will hpv cause warts to form all over your body? like little pimples that wont go away. i have them on my penis my wristas ans in the insides of my ankles and 3 on my side. what is this?
I am a 21 year old female who has just been diagnosed with genital warts. I have had 8 sexual partners and ONLY ever had sex using condoms and none have ever broken, but I seem to have contracted the disease. I started with about 6 tiny little warts, but only one week later, today, they have multiplied, spread and the existing ones grown. My GP diagnosed me last week and I have an appointment tomorrow with a sexual health clinic physician to seek treatment. Its a cruel disease, I dont know who gave it to me and probably never will.
I am also in the same position as you in regard to my sex life. I'm so unsure what this means for me!
-Do you meet someone you really connect with then pull out the "oh by the way I have genital warts" card and watch them run a million miles?
-Or do you get to know the person but refrain from sex for ages, untill they finally crack and want to know why you won't sleep with them, so you tell them, then they either also run a million miles, or get angry for leading them on without telling them?
-Or do you sleep with them and take the risk of passing it on, creating another new case, putting them through what you've been through and living with the responsibility of it on your conscience?
I want to be a mum one day, with the right man, but how is that ever going to be possible?
I've always been scared of contracting any STD's hense the reason I've only ever used condoms, but I too am now scared of sex. I'm 21 with my whole life ahead of me. This shouldnt be happening!
Any advice from anyone would be most appreciated!
You think in exactly the same ways that I do.
Unfortunately, I cannot claim to have never had unprotected sex. I have. I perhaps shouldn't have but it is done and there is nothing I can do about it. However - even if I had used protection at times where I didn't, it is still probable that I would have caught the disease.
I am also 21 years old. This is meant to be our sexual prime. However, increasingly I am steering clear of opportunities to have sex with women because of the condition. I'm sure you're the same. As you said, it's very cruel. The annoying thing is the conflict of advice I've been given about it. I mean as I stated in my previous post I've been to the GUM clinic a number of times and they just seem to go by the ethos that if you can't see anything then you're fine to have sex. Get on to the internet and it's a completely different story.
I personally don't feel like I can tell someone I've just met / am dating about all this. I believe it will scare people off. However I guess when people don't tell others, that's when it gets passed on. I suppose the interesting thing about it all is the supposed percentage of people who have HPV. I mean - we're not 2 out of 100. If statistics to be believed it could be as much as 2 out of 5 or certainly 2 out of 10. Only a few of us actually develop the physical symptoms though. I don't know if this means that whoever we sleep with are likely to receive the same symptoms?
If you need someone to talk to online then feel free to say so and I'll try and figure out a way to get you my MSN addy.
I found out I had genital warts a year ago and I finally can say I free of them, but you never know they might always comeback. Now, every time I get a red spot on my genital area, I thinks its a wart. You become paranoid.
Dating is an issue as well. I have been wanting to ask this girl out for months now, I just don't have the guts to do it. When do you tell them about the possible HPV infection, before or after few dates. I have know this person for a year now, but what do you do.
I honestly believe this will make it harder to date, you will get rejected more then before. Eventually, some one won't run.
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I am a 24 year old female who just found out that she had genital warts. I went to the doctor who didn't give me much information about this. Does this mean that I will have it for life? What treatments are there or this? I have been crying and so depressed for days. Im starting to feel like dating or relationships with never happen again. I mean how do you tell someone this and not expect them to go running far far away. I have only had sex with 4 people in my life and 1 in the last 2 years. Its so hard and difficult to handle this. Any information on this would be helpful
Hi. I am a female who was recently diagnosed with genital warts. I just had to go to a 2nd treatment due to their return. I feel the same horrible feelings and fear the rejection. In fact, it has already happened. I have a man friend that unfortunately due to a long distance have not been totally committed for several years, but we always knew one day we'd end up in the same city even if one of us had to quit our jobs. Well, after telling him this situation he says he'll be "there for me" but now it looks as though there is no future. On top of this I've been extremely depressed/crying for weeks now over this whole situation. It was made especially worse since I know who I got it from due to lack of partners and the fact that it appeared in a place where this jerk who I had once called my friend for about 10 years, had forced himself without my permission and without the condom. Granted I pushed him off after his first attempt, but that's all it took. I received an unwarranted advance and a terrible disease that has destroyed my self-esteem and eroded my happiness. This whole situation is awful and if anyone knows where to seek some advice/counseling it would be greatly appreciated. I just don't see myself ever being married one day or ever having children for fear of them appearing and passing it on. I've read really scaries stories on the danger to newborns.
