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HPV - please help with questions

Hello all,

I know that no one, besides actual doctors, can give the most accurate advice on the questions I have. However, I would like to hear what others think as experience is the best advice sometimes.

I have posted questions before but I am going to repost my story so all who looks at this post know the full details. In October, I went to a strip club and received 3-4 lap dances from the same dancer. I was wearing jeans and underwear and she was wearing a thong. One of the lap dances lasted for about 20 minutes. She grinded on me very hard for some of that time and it felt good. However, nothing else happened besides me sucking on her nipples.

My GF does not know that I went to a strip club. It was stupid and unnecessary as we have a great sexBuccal smear
Causes of sexual dysfunction
Child abuse - sexual
Delayed ejaculation
Erection problems
Female sexual dysfunction
Inhibited sexual desire
Orgasmic dysfunction
Puberty and adolescence
Rape
Safe sex life and she is beautiful, but I am a stupid man. However, I did think that it was a safeSafe driving for teens
Safe sex form of fun even though I am sure she would consider it cheating and rightly so.

In December, I became worried because of a red area on my penisCancer - penis
Curvature of the penis
Penis care (uncircumcised)
Penis pain. I went to the doctor and he did not see anything. I went to another doctor 2 weeks later and he did not see anything. In the meantime, my GF went for her gyno check-up because she noticed a spotBirthmarks - pigmented
Liver spots
Measles, koplik spots - close-up
Mongolian blue spots near the opening of her vagina. I have always known that she contracted HSV from her ex but that was many years ago. She also told me that she had what the doctors thought were warts removed many, many years ago. The doctor removed the spotBirthmarks - pigmented
Liver spots
Measles, koplik spots - close-up
Mongolian blue spots and sent it off. It came back as a precancerous condylomaGenital warts (sp). Her doctor said she probably got it from her ex several years ago and stress likely caused it to pop back up. Her doctor was not really concerned but wanted to see her in 6 weeks to make sure she got all of the wart that she removed.

I went back to the same doctor and he looked again at the areas I was concerned about and said it looked normal. It doesn’t to me but maybe I am creating things now.

My questions for the forum are:

1.What are the chances, however slim, that I got this through a clothes lap dance? Please take into consideration the fact that she grinded on my penis for a good part of each dance but not skin to skin contact was made.

2.Is there an at-home test I could administer to myself to check for warts? I still have a red area with small dots but the doctor does not think they are warts, just normal skin changes.

3.Is it possible that this all happened by chance and my GF had this all along? I am 100% certain she hasn’t been with anyone else in the last several years.

4.Her gyno did not tell her the type of warts. Are all warts potentially precancerous? Is it possible she has type 6 or 11 even though it was determined to be precancerous?

5. The biggest question. If she and I have the same type of warts and I have visible ones or she does, can we spread them to other areas of our genital by having sex? My main concern is not spreading them to her any further.

Thank you all for reading my long post. I hope to have some answers from someone with experience in these matters.
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Would love to hear others thoughts.
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Thanks alex. Anyone else care to comment?
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I am not sure but I posted in std forum and it was moved here. Here is the original post:

Hello all,

I know that no one, besides actual doctors, can give the most accurate advice on the questions I have. However, I would like to hear what others think as experience is the best advice sometimes.

I have posted questions before but I am going to repost my story so all who looks at this post know the full details. In October, I went to a strip club and received 3-4 lap dances from the same dancer. I was wearing jeans and underwear and she was wearing a thong. One of the lap dances lasted for about 20 minutes. She grinded on me very hard for some of that time and it felt good. However, nothing else happened besides me sucking on her nipples.

My GF does not know that I went to a strip club. It was stupid and unnecessary as we have a great sex life and she is beautiful, but I am a stupid man. However, I did think that it was a safe form of fun even though I am sure she would consider it cheating and rightly so.

In December, I became worried because of a red area on my  I went to the doctor and he did not see anything. I went to another doctor 2 weeks later and he did not see anything. In the meantime, my GF went for her gyno check-up because she noticed a spot  near the opening of her vagina. I have always known that she contracted HSV from her ex but that was many years ago. She also told me that she had what the doctors thought were warts removed many, many years ago. The doctor removed the spot and sent it off. It came back as a precancerous condyloma Genital warts (sp). Her doctor said she probably got it from her ex several years ago and stress likely caused it to pop back up. Her doctor was not really concerned but wanted to see her in 6 weeks to make sure she got all of the wart that she removed.

I went back to the same doctor and he looked again at the areas I was concerned about and said it looked normal. It doesn’t to me but maybe I am creating things now.

My questions for the forum are:

1.What are the chances, however slim, that I got this through a clothes lap dance? Please take into consideration the fact that she grinded on my penis for a good part of each dance but not skin to skin contact was made.

2.Is there an at-home test I could administer to myself to check for warts? I still have a red area with small dots but the doctor does not think they are warts, just normal skin changes.

3.Is it possible that this all happened by chance and my GF had this all along? I am 100% certain she hasn’t been with anyone else in the last several years.

4.Her gyno did not tell her the type of warts. Are all warts potentially precancerous? Is it possible she has type 6 or 11 even though it was determined to be precancerous?

5. The biggest question. If she and I have the same type of warts and I have visible ones or she does, can we spread them to other areas of our genital by having sex? My main concern is not spreading them to her any further.

Thank you all for reading my long post. I hope to have some answers from someone with experience in these matters.
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I don't know what you have copied and pasted there....but your questions....


1) None
2) No test
3) Yes, HPV infections can show up years after exposure.
4) The strains that cause warts are considered low risk.
5) Generally continued relations are not a problem. Have your bumps diagnosed and treated if needed.
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