HI there, I like a person I've recently met and we connected well. We want to get sexual but heard that she has glandular fever. I did a bit of research on Glandular fever and figured out that it's a bit hard to handle if infected eventhough not life threatening.
A little background about myself.
I'm 28 , male, healthy , energetic , always active, didn't have any sexual relations with anyone since a lot of years. I only have sex when in relationship and nothing outside that. So this is a relationship after many years(more than 10 years). I've been a careful person in terms of sexual relationships. So I don't want to risk getting infected and suffer with it. My query is to know what activities could be deemed safe to do as part of us getting sexual that would not risk me getting infected. I have a few questions below and would love for you to add some more things I don't know.
1) I've read kissing is a no since there would be an exchange of saliva. Can you please explain me how to kiss safely if possible or any other precautions related to kissing.
2) Since saliva contains the EBV virus, what are the chances of getting infected if she gives me oral and her saliva is all over my penis.
3) If I give her oral or lick her vagina , what are the chance of me getting infected by the virus since i might ingest her vaginal fluids.
4) Also what are the chances of contracting the virus if I have unprotected sex with her since we are planning to have unprotected sex due to the trust in our relationship
5) How safe is unprotected anal sex in this case and how safe is it in normal situations when a person has no confirmed STD's.
I've read that since the virus lives in the body till the end, I do not want to risk infecting the next person i come contact with who could be a future wife and kids.
Also , I do not want to risk getting too sick to even get along with daily life and hence willing to walk out of this relationship if the odd's are against it. A few week of emotional pain is better than months or years of physical pain and suffering.