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one time encounter with hsv2 positive women

plain and simple i met a girl we had sex unprotected i know i messed up no need to lecture me on protection,prior to this i was in a 6 yr relationship and this was the first time i had sex since the ending of the relationship,afterwards she tells me she has herpes and is on medicine for it,she said she found out a month ago by a breakout and has been on the meds since!..how truthful she is i do not know,and havent spoken to her since..basically she said it was my fault for sleeping with her!!!

lowdown on the night of encounter

we made out for a while wich led to me fingering her,then she gave me oral and then we had sex wich was pretty quick and not rough she was very wet my penis only went in half way and i did cum inside of her,,.and i washed off my penis with washcloth n water 2 mins afterwards..prior to sexual activity we shared a few cigs and the filter was never wet and i dont have any issues on my lips

now i have a sore throat,slight pain on my testicles,but felt that feeling before this ever happend,just now more noticable.and light mid-lower back pain/chest pain and slight headache...but i sit hunched over while playing xbox..and i slept funky lastnight..

no signs of anything on my penis at all,but i do have to red bumps on the back of my tounge closest to my throat that appeared today,encounter was on thursday night march 7 2013 130-2 am and its now sunday the 10th,hurts to swallow not much but noticable...

i no there is no true answear to my questions but any insight would be helpful

since after the first night i been very paranoid and anxiety off the wall wich led me to smoking alota ciggerettes bad i know but im worried and scared,iwanna have a family oneday and this is just scaring me!

this was just a one time encounter so what could the odds be of catching anything in general,i do not know if she was having an outbreak as it was dark and i wasnt thinking anything of it,her area down there did have a slight odor if that means anything...any info would be apreiciated and thank you in advance....fyi im 28 years old
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101028 tn?1419603004
sounds like you have an upper respiratory infection like many folks have this time of the year.  

since you had unprotected sex, you can follow up with proper std testing at the proper times. you can get tested for gonorrhea, chlamydia, ngu and trich after 1 week post encounter. syphilis after 6 weeks. herpes, hiv and hepatitis after 3 months. should you develop any obvious symptoms before then, be seen promptly for proper testing.

the odds of contracting herpes from a one time encounter is very low.

have you ever been tested for herpes before this?

grace
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no i havent been tested for herpes but my dr did do a full std/hiv blood test wich all was negative.i dont know if herpes was done though,i do no at one point in time i had a cold sore..and i read this is/could be hsv1.

im concerned about this encounter becuase i havent had a appetite since i found out,i mean i eat but just a yogurt,soft food..

i have a slight pain in my back where my muscles are but could be the way im sitting and sleeping.my penis looks normal besides a bit of itching from where my pubic hairs are growing in"i shave"

today i called this girl to ask her more about this,and she said she had chlamidia and has herpes and she says she takes a pill for it daily and shes only had one ob wich was around a month or so ago.

during forplay i did not feel anything unusual down there if that means anything..

i have had night sweats not drenching but enough since the day following the incedent,my throat seems to be fine kinda harsh but been smoking still,
and a slight fullness in the area right below my stomach above my junk,i felt weakish/sluggish/slight headache since the day after until today where im keeping busy and had pt for my knee,but this could be due to the time change me feeling sickish, .

what does the tingling feeling in the effected area feel like is it severe/mild or what.

i thank you for your time and knowledge
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no i havent been tested for herpes but my dr did do a full std/hiv blood test wich all was negative.i dont know if herpes was done though,i do no at one point in time i had a cold sore..and i read this is/could be hsv1.

im concerned about this encounter becuase i havent had a appetite since i found out,i mean i eat but just a yogurt,soft food..

i have a slight pain in my back where my muscles are but could be the way im sitting and sleeping.my penis looks normal besides a bit of itching from where my pubic hairs are growing in"i shave"

today i called this girl to ask her more about this,and she said she had chlamidia and has herpes and she says she takes a pill for it daily and shes only had one ob wich was around a month or so ago.

