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How did someone you loved break up with you?
I had to post this one...I was with a man, whom I thought he was the one. My heart told me he was the one. He had all the qualities and beyond that I ever wanted in a man. One day he sent me a text, yes, a phone text saying, "I'm sorry, but I don't want to be in committed relationship, I'm not feeling it". I responded, You are kidding me right? and she said, "Andy loves you, be with him". I was stunned, shocked and could not believe how classless he really was when he couldn't confront me and was such a coward to do it by text. Unbelieveable. I loved him, but I responded, "and you call yourself a Christian. You are cold hearted and have no conscience, but I promise that one day, it will catch up to you and when it does....remember me". He apologized and I responded, "Refrain from any contact, you will be easy to forget." The next day I changed my cell number (got a nice new Iphone) and my ex contacted me and I am now engaged and treated with respect, dignity and like a Queen, but I will never forget that someone actually broke up with me by text message....u n b e l i v e a b l e!
Hey guys, tot Id fill ye in on the past week, best of my life because Im now the aunt to a beauliful little boy called Jack William! he was born a month premature so is tiny (4 pounds 7 and a half oz) but he is absolutly gorgeous. . . had a stressful week as we didnt know what would happen but so far so good....
You are a beautiful and very special and was unappreciated!!! His loss! Go out and have a great time and you have now become much wiser to never let anyone take advantage of you again....we all have been there, so you are in good company....keep us updated...Judy
Cheers Judy, i just feel a lil sick about the whole situation... Was a sham from the begining.. Im out dating at the mo and enjoying myself so we'll see. Have a 21st sat night and a fella Iv been on a few dates with will be there so should be a good night! hopefully anyway!
hes the last thing on my mind now days, and if I see him out Im not even going to notice hes there! Wouldn't wayte anymore time on that loser!
hes the last thing on my mind now days, and if I see him out Im not even going to notice hes there! Wouldn't wayte anymore time on that loser!
Awww Jen,
He was the loser from the very beginning. You were just an innocent victim and you should be relieved he has been exposed for what he is a loser. Don't be so hard on yourself, you deserve good things in life and a great man will come along at the right time. Hugs, Judy
He was the loser from the very beginning. You were just an innocent victim and you should be relieved he has been exposed for what he is a loser. Don't be so hard on yourself, you deserve good things in life and a great man will come along at the right time. Hugs, Judy
Well than it was the best thing to find out. It gave you the closure you needed and the drive to push you to getting over him. Things happen for a reason.
Well yesterday was the icing on the cake as far as he is concerned.... I now offically dont give to dams about that jerk!! feels good to say it and actually mean it!!!!! like a weight has been lifted!
You will and the more you dislike him the better you will be.
haha a saddo is someone who is thick, lame something like that anyway! Stupid for trusting so much but I can now say Im getting on with things and I see a better place for me! I just need to heal that bit more!!!!
You're not a saddo (don't know what that is though...lol), he was just very convincing that's all. We live and we learn kiddo...I'm still learning at 32. Next time, you will probably be more keen to pick up on things that you wouldn't have before. Hopefully the man of your dreams will come to you. Until then, focus on yourself and healing yourself mentally and emotionally.
Well my ex broke up with me throug text! so many times ha and I kept falling for his stupid apologies haha! some clown!
Found out yesterday when i got together with him he had a girlfriend! :-o I had no idea now I feel like the other woman! When we started talking on nights out I knew he had a girlfriend which is why I stayed well away, We hooked up in feburary 2007 and he told me he broke up with her the x mas of 2006.. more fool e for believing him, I feel terrible... He was litterally lying to me from day one! What id like to know now is how long he stayed with her after getting with me......I was so shocked yesterday when I was told, so he cheated on her, then cheated on me and I know believe he was seeing his current g/f towards the end of our relationship....... im such a saddo for believeing him!
Found out yesterday when i got together with him he had a girlfriend! :-o I had no idea now I feel like the other woman! When we started talking on nights out I knew he had a girlfriend which is why I stayed well away, We hooked up in feburary 2007 and he told me he broke up with her the x mas of 2006.. more fool e for believing him, I feel terrible... He was litterally lying to me from day one! What id like to know now is how long he stayed with her after getting with me......I was so shocked yesterday when I was told, so he cheated on her, then cheated on me and I know believe he was seeing his current g/f towards the end of our relationship....... im such a saddo for believeing him!
