where do i go from here

[what_to_do_now2011]

i found out just days ago that i have genital herpes. i just dont know whre to go fomr here. im in the beginning stages of a relationship with a man. the first time i have really tried a serious approach vs a fling. im so young and rejection is hard as it is. i wont have sex with him without him knowing. but what are the facts nd statistics tht i can give him to inform him WITHOUT completely freakng him out. i wont lie or anything. i just want him to know ill do whatever i have to do to make it safe. btw ive never had an outbreak and i think ive been positive for a few months. im not sure. i went in for a random check up and they asked if i wanted to get checked so i just said sure.  ik you can still get it from someone without having an outbreak but is it really less likely? im trying to make a terrible situation get better.... also is their medicine you can take to make it less likely to pass? or maybe medicine HE can take after sex with me to boost his immune system

[gracefromHHP]

so you had a blood test for herpes that came back as +? if so, can you call and get the results to post here for me to look at - e.g. hsv1 igg 4.3 and hsv2 igg 2.8 or whatever they are so that I can be sure that you had proper testing done and don't need additional confirmatory testing done.

no, nothing your new partner can take to reduce his risk of contracting herpes from you.  

So what do you do if you are hsv2+ and your partner tests hsv2-?  Well if you do nothing but avoid sex anytime you have anything going on genitally, he is 96% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you.  If you also take daily suppressive therapy with valtrex and use condoms too, he is 99% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. Very reasonable odds with not a lot of effort.

have you talked to your new partner about std's and testing in general at all yet?

grace

[william28]

How did you know you have genital herpes ?
Did you have any symptoms ?

Thank you.