during forplay i did not feel anything unusual down there if that means anything..

i have had night sweats not drenching but enough since the day following the incedent,my throat seems to be fine kinda harsh but been smoking still,
and a slight fullness in the area right below my stomach above my junk,i felt weakish/sluggish/slight headache since the day after until today where im keeping busy and had pt for my knee,but this could be due to the time change me feeling sickish, .

what does the tingling feeling in the effected area feel like is it severe/mild or what.

i thank you for your time and knowledge, sorry for double post i put your name in wrong.
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woke up this morning,with itchyness at the crease of my thighs/slightly reddish by my genitals,but this could be due to physical thereapy,top portion of my buttox kinda sore,again could be from pt....still no markings on my penis,

wouldnt my penis show the most signs since that was pretty much the only part of my genitals that touched,our bodies did not touch to closely,my pants half way on and had shirt on..i may be just over thinking this

i mean if i have it i have it nothing to do about it i guess,but the waiting period to be tested is what bothers me,unless i see obvious signs then i go to dr,but odds of seeing him when the symptoms are there will be tough as im in california and the drs here are always overbooked with patients,so i do not know how that will work out
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5 days after still no signs of anything besides my over thinking and constant checking but nodda, should I let my mind ease,

And if I have moth sores wich I had at one time as a younger kid would I still contract hsv2 and show symptoms,
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anyone
101028 tn?1419603004
certainly sounds like you are over thinking all of this.

continue to follow up on any symptoms with your doctor as needed.

did you ever find out if you had herpes testing at all with your std testing?

grace
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grace i do not know as it was done at another state and i only saw him those 2 times,and the office there had moved and i do not recall the name of the dr or the office name..

all of my symptoms are no longer there so to say,

also talked to this girl again and she said her outbreak was very small and was on the outside of her vagina what that means i dont know,if it means anything at all..

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grace also whats your take on viral shedding,i made other post about this sorry for that,

i read that within first six months someone is at there highest rate of viral shedding,whats that mean if she was to take valtrex daily since 1st signs of outbreak.

and also where does shedding occour is it in the vaginal fluids,or at the spot of outbreaks?
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hey grace,upon futher talking with this girl she now says type 1 genital,if that would help any
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and i have been having a cramp/ache in my lower back at/near then end of my spine but moreso located on the sides near where my muscles are in in that area..

still no obvious signs of anything in or around my genital area..
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11 days after exposure I have no symptoms down below,but I'm having a slight headache and can't go number 2 but I think having too much potatoes is may be the cause but not sure, if I do go its usually watery! But again no symptoms below besides a fullness feeling below stomache.
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Let me know how it turns out, I have a story so similar it's strange.  Same circumstance and symptoms.  We'll be over thinking this together!
101028 tn?1419603004
none of your symptoms sound std related at all.

follow up with your provider as needed for your symptoms.  sounds like you have a gi bug more than a std.

follow up with your std testing at the times I previously posted too to cover your bases.
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yeah,im gonna be tested for all things pretty soon,but im hoping for the best..if i did contract anything should i of seen symptoms by now, i no they can show yrs ,weeks months from exposure,but usually from what i read its 2-7 days,is that true..thanks for your time

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still have a consitant headache,but no signs of anything down below..

if i was to of been infected,would i have of seen signs of something by now?

sorry for the questions,this is just being helpful having somewhat of an idea untill the time comes to get tested!
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ok well today i have a found bumps,and cant see my dr till april 16th,guess i have crap luck afterall!!
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its  more like a red burn look,
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Go to a walk in clinic while there are visible sores, they might not be there april 16 so they won't be able to swab and you would still have to wait 3 months before a blood test. Then you will be back in the same boat of not knowing : s good luck!
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well its kinda obvious as to what it is so really no need to test,i'll just let my dr know what was there,and go from there..
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