The other woman breaking up on his behalf? I thought my by phone text breakup was bad, but that was right up there with coward and classless.
I'm still very effected by the one that I loved and spent so much time with to do what he did. If I were not a Christian and have great faith in God, it would have destroyed me, because it happened right in the middle of my greaving the death of my mom, BUT, the Lord works in mysterious ways, I'm stronger than ever!!!!
I'm still very effected by the one that I loved and spent so much time with to do what he did. If I were not a Christian and have great faith in God, it would have destroyed me, because it happened right in the middle of my greaving the death of my mom, BUT, the Lord works in mysterious ways, I'm stronger than ever!!!!
Well a guy i was with for about a 1 1/2 years, basically didn't even tell me he wanted to break up. He just moved on and started another relationship with someone else. I didn't find out about this for a month, so when i confronted him about it, the other girl was there and SHE was the one who basically broke it off with me, instead of him. He just stood there nodding the whole time and then just gave me a muddled sorry. Then he later told me, that he didn't want to hurt me by telling me he was breaking up with me, and he thought it would be easier if he just moved on.
Ya that was enjoyable, the jerk
Ya that was enjoyable, the jerk
Trina, Sammy & Mami "Thank You" for your responses and although I am now engaged, I am still very affected by my ex boyfriends cruel mannerizm. I know that one day everything he said to me is going to come back and bite him in the butt! I just feel it, but I don't ever want to see him or hear from him again. I read each and every post and felt your hurt and pain. I wonder if they truly do remember the one's they hurt...I think so and how emotionally damaging their actions and behavior had on us. Judy
You know what's odd about your situation Judy, for some reason I feel like your ex either knew that your current fiance had feelings still for you or you perhaps had feelings for him to and maybe stepped aside. Could that be possible? I know that there was a much better way for him to have broken up with you though.
Well when my fiance and I first started dating, he also had his ex in his life. She was a manipulating b*tch who did everything in her power to split us up. She went as far as to tell him after months of us dating that she was sorry for all the things she had done to him and wanted another chance. She cried to him and he obviously still had feelings for her and decided since they had history, to give it another shot. Well at the time he was living in Puerto Rico and we were having a long distance relationship. Although we weren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend yet, he had talked with me about taking our relationship to the next level because he was going to move back to NY. Well one night he calls me and tells me that he's not ready for a relationship and that he thinks it's best if we just end it. This was over the phone. So of course I was hurt and questioned where it was coming from. I had a feeling she was part of the reason why he didn't want to be with me anymore. So a few days later, I couldn't fight the urge anymore and I called him up. I asked him why all of a sudden does he not want to be with me and did she have something to do with it and he admitted to me that yes, they had gotten back together again. I told him that she's a liar and a cheat and one day he will realize that and I give them a couple of months before she dogs him out again. I told him that she didn't really want him but she didn't want me to have him and that she just wanted him when she felt him and I were getting closer. Once the challenge of getting him was over, she would toss him out again. Well I told him that I was deleting his number and to never call me again. Which I did, and I had also had a confrontation phone call with her because apparently he moved back to NY and was with her. So I told her things about our relationship that she didn't know about, just because she was a total b*tch. Well a couple of months later I get a phone call from him. Apparently, she had cheated on him and it all went down the way I had told it would and I felt vindicated. He realized it was a mistake and he couldn't stop thinking about me. He was going through a tough time and she wasn't really there for him. His mom was dying of cancer and he felt like because of the things he had done to me, he was being punished some how. I told him that wasn't true, but I wound up supporting him during this time and we've been together ever since. But I think the way he had initially broken up with me was such a cowardice move. It broke my heart and it was so undeserved.
