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Hello. I am an adult male, whose been married, and in a committed relationship for several years. I have never cheated on my wife, or my fiance (before we were married) or even my girlfriend (before we were engaged). I have absolutely 0 reason to believe she cheated on me either.
I had a surgery a few years ago, and not long after (a few weeks) I noticed little bumps on my penis. They were on the shaft, close to the pubic area. I didn't really think anything of them. My wife and I weren't having sex, because of the complications and infections from surgery.
I thought maybe they were pimples, so I squeezed one, and nothing came out. I used my thumb nail, and with little effort I pulled it off. It bled a little, I washed and didn't think of them. My wife didn't have any so out of mind they went. I thought maybe razor burn, so I stopped shaving.
I went to the urologist and asked him if they were genital warts, and he said he didn't think so that he wanted to send me to a dermatologist. So I went to the derm, and the derm said that they were "molluscom". He said your body will clear the infection, and you'll be fine, probably within a few months.
Here it is a year later, and I still have these damn things. They have spread and I have some on my pubic area, penis and scrotum. Today, I don't know WHY by I looked in my pee hole, and I seen one! I freakin' flipped.
Over the course of the year, I've been dealing with the depression this caused. I love making love to my wife, but this past year, everytime I think of my penis, I think of some disgusting disease. I am almost 100% convinced that I have genital warts. The only thing that had me thinking I didn't was that my wife didn't. Now she's had HPV vaccines and such and she goes for a pap every 3 months now (abnormal pap and doc says he wants to see her every 3 mos).
Now I see this one in my pee hole, so I spread it a little bit further to get a "better" look. It bled a little bit.
I am so depressed that it makes me sick to my stomach to think of this disgusting virus being in my cells. I am losing sleep over it, and it's distracting me from both my work and my relationships with friends, and family. How can anyone want to be around a loathsome creature like me?
I want them gone. I want the single most aggressive treatment I can get for them. When I go to the doctor, I'm not leaving until I get an answer, and a treatment. I'm pretty sure that getting them removed is going to hurt like hell. I'm not sure if they give you a little gas, or a valium or something but hopefully they do.
I'm married and I don't plan on going anywhere in my relationship. My wife knows I think I have HPV, but she thinks no and wonders why she shows no symptoms. I told her, that she may not show them and I may have them.
I've searched online and I find inconclusive answers to my questions. I did some thinking, and it turns out that my main question is one nobody, no forum or no doctor can answer. The question is, why me?
Perfectly committed relationship for YEARS. All of a sudden, warts.
I can't shake the shame I feel. The disgust in myself. In my body, and the hate I feel towards myself for having such an ugly disease.
I had a surgery a few years ago, and not long after (a few weeks) I noticed little bumps on my penis. They were on the shaft, close to the pubic area. I didn't really think anything of them. My wife and I weren't having sex, because of the complications and infections from surgery.
I thought maybe they were pimples, so I squeezed one, and nothing came out. I used my thumb nail, and with little effort I pulled it off. It bled a little, I washed and didn't think of them. My wife didn't have any so out of mind they went. I thought maybe razor burn, so I stopped shaving.
I went to the urologist and asked him if they were genital warts, and he said he didn't think so that he wanted to send me to a dermatologist. So I went to the derm, and the derm said that they were "molluscom". He said your body will clear the infection, and you'll be fine, probably within a few months.
Here it is a year later, and I still have these damn things. They have spread and I have some on my pubic area, penis and scrotum. Today, I don't know WHY by I looked in my pee hole, and I seen one! I freakin' flipped.
Over the course of the year, I've been dealing with the depression this caused. I love making love to my wife, but this past year, everytime I think of my penis, I think of some disgusting disease. I am almost 100% convinced that I have genital warts. The only thing that had me thinking I didn't was that my wife didn't. Now she's had HPV vaccines and such and she goes for a pap every 3 months now (abnormal pap and doc says he wants to see her every 3 mos).
Now I see this one in my pee hole, so I spread it a little bit further to get a "better" look. It bled a little bit.
I am so depressed that it makes me sick to my stomach to think of this disgusting virus being in my cells. I am losing sleep over it, and it's distracting me from both my work and my relationships with friends, and family. How can anyone want to be around a loathsome creature like me?
