Dear all,
thanks to all of you investing your precious time into resolving my anxiety.
I am a married man, married about six months ago to this fabulous woman I have dated for about a year.
Many years back, though, when I was dating my second-last ex, I happened to develop this wart on the base of my penis that was later diagnosed to be condyloma. At the time though, the doctor just gave it a visual inspection, said it was condyloma, and laserd it clear.
It was first time having sex for both my ex and myself, and I had no idea where I caught HPV. I really had no clue. I accused my ex of the origin of the STD, which she denied very strongly. We couldn't see an end to the fight, so we had no choice but to break up. (By the way, her OBGY smear came out negative for every STD. according to her.)
Disheartened, I had stayed single for a couple of months before I came across another woman, my last ex. We had sexual contact, but one day she developed vaginitis. Her smear came back positive for (if I remember correctly) mycoplasma and ureaplasma. Feeling very depressed, I had no choice but to break up with her. I felt as if every woman I love ended up with an STD. That felt terrible. I was almost certainly not the origin of her STD (I was neither her first nor was she faithful), but regardless, I hated how my love turns into germ fight every single time in the end.
The next woman I met is my wife. We dated for over a year, and in the end got married. But somewhere along the middle, I developed condyloma-like thingy again on my genitalia, so I went to a university hospital for biopsy. The biopsy report came back positive for bowenoid papulosis. I did a bit of research and found out that it was a pre-cancerous lesion, most likely due to HPV 16 or 18.
Feeling very ****** and cursed, I disclosed my past to my wife and thankfully she understand what has happened in the past. However, very unfortunately, my wife's pap came back strong positive for HPV 16 (she had not received HPV vaccine), but inactive(?) that her gynecologists told her to come back 6 months later to see whether it gets self cured (which, according to the doc, happens frequently).
We are about 4 months? away before her next checkup, and we are staying abstinent.
However, God please forgive me, I had a one-night extramarital relationship with some stranger. The next day, I developed fever, but I took acetaminophen and the fever resolved quickly. About two days later (which was yesterday), I developed some painful sore in the roof my mouth, tongue and throat.
Being very scared, I went to see my urologist today, he said although it is unlikely that it is due to STD, that I should come back about a month or two later for full-scale STD checkup. He also prescribed me levofloxacin and NSAID, which I just took after last meal.
Guys, I feel very cursed as I do not know where I picked up this HPV from. I also feel very tainted and dirty to have developed such STDs.
Can anybody please tell me what I should do with my life.
What am I going to do with my HPV. What is the possible cause of my pharyngitis (or whatever that's going on in my mouth).
I think I've just kinda let myself go after I found out about HPV. I've become much more open and slutty ever since.
f my life.