good that you had proper testing done :)
Yes I was swabbed, it was not just visually diagnosed.
did they actually swab your symptoms or just visually diagnose it?
http://www.ashastd.org/std-sti-works/Herpes/oral-herpes.html has terrific info on oral herpes for more reading for you and your partner.
1 out of every 3 of us contract hsv1 orally before we even start public school. When we are young, it's easily transmitted to infants/toddlers from care givers and play mates. even though your partner is a virgin, he could've easily contracted hsv1 orally when he was younger or from anyone he's ever kissed. Just because he hasn't had obvious cold sores, doesn't mean anything.
you don't have to refrain from receiving oral sex from your partner for a few months either. You certainly though should not be performing oral sex on him at this point until your mouth symptoms have completely went away and the skin is back to normal.
you have multiple posts on this topic - let's keep all further questions/comments in this one - thanks!
Thank you for the info!
You said it was unlikely that I got herpetic gingivostomatitis, but I did. My doctor printed out a sheet with all my information on it from the appointment. I am glad though that another outbreak won't be as intense.
I'm 99% sure you got this from kissing him and despite the severity of symptoms, this is somewhat typical for a primary outbreak of oral HSV-1. It's very unlikely that he has genital HSV-1 because it is only contagious 12 days (3% of days/year) out of the year whereas oral HSV-1 is contagious up to 33% of days/year.
It is unlikely that you got herpetic gingivostomatitis. Your future outbreaks will be much more milder than this one where you could just develop a single lesion on your bottom lip. The symptoms (fever, sore throat) you are experiencing are typical for the first outbreak, but almost always never occur during recurrences.
I'd wait to perform oral on him just for the sake of comfort. Since this is the same strain of HSV-1, you and him are immune to getting it again regardless of location, which is especially true considering he was the source of your infection. Still, it's not a good idea to perform oral with obvious lesions because if your lesion is open, bacteria from his penis can infect/irritate it more, which will prolong the healing process.
Yes, you will not be reinfected as described above in any location of your/his body. HOWEVER, right now you're in your primary outbreak and your body has just begun to produce antibodies to fight the virus. I would refrain from receiving oral sex from him for a few months to keep it safe so your antibodies will be sufficient, and that's just me being careful. Feel free to ask more questions.