I want them gone. I want the single most aggressive treatment I can get for them. When I go to the doctor, I'm not leaving until I get an answer, and a treatment. I'm pretty sure that getting them removed is going to hurt like hell. I'm not sure if they give you a little gas, or a valium or something but hopefully they do.
I'm married and I don't plan on going anywhere in my relationship. My wife knows I think I have HPV, but she thinks no and wonders why she shows no symptoms. I told her, that she may not show them and I may have them.
I've searched online and I find inconclusive answers to my questions. I did some thinking, and it turns out that my main question is one nobody, no forum or no doctor can answer. The question is, why me?
Perfectly committed relationship for YEARS. All of a sudden, warts.
I can't shake the shame I feel. The disgust in myself. In my body, and the hate I feel towards myself for having such an ugly disease.
I wonder how bad it hurts when you come out of the laser treatment?
I can tell you, getting them melon-balled off sucked some serious kaboodle.
I can tell you, getting them melon-balled off sucked some serious kaboodle.
Hey i am going threw the same thing,you are married and have someone by your side helping you threw this. So be strong and you will be fine. I know what it is to fell disgusted, i fell the same way... I even wounder if i should continue because i fell as if my life is over.... Due to my diagnosis,just keep pushing forward and leave to the pros who know about this. I have learned loosing sleep,not being happy will not take it away. So live life,the best you can,good luck.....
Urologist was surprised at how many the other doctor missed. He said that he would like to remove them, under anesthesia, with a laser.
I go in Tuesday.
I go in Tuesday.
I am going to the urologist in a few minutes. I just wanted to post an update. So after having 85 or so removed from my pubic area, penis and scrotum, I examined today. The wounds are healing nicely, but there's several that were missed. I was bleeding a lot, however I counted about 20 or so more that need removed. When I say 20 or so, there's like a small cluster of 3 or so, then another space where there's 5, but they could be mistaken for fordyce spots. Also, along my scrotum, there's a colony of about 13. At the base of the penis, 2 that were missed.
No urologist wanted to see me for a few weeks, but I told the lady on the phone, look if he doesn't cut it off, I'm going to, so either see me as an emergency in the ER when I screw something up, or see me as a patient in the office. I go in at 4:15.
I doubt he'll do anything in the office today. It seems like most doctors want to milk the crap out of your insurance. They find out you have great coverage, so they schedule a consult, a surgery, and about 10,000 follow-ups to see how you are doing.
I want the worst of these off, and then I guess I'll try aldera or some crap for any "flare" ups.
No my question is, if you're body is supposed to clear this stupid infection, why have mine been getting WORSE instead of BETTER before the treatment?
No urologist wanted to see me for a few weeks, but I told the lady on the phone, look if he doesn't cut it off, I'm going to, so either see me as an emergency in the ER when I screw something up, or see me as a patient in the office. I go in at 4:15.
I doubt he'll do anything in the office today. It seems like most doctors want to milk the crap out of your insurance. They find out you have great coverage, so they schedule a consult, a surgery, and about 10,000 follow-ups to see how you are doing.
I want the worst of these off, and then I guess I'll try aldera or some crap for any "flare" ups.
No my question is, if you're body is supposed to clear this stupid infection, why have mine been getting WORSE instead of BETTER before the treatment?
You or your wife could have had HPV for years and never showed it. In fact if she has been having abnormal paps then she more the likely has it as well. It normal does not cause any pain, just a pain in the ***. Good luck, and dont let it bother you that much...and stop stressing, or it will not go away
I went to the derm today. He used this mellon baller like thing and dug about 85 out. I was bleeding pretty good, and he said that he wants to see me in 3 weeks. get any that he missed, and see how I'm healing up. He used a freezing stuff, then dug them out. It sucked.
The one in my pee-hole he won't touch. He wants me to go to a urologist for that. Anyone ever have one removed from there?
The one in my pee-hole he won't touch. He wants me to go to a urologist for that. Anyone ever have one removed from there?
Thanks. I see a derm on Friday. It's the same derm who said it was molluscom or whatever, but I'm not leaving until something is done. I want this crap off of me.
