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idk what is going on so frustrating.

About a month ago I had unprotected sex with a girl I met through friends. I actually had sex with her with a condom and then we had sex again and I didn't have another condom so we went unprotected. The next day I woke up and told my friend I had sex with her and he said to me "I hope you wore a condom" I asked him why and he just said "oh she sleeps around" nothing specific not that she had an std or anything. I am somewhat of a hypochondriac so I starting examining myself from then on out every minute possible throughout the day. I remember within him asking him if I wore a condom I started feeling symptoms. The next day I woke up and it almost felt like it was burning to pee so instantly I was like oh my god this isn't happening. I immediately contacted her and she took it very personally and reassured me she had nothing and would never have unprotected sex with me if she had something and would hope I wouldn't do it either with her. From then on out I was extrememly worried to the point where the anxiety consumed my life I couldn't think or do anything else - I live in the gym it has always been my life I couldn't even get myself to the gym I was so scared. Next couple days I started noticing dry flakey skin on foreskin and the tip of my penis then it turned into like dry scaley skin on the shaft too, it was very irritated and was stinging and burning in my clothes and I immediately lost my mind and told my mom. She took me to a clinic where they said "they saw nothing" and tested me for chlamydia and gonnorhea both negative. I went to a local hospital the next day and the doctor diagnosed me with a fungal infection and gave me nystatin cream and 2 diflucan pills. I tookt the antibiotics and used the cream very liberally. The pain mostly went away except for a little irritation - when I put the cream on the skin wasn't dry it just got very sticky. I stopped using the nystatin cream because it was thinning my skin and making it extremely wrinkly - I went to my family doctor who said she saw absolutely nothing and gave me some lotion she had in her office and sent me on my way obviously did nothing for me. I went to another clinic and demanded a blood test for herpes syphalis and hiv the herpes test was an igg test. The people at that clinic also said they saw nothing even tho the skin was scaley and irritated and I myself know this because it is my body and see changed and my skin was always soft and not irritated dry looking. I got the results back negative for herpes syphalis and hiv. So now I'm stuck with dry irritated skin all over my penis that gets irritated in clothes - have fordyce spots on my shaft always have they seem to get super irritated from the dry flakey skin. You can almost see lines on the shaft in the front where the scales are from the skin being so dry and when I sit and it folds up more it creates lines. The head gets very red and blotchy looking. When I pee when I am finishing it doesn't come all the way out it dribbles and when I "shake" it goes everywhere and seems to leak out of me for a while afterwards - same goes if I masturbate the I don't ejaculate as much as usual and it leaks out of me afterwards also and dries up on my urethra. Also when I masturbate the skin seems to get more irritated and then eventually goes down. I want my life back I can't take another minute of this - this is everyday of my life for the past month almost. Is it possible I have some type of infection on the inside effecting the outside or maybe allergic reaction to nystatin cream and antibiotics? I just want this over with I am severely depressed want my life back:( scheduled a urology appt
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Ugh
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WeLl turns out dupont only accepts 17annd under, I have a neurologist appt doctor seems to think its nerve related.....
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:(:(
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I think its pretty reasonable to be depressed over a situation like this. I still go to school and the gym and stuff I'm just unhappy and scared I want this to be over I don't understand what's going on.
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you also need to deal with your anxiety/depression from this too. look around for a professional to talk to while you wait for your appointment.
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I'm not sure my mom was going to call and get me in there asap. This is all so scary how life can turn into this so fast. Sex doesn't even seem worht it to me anymore at this point - I wish I was a virgin ha. I keep feeling like I'm gonna feel like this forever and itrs never gonna end:/
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I know you want to turn back the clock. Me too. Wish life had a rewind button. But,...since it doesn't, we have to move forward the best we can. You can do it. You're right, symptoms don't last this long. Try to let that give you reassurance while you wait for your appointment. When do you go to Dupont?
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I mean she claims to have been tested I've asked her so many times she doesn't wanna talk to me anymore obviously because of me asking her these things and her feeling liek I was calling her dirty blah blah blah like most girls act. I just regret having sex with her so much it was not worth this trouble and anxiety for one night - looking back on it it makes me wanna cry because If I just didn't cave and have unprotected sex when I had protected sex right before I could ofjust called it a night but instead I let my dick trick me into doing something retarded. I'm so upset still over this and have the most regret I've ever had in my life. Once again when will this ever go away because everything I've read std symptoms don't last this long - I just want this to go away so I can get my mind off of it for good and have my life back.
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I understand completely. Once you get this figured out and get some relief, you will bounce back. Is there any way to convince this girl to be tested so you could know her status? It might give you peace of mind.
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Thank u so much for the support I'm so upset I used to be like the happiest person ever. I never thought I'd be in a situation like this ever, I just have zero hope at all. I'm a 20 year old kid I shouldn't have to go through this every morning I wake up I pray to god this would end and it never does, I'm not myself I'm always a super confident person - I've always come off as "cocky" but not in a bad way just knew how to talk to girls and be with people overall - I'm a real people person and nw with what's going on with me I'm a different person, I avoid people and am not as outgoing and I'm always irritated down there uncomfortable I feel like my body has changed. I could never get into a relationship ever like this I avoid females now, I just want my life back and my happiness. Please.
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I'm not a health professional but I think the mouth wash may have started your problems and this should be treated as a chemical burn. I do not think you would have herpes symptoms for this long without some period of relief. Be sure to tell the doctors of the mouth wash event and try the zinc cream or plain aloe. Wish i could give you a hug. I honestly think you are going to be fine.
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I've been using this cream I ordered off the internet its like theracream ill go get it and repost the ingredients but that night I poored mouthwash over it bc I don't sleep around like that especially unprotected and I knew I made a mistake. I feel like this can't be std related bc this happened a month and probably close to 10 days ago and I've had symptoms of this 2 days after we had sex and non stop ever since then. I really don't know what to do or think I'm so depresseð
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Have you tried some zinc cream, like diaper rash cream? I've used Burts Bees Baby Diaper rash cream. It's very soothing and has no harsh chemicals. I wouldn't put it on the urethra but all around your penis would be fine. Did you by any chance wash yourself with something harsh after your friend told you this girl "slept around"? Just asking.
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Grace, is it possible for someone to have to live the way I'm living right now for the rest of my life? Cause I can't handle this. I've never heard of anything like this its never ending - I can't live this way much longer.
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please do not hijack someone else's post with your own question. start your own post about it.

