oh one more thing I forgot to cover,,,,as far as getting hormone levels tested,,if her ovaries where removed the estrogen and progestrone will be zero.there is sometimes a trickle of testostrone left,,
First i must say this is not from my own experince i have heard from some of my family members as they were going through this, I have heard when a women has a hysterectomy she feels as if she has lost something gets the feeling as if whats the point some of my family also say that it can be painful as for what their husbands have said is that you have to be patient it takes awhile for all of the womens feelings and hormones to get back on track after a hysterectomy part or full agian this is not from my own personal experince
Here is my thoughts it could be two things bothering your wife.
the first is emotional,,many women feel that when their female organs are removed this makes them less of a woman, its sure not true, but for many it is difficult to not feel that way. Especially if they had desired another child or never had a child.
After a hysterectomy as you know the hormones do change...womens desires can decrease and there are some unpleasant side effects like hot flashes and night sweats,,,,the good news is this can be helped..Yes hrt is very contraversial. A heart dr will say it is bad a bone dr will say it is good...if hormones are not working for her or difficult to get there is an herbal product called Black Kosch ..it helps many with the unpleasant side effects..which if she is not feeling so miserable she may be more desiring of sex. You should ask Drs opinion of herbals before taking.
I think its very good of you to seek help for her and yourself it shows great love and understanding..As the poster above says women are frightened the first time after a hyster (I was) we are scared it will hurt..be very gentle and slow,,perhaps do not insert all the way..also lubrication decreases after a hysterectomy so some lubricating gel helps....she probably will not enjoy sex untill she has it a few times and realises it does not hurt...it is still very possible for a woman to climax but it is not as intense.
If you have any more questions that I did not cover or if you would prefer to speak in private your more than welcome to PM me.
Cherie