i had a total in 2018, at 30 years old and woke up to my grandmother, who had raised me since my mom died when i was 16, passing at the exact moment i woke from surgery. i left the hospital 2 days later to burry her. shortly after my ex tried to take all parental rights from me for my middle daughter(diffrent dad than my other 2) the horomones made me absolutely psychotic. I lost my call center job and also even in a convience store. the hot flashes were and still drive me crazy. I also had severe onset of lower back pain and now have sensitivity to lactose, gluten and have IBS. i thought i was depressed at first and then i started speed skating with my other two children. I was able to not only mediate my back pain to where i can actually get out of bed in the morning but due to the testosterone and other hormones realased with the extreeme workout of the thighs ceased to take any medicine. The dopamine released with a good workout seems to mediate everything except the hot flashes. Im actually more peaceful now than ever. If i get grumpy my hubby kicks me out togo skate a mile or two. i literally come home a diffrent person. Im not saying you have to skate but definately something that gives a good leg workout may do wonders for her. its been 5 years since my hystorectomy, of which at the time of the surgery i was treating bipolar, adhd, add. severe anxiety disorders, crowd anxiety and later depression. I was also taking clonzapin 1 mg 4x a day, adderall 90 mg per day, and rememeron 30 mg at night and still staying up for days, being as wide open and b!tchy as ever. I take nothing but a skate every evening now and feel like im in the best shape of my life
I am sorry your wife's gyn removed all her parts. Mine were also removed (needlessly since all that needed to be removed was an ovarian cyst). For me, the effects were severe in every way. I became suicidal and aged dramatically overnight (hair, skin, vision, muscle mass) and couldn't function... couldn't concentrate, think logically, remember anything, couldn't sleep, etc. Estrogen was a huge help for me.
Was she possibly on too little or too much estrogen or a delivery route that didn't suit her? The patch was miserable for me. I am now on the estradiol pill.
If estrogen doesn't help her, there are many choices of anti-depressants or she could try a supplement such as St. John's wort or 5-HTP. Those are the ones that come to mind although I suspect there are others.
I wish you both the best with this.