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I keep seeing all over the place that herpes is so easy to miss in many cases, but I've seen 3 doctors; one of them is a specialist in the field of STDs and the other, a dermatologist. They carefully inspect the area and say that they don't think I don't have herpes. The STD expert had the blood tests done to confirm and they were negative, but I'm scared to death as the generalized symptoms seem to be disappearing after a month now. The pimples were burned off by the dermatologist (he said they were molluscum). The pimples I had never hurt, but I had a lot of intermittent groin pain and the skin on my genitals would feel like it was burning sometimes and I had this strange prickly feeling all around the pubic hair and those symptoms seem to be going away. Does any of this sound herpes related?
"Worried," I'm not trying to come across as anything, but take a look at the posts on this forum. Overwhelmingly, folks are frightened and scared to the point that they are experiencing psychological symptoms when they are at little to no risk. You think that's "normal?" What I hope happens on this forum is that people can chill out because most of the folks posting here are operating on very little information about herpes and letting the stigma of this virus drive their fear.
Sorry, but I'm not bitter about anything. I see lots of freaked-out people on these forums, and it's just not necessary for people to feel this way. Actually, having herpes hasn't change very much about my life. My partners have all been negative going into relationships with me - they certainly didn't care one way or the other whether I had it. It doesn't affect me physically - I can still run marathons and do triathlons. I still swim the Golden Gate and Alcatraz every year. I work long hours at a high-stress job. Why would I be bitter? It hasn't changed my life! That's the takeaway point here, "Worried." What are people so freaked out about? Yes, my perspective is different from yours since I already have it, but I've had it for years and it just hasn't affected my life - either socially or medically. And I would venture a guess that this is the case for 95% of the people out there with herpes.
To the OP, I'm sorry about the thing with the wife, but having herpes is not going to impact your social life unless you let it. 25% of the sexually active population has it. You think they are all sitting at home wallowing in their pity and feeling like they can't ever have relationships again or get laid? Give me a break.
I hate to break it to you, but herpes is the least of the problems I've had in my relationships. I wish I could say it was the dealbreaker, because that would be easy. It would make my life a cakewalk in terms of relationships. But there are bigger issues in relationships than this virus. I can tell you that from experience. It's nothing in the larger context of a relationship. Nothing. I have about half a dozen friends with herpes, and I can say with certainty that none of them feels like it's negatively impacting their lives. They have careers, relationships, and hot sex, just like the rest of us.
I think "Worried" needs a little more perspective, but then the screen name says it all, don't you think? As for the OP, I hope it works out with the wife, but if it doesn't, you'll be fine. There are women out there who will want to screw you even if you have herpes, if that's what you're worried about.
Sorry, but I'm not bitter about anything. I see lots of freaked-out people on these forums, and it's just not necessary for people to feel this way. Actually, having herpes hasn't change very much about my life. My partners have all been negative going into relationships with me - they certainly didn't care one way or the other whether I had it. It doesn't affect me physically - I can still run marathons and do triathlons. I still swim the Golden Gate and Alcatraz every year. I work long hours at a high-stress job. Why would I be bitter? It hasn't changed my life! That's the takeaway point here, "Worried." What are people so freaked out about? Yes, my perspective is different from yours since I already have it, but I've had it for years and it just hasn't affected my life - either socially or medically. And I would venture a guess that this is the case for 95% of the people out there with herpes.
To the OP, I'm sorry about the thing with the wife, but having herpes is not going to impact your social life unless you let it. 25% of the sexually active population has it. You think they are all sitting at home wallowing in their pity and feeling like they can't ever have relationships again or get laid? Give me a break.
I hate to break it to you, but herpes is the least of the problems I've had in my relationships. I wish I could say it was the dealbreaker, because that would be easy. It would make my life a cakewalk in terms of relationships. But there are bigger issues in relationships than this virus. I can tell you that from experience. It's nothing in the larger context of a relationship. Nothing. I have about half a dozen friends with herpes, and I can say with certainty that none of them feels like it's negatively impacting their lives. They have careers, relationships, and hot sex, just like the rest of us.
I think "Worried" needs a little more perspective, but then the screen name says it all, don't you think? As for the OP, I hope it works out with the wife, but if it doesn't, you'll be fine. There are women out there who will want to screw you even if you have herpes, if that's what you're worried about.
My wife left me back in June and I've had two sexual encounters since then. Then I thought a possible reconcilliation with my wife could happen, but I noticed these symptoms and I had to back off until I can make sure I don't have anything. But even if I split with my wife, how does one get involved in relationships with a permanent STD? It kinda makes it a little rough doesn't it?
Waringblender you sure are a bitter individual.. People come in here for advice and you come back with these high and mighty responses. I would be afraid to get herpes... Who the hell wouldn't? It's something that changes your life. Maybe that's why you're so bitter..
What are you so afraid of? I mean, really. You are having panic attacks because you think you might have herpes? 90% of people who have herpes don't even know they have it - that's how mild it is to folks. So it's certainly not a medical issue. So what is it that is so frightening? Maybe you should start examining what it is you are really afraid of.
Thanks for the blunt response. I've been so freaked out over this and now that the lesions are going away, I feel like the other more generalized symptoms are going away and it makes me feel like the outbreak is over. I'll be OK for a few days and then I wake up scared to death like I am right now and can't sleep.
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