Thank you both Bhupinder Kaur, MD, & Sanjivani Wanjari, MD, .
I have spoke to my husband about how I have been feeling, and the no desire mood. He said that makes a lot of since. But he still tries to do things with me, and the feeling just isn't there.
When I went to see my Gyn he did all the blood work to see if my body was in Menopausal mode, Including the Thyroid tests. He said they all came back negative.
Stress on the other hand could very well be the problem. When is a woman not in stress?
My husband has very big shoulders, and is dealing with a lot. His mother died 5 years ago. He lost his sister a 1 yr and a half ago due to Acute Pneumonia, She was 39 yrs old. Five weeks ago he lost his Dad to Throat Cancer, and just 3 weeks ago he has lost his Brother to Diabetes, He was 43. Then just 2 weeks ago my husband was in the ER for possible Heart Attack. Thank God it was not! The Cardiologist thinks he may have Vertigo. They also think he might have had a mild Heart Attack and not realized it, because they found enzymes in his blood work. Still waiting on the ECO results also.
Our Daughter whom is 20, has a rare disorder of Factor Five Leiden. She had 5 miscarriages all with in a 1 yr and a half. The Doctors told her Not to get pregnant or try to get pregnant so her body may heal. She did not listen, She got pregnant with her son about 4 months after. She was on a High Alert Pregnancy, and had to take medicines for clotting. Our Grandson was born May 12, 2013. Healthy Baby Boy. The Doctor's told her again to not get pregnant. Wait at least a year to two years. Again she did not listen, she came up pregnant in July of 2013 and is due in April of 2014. So in essence that is stress alone for the well being of our Daughter. So far she has had a healthy Pregnancy.
I guess you can say I have a little stress. I worry all the time for my husband, and my Children, what Wife and Mother doesn't. I just feel like what I am dealing with won't go away, and my husband will leave me for it. I always hear a "Man" can not live without sex.
There is always something for men to take for their issues with Sexual pleasures, or whatever. Is there anything a woman can take for stuff like this? The lubricating gels, will they help me get the Sexual Drive I need? Is there something I can take that does not have Estrogen in it?
It has been almost 2 straight weeks since my husband I have done anything, he is annoyed! I am very well sure of!!!
Loss of libido can be seen after menopause. This can be aggravated by mood swings, irritability and depression. Hence you can continue with the medications or consult your Doctor regarding a change of medicines. Since you cannot use HRT you can use lubricating gels. Also consult your Doctor regarding use of oestrogen creams which act locally. Distressing and regular exercise will be good for you.
The answer is based on information provided. Exact advice is not possible without a proper examination and investigations. You are requested to consult your Doctor. Take care and keep us posted.
It is true that loss of libido is very commonly found in women and mostly the cause is psychological in nature. It can be due to stress and anxiety or relationship problems with your partner. Talk to your husband for the psychological support. If you are having any stress, then this psychological support will help. A healthy affectionate communication with the partner helps in decreasing anxiety and stress.
However if there is no stress and anxiety then the physical causes need to be ruled out. These include anemia, diabetes and hormonal imbalance. Some investigations which need to be done( some may have been done in the hormonal studies) are follicle stimulating hormone levels, estradiol, thyroxine and thyrotrophin levels in the blood test reports.
It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.