Hi and welcome. The only effective remedy is to go on antiviral suppression medication since your having so many. They work very well.
If any of the treatments you read about on certain sites actually consistently worked for people with genital herpes, more people would talk about them.
Your ob's are affecting your quality of life. any particular reasons why you aren't considering daily suppressive therapy with one of the 3 herpes antivirals? Suppressive therapy would result in less recurrences and less severity of the recurrences you do have so you wouldn't have to feel so icky as often.