You're not alone, brother. This could've been living in your body for years. I just received a definitive diagnosis today, after several months of other docs telling me it "could" be this and it "could" be that.
I went to a very well-credentialed dermatologist, and he diagnosed me almost immediately. He applied liquid nitrogen, and put me on a prescription for Aldara -- several month regimen. I'm going to follow up monthly for more cryo/checkups. He told me that by spring, I should be clear.
Try to keep your head up. This **** doesn't discriminate, and you're not a leper. The stats with respect to the people who have this are way off -- there are loads of people out there dealing with exactly the same thing you are. I, unlike you, just had casual sex, but it was always protected, and I still got nailed.
So, for whatever it's worth, you've got a friend in me. I'm going through it all too, and I just found the girl of my dreams recently. We haven't had sex yet, and tonight I'm going to have to tell her the hardest thing I've ever had to talk about with a partner. Take solace in the fact that you have a loving wife, and lean on her for support.
Go to a good dermatologist, and get the treatment you need. There are treatments for you -- even for your urethra.
Stay strong,
Max
I went to a very well-credentialed dermatologist, and he diagnosed me almost immediately. He applied liquid nitrogen, and put me on a prescription for Aldara -- several month regimen. I'm going to follow up monthly for more cryo/checkups. He told me that by spring, I should be clear.
Try to keep your head up. This **** doesn't discriminate, and you're not a leper. The stats with respect to the people who have this are way off -- there are loads of people out there dealing with exactly the same thing you are. I, unlike you, just had casual sex, but it was always protected, and I still got nailed.
So, for whatever it's worth, you've got a friend in me. I'm going through it all too, and I just found the girl of my dreams recently. We haven't had sex yet, and tonight I'm going to have to tell her the hardest thing I've ever had to talk about with a partner. Take solace in the fact that you have a loving wife, and lean on her for support.
Go to a good dermatologist, and get the treatment you need. There are treatments for you -- even for your urethra.
Stay strong,
Max
Well I went to work today, and today the shame seemed worse. I feel like an abomination walking around. You know how you want to stay away from people with like the cold or something similar? I feel like people should be staying away from me.
I'm going out to do a job with a client (I'd rather not reveal what I do, I'm rather popular for it int he area and I would hate for my reputation to be ruined), tonight and I feel like too dirty to be around anyone.
I'm still processing the why. I know this could be worse (herpes, HIV, cancer), but this is pretty freakin' bad for me. Not because of any debilitating portion of it, but rather how loathsome this has me feeling.
I'm going out to do a job with a client (I'd rather not reveal what I do, I'm rather popular for it int he area and I would hate for my reputation to be ruined), tonight and I feel like too dirty to be around anyone.
I'm still processing the why. I know this could be worse (herpes, HIV, cancer), but this is pretty freakin' bad for me. Not because of any debilitating portion of it, but rather how loathsome this has me feeling.
stop bring urself down alot of ppl have gw it isnt as serious as u think it is......ur marriend and ur wife.... sumtimes things just stay in ur body for yrs b4 showing up u dont know when u cud have got it......its an immune system thing and ur all depressed and what not just chill out alil and ull be fine... i know how u feel i was so depressed when i found out...just stay healthy take sum vitamins and keep it cool....u can get cream to get find of it, which kind sux sum burn...but ur not disgusting, things happen and its not like its killin u or it hurts, yah its embarrashin as hell tell sum1 u like, but shes ur wife.......i odnt know why evry1 keeps sayiing they feel disgusting, ppl will still talk to you and yah sum will disappear when they find out but sum will stay, i had 1 out break just one and that way bac in march and i just stay happen even when i feel said i pick myself up cus that just makes it worse so stop complainin evry1 and stay healthy its gonna be a cold winter
Moine also ripped off quite easy.... with lil pain... Witch i believe now is what made them spread like wild fire on me. So i stooped ripping them off been using the other method with seems to work great.... The on in the pee hole... Ya that one might be bit of a pain,
See, I'm pretty healthy. I exercise, and eat reasonably healthy. I don't "refuse" snacks, but I don't chow down either.
I guess one of the reasons I believed the doctor was, with just the smallest amount of effort, I could rip them off with my thumb nail. Sure they bled, but it was better than the bump. Then the shame would come that I dug off a wart and was bleeding.
