It is most likely you both have oral HSV1. I am not fully convinced though that all her described outbreaks are HSV1.
The most important thing to note is that, particularly as a male, you are most unlikely to become infected genitally. This applies similarly for her. This is because your immune system is producing multiple defence antibodies to the virus.
An outbreak on Tuesday probably has no indication of presence of the virus during the sexual encounter 4 days prior. Avoiding contact with the area during outbreaks is advisable.
Outside of outbreaks, you're really in the best position both being infected and only a small, small risk of further infection.
That's interesting, I was wondering if her "monthly outbreaks" were more likely to have been caused by hsv2? Mainly because the only people I have heard say they were getting monthly outbreaks are people who have hsv2 in the genital area.
I forgot to ask what are the odds of the virus being present during the time of the oral sex.(but you answered thank you)
I am still nervous but I am slightly relieve to know that my risks are not high.
HSV2 is considerably weaker in the oral region. Breakouts for those very few people with oral HSV2 occur only every few years for those that experience breakouts. This is a much lower frequency than HSV1.