going back to be seen but it's the best thing to do to get answers so you can treat what is going on and be rid of it :)
no reason for more testing before you get involved with someone new. just remember to talk about std's and testing with them before sex/oral sex.
no reason for more testing before you get involved with someone new. just remember to talk about std's and testing with them before sex/oral sex.
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