The one in my pee-hole has me really worried. I don't even know how they would treat it. I'm sure it's going to hurt like hell. Pain, and for what? I've been faithful and I'd bet my wife has been too.
How long is the virus active on environmental surfaces? So for instance, say I use the toilet at work, should I bleach the commode after each use to prevent contamination to my co-workers? What about at home? I don't even want to have company, it's that shameful.
I guess one of the reasons I believed the doctor was, with just the smallest amount of effort, I could rip them off with my thumb nail. Sure they bled, but it was better than the bump. Then the shame would come that I dug off a wart and was bleeding.
The one in my pee-hole has me really worried. I don't even know how they would treat it. I'm sure it's going to hurt like hell. Pain, and for what? I've been faithful and I'd bet my wife has been too.
How long is the virus active on environmental surfaces? So for instance, say I use the toilet at work, should I bleach the commode after each use to prevent contamination to my co-workers? What about at home? I don't even want to have company, it's that shameful.
I have been in the same boat. I was told what i had was molluscom and or warts. I noticed one a few months back and i ripped the thing off then felt like two more hiding in the pubs and forgot about them until recently they spreaded, Noticed this about week and a half ago.. At least 20-30 around the base and a few on the shaft. So i started to freak out.... And spent hours and hours reading up on them online. And decied to try a few things. First i bought some tea tree oil. And i take a Q tip and apply it to the warts at least 3 times a day.. I sort of scrub them a lil with the T tip.... Then once every other day i take aspirin and smash it up and apple cider vinegar and make a paste. And apply it directly on the warts and let it stay on for a couple of hours. Also when i take a shower. At the end i soak the effected area with as hot as water as i can stand for at least 5 mins. This will open up the pours. And when i get out i use the q tip with the tea tree oil. The first few days i did not notice much of a change... and felt like this would not work. But i keep with it. And its only been a week and a half and now most of them are gone... Still a few more. Such a relief, I also been taking a multi vitamin. And Garlic pills. To help with the immune system. Not matter if its molluscom or warts you want to bust you immune system so they don't come back, SO eat more healthy exercises, drink more water. and what not.
Now its not such a big deal. And fell great about my self again. I know there is a chance they come back. I have herd them stories. But if you stay on top of it you can build up the immunity if its warts. Or if it is molluscom, You will just git rid of it.
Now its not such a big deal. And fell great about my self again. I know there is a chance they come back. I have herd them stories. But if you stay on top of it you can build up the immunity if its warts. Or if it is molluscom, You will just git rid of it.
I'm still pretty worked up. I feel like a disgusting being. Hell, I got a hair-cut tonight and I felt like I had this horrible secret to keep from everyone.
You arent alone in your why me thinking.
Have a look through my posts to see what Ive been going through
15 years of marriage, only two prior sex partners, faithful all 15 years and now I get warts?
WTF?? (and why me). Im healthy and take good care of myself
Im so paranoid of disease, constantly washong my hands and have been a freak germophobe since I was a kid
why any of us?
Have a look through my posts to see what Ive been going through
15 years of marriage, only two prior sex partners, faithful all 15 years and now I get warts?
WTF?? (and why me). Im healthy and take good care of myself
Im so paranoid of disease, constantly washong my hands and have been a freak germophobe since I was a kid
why any of us?
i have definitely been there and you are NOT alone. it was so hard for me to tell my boyfriend that i had genital warts, but your wife already knows and chooses to stay with you because this problem is so small to what you two have!
HPV usually clears up on it's own because of your immune system, and your immune system can be compromised by stress so DON'T STRESS because you are prolonging this problem.
talk to your doctor about your concerns and treatment options. they are professionals and know more about these situations than you do, so it's best to consult them than to draw conclusions by your own terms.
hope this helps! remember, you aren't the only one dealing with these problems. these types of things happen to lots of people.
HPV usually clears up on it's own because of your immune system, and your immune system can be compromised by stress so DON'T STRESS because you are prolonging this problem.
talk to your doctor about your concerns and treatment options. they are professionals and know more about these situations than you do, so it's best to consult them than to draw conclusions by your own terms.
hope this helps! remember, you aren't the only one dealing with these problems. these types of things happen to lots of people.
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