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worried !!!

I am 21, and i am terrified of being tested ... i  was recently dating a guy who i found out has Hsv-1 .. I dont know what to do we have never had sex yet  we have kissed what is the likelihood of me getting it? Its been 1.5 mnths since we dated and i have stopped seeing him since i found out.I am scared what should i do , i  realized he had a blister thats why i was worried so i researched it and realized what it  was, i havent seen him since but when we spoke he admitted he was diagnosed with hsv-1. I know i am now  looking to date an old boyfirend and i am afraid to go back if i have it what  should i  do??? I am terrified!!!
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Hsv1 isn't an std if its oral usually and its not serious so many ppl have it its not serious at all research it its nothing to even worry about.
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Hsv1 isn't an std if its oral usually and its not serious so many ppl have it its not serious at all research it its nothing to even worry about.
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Yeah, alot of people have it, you could have even have it before him, even if you have no symptoms.
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True that a lot of people have HSV1 orally and it's not too big a deal to most. Whether some would classify it as an STD is depending on how you contracted it I suppose. Nevertheless, it's still HSV and contagious and most would probably rather not have it. You would probably be ok kissing someone who has no symptoms most of the time, and how are you going to know anyway unless you ask point blank, "Before I kiss you, do you ever have cold sores?", lol. That might get kind of annoying to ask every guy you kiss. But if you just don't kiss anyone when they have obvious sores, then you would probably be pretty safe. Although not impossible, it's pretty low odds to contract HSV1 by kissing someone when they have absolutely no sores on their mouth area I would suspect. And like I said, unless they do, you really have no way to know. Use your own judgement and don't worry too much about it.
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statistically 1 out of every 2-3 people you know has hsv1 orally. It's incredibly common. You might even have it yourself even if you can't recall ever having had a cold sore.  

http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm  has terrific info on oral herpes for more reading for you so you can better educate yourself about this very common infection instead of being so fearful of it that you find yourself running from relationships because of it :)

grace
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Well the  reason why i  checked hsv-1  was because on the last time  he saw me he had  a blister and i didnt   know  what it was  so i was like its  whatever. Yet, the  next day i checked what it was i freaked out!! My  mother  felt the  same way ... so  we   went to the  doctor and he laughed at  me for  freaking out my  issues is i never  had any  signs of anything and i had been with someone for  years  now i have a soar  throat  and i have   noticed  read  bumps ( no white yet  red bumps) on  the  back and side of  my   throat .  So im  freaking out because there may be  a possibility  i date my  ex again  and i dont want  to be like  hey i have hsv-1 now. And honestly  if  before i  was terrifed of  kissing  people  now  i  am  going to  ask for  bloodwork  and  birth certificate  jk... you  guys  have made me  feel  so much better  though  because i was going insane!!! But i could simply be  having a cold because everyone in my  house is sick also :/ thank you guys!!
101028 tn?1419603004
odds are you caught something non-herpes that is causing you to have a sore throat. they are very common this time of the year.

sounds like mom needs to read that link I posted too!
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Grace  thank you  yes  she does !  Funny  enough  she's  calmer then  me,  she told me to calm down. It simply  gosh  what you read online freaks  people  out  because doctor  told  me to relax its nothing  serious  but  what i  read online  ( tons of  pgs of  craziness versus the seeing a doctor  once) the pages  beat it! Thank you !!!!
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this website is so much better then the rest!!!http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm  (less scary)
101028 tn?1419603004
that's why I recommend it regularly :)  It's down to earth advice that is up to date and scientifically accurate. ASHA is tops in their field and have been doing std education of patients and medical providers for many years now. they cosponsor the cdc's std conference every 2 years with them too.
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