our rules of posting on the forum are listed under the important announcements tab on the forum. thanks!
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Fml
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You have an anxiety problem its nothing to do with an std obviously if its just weight loss?
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You have an anxiety problem its nothing to do with an std obviously if its just weight loss?
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I have the worst symptoms of all:  I have unintentional weight loss-over 20  lbs, and extreme weight loss in my hips/buttock, and continuing.  I have been losing weight for over 2 years, slowly.  I was diagnoised with HSV-1 back in 2007.  Since then, I have taken every STD test I can think of, and the doctors have no idea why I am losing this much weight over such a long period of time, and continuing. Does anyone else have this problems and if so, please share your diagnoises with me.
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Is there some type of like unknown std bc it seems like so many ppl have similar symptoms and no one knows what's wrong with any of them and that is the scariest part of all of this. I would rather have herpes and know what I have and have It go away and come back rather then dealing with this everyday day after day of my life its like torture - I don't wanna go out with friends or meet girls anymore I'm so uncomfortable and don't like how I look down there anymore - never had a problem down there and now all of a sudden I don't even like looking at it myself.
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I am going go to dupont I just wanted to know what your opinion was
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101028 tn?1419603004
really nothing else I could possibly add. go and be seen and get a more thorough work up.

this is not a herpes issue.
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Something Is so wrong I can't even masterbate I know this is tmi but this is a health board, the skin gets so red and irritated and red and hurts it doesn't even look like me anymore I can't even stand the look of it, the sebaceous cysts (fordyce) get super noticeable and u can feel them could hardly see or feel them before from all the skin irritation and dryness and burning sensation, I had to masterbate I've always had a crazy sex drive now I never do I hadn't masterbated in 2 weeks, it wasn't even pleasurable really and after I ejaculated the cum was clumpy and weird and it leaked out of my urethra 10 min after I came this never happens, the skin looks horrible beat red the head is discolored the fordyce are crazily inflamed just overall the skin everywhere is so sensitive the urethra even looks larger then before and like its infected. Wtf is wrong with me this is terrifying.
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