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only receptive oral need reassurance
60 days ago, I received about a minute of oral sex on my penis from a hetero female I do not know well.
7 days after exposure: I got mild burning sensation on the urethra. No discharge, no redness of the urethtra
18 after exposure: Went to clinic, tested neg for chlamydia, gonnorrhea, trich, HIV, even a VERY expensive test for HSV2 that was also negative. Doctor gave me the usual buffet of antibiotics anyway, just to cover the bases: 2G of Azithromycin on the spot, and 7 days worth of Cipro at 500mg twice a day.
10 days after the antibiotics, 28 days after exposure, I had sex with my wife, and was sensation-free until orgasm.
A few days later the urethritis returned, this time with redness and mild-to-no pain, and no discharge, urgency, stricture or anything else except redness and swelling of the urethra and mild pain, none while urinating.
Now my main fear is herpes, but it may be a little irrational:
It's now 60 days after exposure, and all I have is red inflamed urethra and mild pain. This has persisted for 30 days now. There have been no lesions that go through the herpetic cycle of blister, ulcer, scab, etc... There has been little to no pain urinating, and I've rubbed urine on the red area with no pain.
My understanding of the risk of herpes is this:
1] I have HSV1 oral because I've had cold sores but it's been since 2003 that I've had one, [it was a scorcher, though]. It's my understanding that if the woman who performed oral sex on me had an HSV1 sore, I would be a minimal risk of getting in on my penis, because I already have HSV1. Is that correct?
2] It's my understanding from reading this forum that if the woman who performed oral sex on my had oral HSV2, it does not transmit commonly from mouth to penis.
3] My urethritis has been static for over 30 days, with no herpetic sequence of blister-ulcer-scab/crust, and not much pain
Please reconfirm and reassure if reassurance is warranted. I don't want to risk my very happy marriage.
7 days after exposure: I got mild burning sensation on the urethra. No discharge, no redness of the urethtra
18 after exposure: Went to clinic, tested neg for chlamydia, gonnorrhea, trich, HIV, even a VERY expensive test for HSV2 that was also negative. Doctor gave me the usual buffet of antibiotics anyway, just to cover the bases: 2G of Azithromycin on the spot, and 7 days worth of Cipro at 500mg twice a day.
10 days after the antibiotics, 28 days after exposure, I had sex with my wife, and was sensation-free until orgasm.
A few days later the urethritis returned, this time with redness and mild-to-no pain, and no discharge, urgency, stricture or anything else except redness and swelling of the urethra and mild pain, none while urinating.
Now my main fear is herpes, but it may be a little irrational:
It's now 60 days after exposure, and all I have is red inflamed urethra and mild pain. This has persisted for 30 days now. There have been no lesions that go through the herpetic cycle of blister, ulcer, scab, etc... There has been little to no pain urinating, and I've rubbed urine on the red area with no pain.
My understanding of the risk of herpes is this:
1] I have HSV1 oral because I've had cold sores but it's been since 2003 that I've had one, [it was a scorcher, though]. It's my understanding that if the woman who performed oral sex on me had an HSV1 sore, I would be a minimal risk of getting in on my penis, because I already have HSV1. Is that correct?
2] It's my understanding from reading this forum that if the woman who performed oral sex on my had oral HSV2, it does not transmit commonly from mouth to penis.
3] My urethritis has been static for over 30 days, with no herpetic sequence of blister-ulcer-scab/crust, and not much pain
Please reconfirm and reassure if reassurance is warranted. I don't want to risk my very happy marriage.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
1) No! Over half the US population has HSV 1.
2)No, not unusual, but it doesn't mean that you aren't shedding virus from your mouth from time to time.
3) You are both lucky and common. The longer someone is with someone who is HSV 2 positive and doesn't get infected, the less likely they are to become infected. Some sort of protective immune response happens over time.
Happy about your test resutls, good news
Terri
2)No, not unusual, but it doesn't mean that you aren't shedding virus from your mouth from time to time.
3) You are both lucky and common. The longer someone is with someone who is HSV 2 positive and doesn't get infected, the less likely they are to become infected. Some sort of protective immune response happens over time.
Happy about your test resutls, good news
Terri
Just a follow-up. At the 13 week point, after receiving oral sex, I had a type-specific Ab IgG, [whatever that means], which came back negative for HSV-2, [a relief], and positive for HSV-1, [no surprise, since I have had cold sores in the past].
By the by, HSV-2 was only reported as "less than .91", which they consider to be negative. HSV-1 was reported as 4.41.
A couple of final questions:
1] does being positive for HSV-1 disqualify me [legally or morally] from donating blood?
2] I haven't had an outbreak of HSV-1 on my lip in 8 years, and prior to that, it might have been 20 or more years... since I was a kid. Is that unusual?
3] Finally: I've been with my wife for the last 13 years, [9 married]. But immediately prior to that I was with a girl for 7 years, monogamously, who had HSV-2 the whole time. She had caught it just before we got together. I/we knew nothing about shedding, and she was not taking any antivirals. She was "in touch" with her body, and we abstained from sex from the time she felt an outbreak coming, to well after it cleared up.
My question is, was I just plain lucky that I never got infected? Or are there less virulent strains that don't shed? Other?
regards,
wurried1
By the by, HSV-2 was only reported as "less than .91", which they consider to be negative. HSV-1 was reported as 4.41.
A couple of final questions:
1] does being positive for HSV-1 disqualify me [legally or morally] from donating blood?
2] I haven't had an outbreak of HSV-1 on my lip in 8 years, and prior to that, it might have been 20 or more years... since I was a kid. Is that unusual?
3] Finally: I've been with my wife for the last 13 years, [9 married]. But immediately prior to that I was with a girl for 7 years, monogamously, who had HSV-2 the whole time. She had caught it just before we got together. I/we knew nothing about shedding, and she was not taking any antivirals. She was "in touch" with her body, and we abstained from sex from the time she felt an outbreak coming, to well after it cleared up.
My question is, was I just plain lucky that I never got infected? Or are there less virulent strains that don't shed? Other?
regards,
wurried1
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
1. That is absolutely correct. Since you already have HSV 1, you are very unlikely to get it in a new location on your body.
2. That is also correct. HSV 1 is shed from the mouth of the non-HIV infected person on only about 3 days out of the year.
You've been treated, actually over treated, for urethritis, so I don't think you have worries there. I'm offering you reassurance.
Terri
2. That is also correct. HSV 1 is shed from the mouth of the non-HIV infected person on only about 3 days out of the year.
You've been treated, actually over treated, for urethritis, so I don't think you have worries there. I'm offering you reassurance.
Terri
You are reading content posted in the Herpes Forum
Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
