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raped now I'm hsv1 positive

I'm 18 and I was a virgin untill I got raped about 2 months ago and had a outbreak on my genital which I recently found out is hsv1. I only told my boyfriend which I been with for almost 3 years and he so angry about the whole situation. I know it's not my fault but I can't help but to blame myself and my boyfriend gets mad and curses me out and says that It's not my fault and he's not going no where and he's here to support me no matter what. When the nurse called me and told me that I'm hsv1 positive I asked her how can I prevent from spreading it to other people and she said the virus is in my saliva so don't kiss, share drinks, or anything involving my face and I couldn't pass it on threw sex which I didnt understand because I got it from being raped I had an outbreak on my genital not my face so I got mad and hung up on her and called my doctor and she said don't listening to her I cant pass it by kissing only by having sex during an outbreak. I don't know what to think I'm tired of crying and feeling sorry for myself. I'm just tired of this whole situation and all I want to know is the truth!
QUESTIONS. ***I have genitial hsv1*** not 2
1) can I pass this by kissing or sharing drinks?
2) is it possible for me to have a outbreak on my face?
3) if my genitial hsv1 isn't active and im takeing my medicine and my bf preform oral sex on me could he get it?
4) Is the virus in my saliva?
5) when I'm ready to really become sexually active what are the chance of my bf catching the virus from me with and without me taking medicine
6) I heard with genital hsv1 you don't have that many out break usually just 1-3 three out your whole life is this true?
7) over the years will my body get use to the virus and completely stop having out breaks?
8) is it true that the only way I can pass it is threw sexually activity during an outbreak?
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101028 tn?1419603004
no way to know if your hsv1 is only genital or if you also have it orally too unless you get an obvious cold sore.  If you only have it genitally, kissing isn't a risk.

when is your partner going to get tested for herpes to know his status?

usually hsv1 isn't transmitted from genital sex - typically it's oral sex. since it doesn't reoccur often and doesn't shed much, we don't recommend daily suppressive therapy routinely for it either.
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I will contact the rape crisis center, but what are they going to be doing with me? Can I transmit this through kissing? And in about 5-8 years I want to have a child. Will I give my partner herpes by having unprotected sex while taking the medicine??
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101028 tn?1419603004
I highly recommend seeking out your local rape crisis center too. they are trained to help you deal with all of this. Even though it's been a few months, it's still beneficial to contact them.

hsv1 genitally is the "milder" of the two herpes infections.  Not milder as in less painful but milder as in reoccurs less often and sheds less often.  It's not something you have to worry about transmitting to family members at all. As for your bf, he'll need to seek out his own herpes igg blood testing to see what his status is so that the two of you can make educated decisions about what precautions to take.

your full std testing needs to be done at the right times from the rape. You need tested for trich, gonorrhea, chlamydia any time after 1 week post encounter. syphilis after 6 weeks. hiv and hepatitis after 3 months.  Some hiv tests are accurate at 1 month but you'll need to know exactly what testing for hiv you had done.    we don't test for hpv - should you get obvious warts, be seen promptly for treatment.  
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No I wasn't refered to a rape crisis center
I had a very bad outbreak and she swob my lesion and all she told me was that I'm hsv1 positive and negative for hsv2 and I'm so confused I don't know nothing and I don't wont to pass this on to my bf or family members
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101028 tn?1419603004
so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this :(  have you been referred to a rape crisis center yet?

what testing came back as hsv1+? was it a lesion culture of your genital symptoms or a blood test for herpes?

grace
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