Hello all! I was doing some research and came across this forum. I too had the unfortunate experience of contracting HPV. I found out about 8 years ago while in a committed relationship during college. I will never truly know if he gave it to me, but common sense says "yes". When I first found out I was devastated! After the relationship ended, I was single for about 6 mo's. When I became involved with a new guy, I was faced with the dreadful challenge of telling him before we took things to the next physical level. I won't lie - IT WAS HARD! We sat there and I told him as I became somewhat emotional. He listened and responded by telling me that he respected me even more. We had been together a month at that point and we continued a relationship for 6 1/2 years! We even produced a beautiful daughter :) We were careful at first, but of course we are human and that got tossed out the window. This past January we decided to go our own ways and now I am at square one all over again. Although I had a positive experience w/my past relationship, I am not looking forward to 'disclosing' again - or dealing with the "what are they going to think" dilemma. I have been talking to a new guy for the past month. We met over the computer and are meeting in person this week. Naturally, our conversations tend to lead to sex and are filled with flirtation and anticipation. So - here comes the big moment! I could just ignore it and if the mood is right, go forth and indulge. However, the harsh reality is that I have HPV and I don't want to be "that one" who kept it a secret. A long time ago, shortly after I found out, I realized that this virus - although a huge hinderance - could also be a blessing in disguise. It woke me up and made me pay more attention to my sexual health, but it also put something else into perspective - it would be a true test as to who would be with me FOR ME (as a person)...who truly cared and liked/loved me, flaws and all.
It's not an easy thing to deal with, but it's life. Most of my friends have all dealt with an STD at some point in their lives, but some of us are lucky enough to catch the one that won't go away! Life happens - and sometimes it hands you lemons. Control it and don't let it control you! You can still live a happy life...have children...love and be loved! And remember...it could always be worse.
Keep on keepin' on!
I guess we just got to go out there and not be worry warts. I mean what is it 2 or 3 out of 5 people have this ****. I'v had sex with many many women and none have ever formed any warts and all the girls I have ever dated for a long time have had negative paps. After noticeing several tiny bumps I went ot the doc and found out i had em. I must have had them for some time, seems like they've always been there but noone ever noticed! I guess once the doc gives me the thumbs up, ill be back to well you know...
I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM AND I HAD TO GO THE THE DERMOTOLIST SEVERAL TIMES AND I HAD ABOUT TWENTY SMALL WARTS APPEAR OVER THE COURSE OF ONE YEAR, I CAN TELL YOU I USED ALDARA WITH LITTLE EFFECT, SO I HAD THM FREEZE THEM OFF, THE RED AND PINK SPOTS THAT THE TREATMENT LEAVE BEHIND TAKE ABOUT 6 MONTHS TO GO AWAY, IT SUCKS I KNOW, BUT ITS JUST LIKE BEING FROST BITTEN IF THAT MAKES SENSE, BUT I WILL TELL YOU WHEN THEY FREEZE THEM OFF IT WORKS MUCH BETTER THAN THE SOLUTIONS, GOOD LUCK TO YOU...
Wow its refreshing to be able to chat with other people in the same boat as me. Sometimes this condition makes me feel so alone, especially with the social stigma attached to it. Nobody wants to admit that they have the dreaded things.
I've been living with them for about a year now and I feel like i've reached rock bottom. Sometimes they don't bother me and other times I turn into a depressed wreck. I only got a couple at first but slowly they begun to get out of control. I know who gave me them and I have often felt resentful, but I know now that not everyone who carries the virus develops the warts, and he may have had no idea atall (he is a friend and I would have hoped he'd have told me if he knew!) so now I don't get angry about it.
I have tried various treatments such as Warticon and the Cryo (freezing) but each without much success. I've got to admit I didn't use the treatments thoroughly enough at first, which is maybe why im still suffering? I'm now in the middle of a treatment called Aldara, which is meant to stimulate the bodies immune system into fighting the virus. Warticon is the least powerful, which is why I think they give it to new cases. This may be why people have not experienced much success with it. Keep badgering your doctor like I did and they might give you something stronger. I'd love to try the laser treatment or surgery, but I know those methods are only for extreme cases (or the rich kids!)
I actually work in an STI clinic on reception (ironically!), and I can tell you now warts are the least problematic queries I have to deal with. It is a very tame STI with little to no health complications, compared to a lot of the other infections. Therefore, consider yourselves lucky indeed. You wouldn't believe how many people I talk to with them aswell, which is comforting. 3 of my friends I confided in also had dealt with the same burden, so they're unbelievably common.
As for sexual relations, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and he adores me, warts and all. He was with me with me when I developed them, and Im lucky that he sees me for the person I am inside. As for future sexual partners, I am scared of what they may think. I could just dive in there and hope they don't develop the signs, but I am far too caring and don't think I could do that to someone. I know from my current boyfriend that if somebody loves you deeply enough, they really will not care. And if they do, they're not worth bothering with anyway. A tip though, maybe wait till they've got to know you thoroughly before you let it slip (then they'll be so head over heels they wont care!)
I have read extensively about the condition. The most important advice I can give you is to keep your immune system healthy. Aswell as the topical medications and the freezing, make some changes in your lifestyle to help your body stay on top of the virus. You will never eradicate it, but the warts will disappear if your body has enough control over it. Good nutrition is essential, if you can't bear to cut out the **** in your diet like me, take vitamins. Vit C is the best for strengthening your immune system, aswell as A, E and zinc. (go to http://www.moondragon.org/health/disorders/warts.html for the best details on this) Make sure you're exercising regularly and proportionately chilling out. Stress is one of the worst compromises to your immunity, so if youre gettin angry all the time consider what its doin for your warts! Me and my boyfriend row a lot, and he has a lot of issues that get on top of me. That is why I'm considering leaving this relationship, for the state of my health. I have only just begun making my lifestyle changes, so I will report back with any news soon.
If you're worried they won't go away (like me) just keep in mind some interesting statistics that a fifth of people that develop warts clear them in six months, and two thirds in two years. They are quite likely to recur, but if you keep your life happy and healthy, your body is more likely to keep them at bay.
I am in the middle of working on some mental exercises to help clear them. Positive thinking has been known to shrink tumours and cure cancers, so surely a little old wart shouldnt pose too much of a threat? I think this needs regular practise though, something I haven't had the time to put into. If you want to make a go at this I recommend using your imagination to 'battle' the warts. (I imagine loads of little replicas of myself that represent my immune system, each with different weapons attacking the wart virus which I have personified as a monster! and killing them obviously!) I have no idea if this doing any good but if studies on placebos are correct than this could be definitely worth investigating.
Hope this has been useful for you guys out there. Stay strong!
I was supposed to go out tonight, one of my mates sisters was hooking me up with one of her freinds.
I've met her once and find her attractive and was really looking foward to tonight, getting to know her some more. Yet, at the same time, i was worried like hell, because I've had genital warts for some time and have kept it secret from all my family and freinds.
The warts, one day, i noticed a very small lump, it wasworrying, but i didnt think to much of it, because i handt been that sexually active. Eventually, it turned to three lumps and one was large. It didnt seem to change for ages, now, there are many, the ones that are there are mostly small and dont seem to be increasing in size, but they do seem to be spreading slowly.
I've pretty much been living in denial and been too affraid to face the reality of it all, i guess i've been somewhat living a lie an pretending that the problem is there.
I've avoided going out alot, and avoiding making any attempts at meeting girls and trying to get sex, even purposely blowing chances that occured or making something up.
I know that i really dont want to pass on the infetion to anybody, so i've avoided making attempts at a sex life.
I did try one form of treatment, i forget the product, i got it over the internet, there were lots of posative testimonials, which seemed very promising and had me hopefull. However, i used the product, as instructed(some days i was a little slack) , and got no results what so ever.
I kind of gave up after that.
Its just so dam hard, i ended up decideing to not go out tonight, which is very depressing and now i feel like the time has come to tell my family and freinds but that terrifies me. I fear loosing my freinds and just dont think i'd feel confortable around anymore anymore once they knew, and imagine that they wouldnt want to be around me, out of fear of catching somehow, even though its sexually transmitted..
It is so depressing because, i was shy around girls in highschool and never made the most out of being popular with them, and i only really had a small percentage of life where i was really confudant with the oppisote sex and felt that i was doing well.
I've never experianced a long term/serious relation ship, and never been one to have a regular sex life, i've really just had the odd hook up or one night stand here an there or short relationship. some of which, it was only oral sex or less.
I dont know how i got it, or how long i've had it.
I went through a bad drinking stage and wonder if a night out whilst sh*t faced an waking up not knowing where i was the nexy day(lol sounds like iam a female saying that), if it coulda happned on a night like that?
I was always one to enjoy the mixture of being quite social, yet always liked my video games and stuff, now, because of the warts, and for a few years now, i spend so much time on the internet or talking to girls on-line more than real life, or playing video games an drinking(not as much as i did for a while there), i feel happy at times, becasue i have lots of hobbies and things that i enjoy, yet, feeling that i cant have a sex, like, its not a matter of not getting out or failure, it just dosent seem like a option, an having good freinds and family has helped keep me happy, but the fear of loosing all that.
Life just seems good yet really bad at the same time, and whilst i like time to myself and enjoy hobbies, i feel my social life is suffering and that will only be the case more so as time go's on.
I was never a nerd in school, i like anime an rpgs/video games an stuff, but now, i act like a nerd alot an with the amount of time i spend being anti social, but its like like i dont want to be around girls or cant get them, its that i have been to affaid to face this harsh relaity.
Seems cruel that someone how never had a huge sex life or real relation ship could catch something like this.
I hear some of you talk of a partner how loves you enough to still be with you, i just cant see myslef ever being so lucky.
I've pretty much ressorted to just drinking, playing video games and looking at hentai.
I have a good job, good money, good car, good freinds, but this just out weights all of that and turns me more towards solitude, i feel happy, in my own little world, yet wake up depressed an fear being lonely.
i do get some confort reading words from people that are going through the same thing as me. I wouldnt wish it upon anyone.
But yeah, things could indeed be worse.
Hi there -
First,. you need to see a doc to see if what you have is even genital warts. It might not be. If it is, they can treat them for you, and make them go away. You might still be infectious for awhile after, but once you've gone about 2 years with no outbreaks, you aren't infectious anymore.
You might have some normal skin things going on. You need to find out what these are. You have shut your life down and you don't even know if you have it.
If you don't want to see your regular doc for this, then try a Planned Parenthood, if you are in the US, or an std clinic.
There's no reason to live like this.