Well when my fiance and I first started dating, he also had his ex in his life. She was a manipulating b*tch who did everything in her power to split us up. She went as far as to tell him after months of us dating that she was sorry for all the things she had done to him and wanted another chance. She cried to him and he obviously still had feelings for her and decided since they had history, to give it another shot. Well at the time he was living in Puerto Rico and we were having a long distance relationship. Although we weren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend yet, he had talked with me about taking our relationship to the next level because he was going to move back to NY. Well one night he calls me and tells me that he's not ready for a relationship and that he thinks it's best if we just end it. This was over the phone. So of course I was hurt and questioned where it was coming from. I had a feeling she was part of the reason why he didn't want to be with me anymore. So a few days later, I couldn't fight the urge anymore and I called him up. I asked him why all of a sudden does he not want to be with me and did she have something to do with it and he admitted to me that yes, they had gotten back together again. I told him that she's a liar and a cheat and one day he will realize that and I give them a couple of months before she dogs him out again. I told him that she didn't really want him but she didn't want me to have him and that she just wanted him when she felt him and I were getting closer. Once the challenge of getting him was over, she would toss him out again. Well I told him that I was deleting his number and to never call me again. Which I did, and I had also had a confrontation phone call with her because apparently he moved back to NY and was with her. So I told her things about our relationship that she didn't know about, just because she was a total b*tch. Well a couple of months later I get a phone call from him. Apparently, she had cheated on him and it all went down the way I had told it would and I felt vindicated. He realized it was a mistake and he couldn't stop thinking about me. He was going through a tough time and she wasn't really there for him. His mom was dying of cancer and he felt like because of the things he had done to me, he was being punished some how. I told him that wasn't true, but I wound up supporting him during this time and we've been together ever since. But I think the way he had initially broken up with me was such a cowardice move. It broke my heart and it was so undeserved.
Judy, that is SHOCKING!!! Why do it like that? My instant reaction is cowardice. Dumping someone isn't easy to do, and it's much harder when you are looking them in the face than typing into your mobile. Plus you never know how they might react. So doing it by text is easier, and you don't have to deal with the partners' reaction. But undoubtably cowardly.
When my wife first said she thought we should separate, she had the decency to make sure we had a time when we could sit down together and talk, and the kids wouldn't bother us, and we could take as long as we needed to talk about it, and she would calmly answer any questions I had. She didn't admit at the time that she'd cheated on me, although at that point it had been just the one one-night-stand.
The way she did it is probably as good as you're going to get - although not entirely effective in this case, over 2 years later we're still not totally split up...
When my wife first said she thought we should separate, she had the decency to make sure we had a time when we could sit down together and talk, and the kids wouldn't bother us, and we could take as long as we needed to talk about it, and she would calmly answer any questions I had. She didn't admit at the time that she'd cheated on me, although at that point it had been just the one one-night-stand.
The way she did it is probably as good as you're going to get - although not entirely effective in this case, over 2 years later we're still not totally split up...
Aww Judy. I can't understand how he just texted you to break up and how he used the coldest words. I think it's even worse when you don't expect it and when you've been with someone so long.
As for me. I can't say I loved my x but I cared about him in some kinda way. I felt love would eventually grow. Well after 1 1/2 years he never really showed I was important to his future. I wondered if I even belonged there.
Anyways.. He apparently had someone on the side and told me. He said that I was always more like wife material than girlfriend material. I just took all that he said; I took it like a champ. I said no matter what I'd never go back to him or accept his apology that I knew eventually he'd give.
I felt he did it to find away to leave me because I wasn't givin' anything up . I guess it was all inevitable since he's a HUGE womanizer...
A few days later he said he was sorry, that he loves me and hopes we can be best friends if I choose not to take him back. I told him it was better we don't talk since he felt that way about me and he did what he did. He said he would show me he felt different. Now every once in awhile he asks about my new relationship and talks about how he hopes I don't get married cuz theirs no one out there for him. I don't care at all what he has to say. I would never ever go back. It's been a year and a few months and he sadly still has hopes I'll be with him...
I'm so cold to him, yet he keeps trying every 3 months. I guess every 3 months when he gets bored of his latest gf.
Anyways, I guess I was more angry that I spent all that time on that loser knowing what I knew about him. I was also mad that he had me and that other woman almost the whole time. Mad that I never would have known if he didn't tell me and that he wasn't even remorseful of what he did when he broke up with me. I felt like something must me wrong with me because all my relationships I've been cheat on.
Oh welll.. I blame myself totally for that one. He was just a really baddd choice.
As for me. I can't say I loved my x but I cared about him in some kinda way. I felt love would eventually grow. Well after 1 1/2 years he never really showed I was important to his future. I wondered if I even belonged there.
Anyways.. He apparently had someone on the side and told me. He said that I was always more like wife material than girlfriend material. I just took all that he said; I took it like a champ. I said no matter what I'd never go back to him or accept his apology that I knew eventually he'd give.
I felt he did it to find away to leave me because I wasn't givin' anything up . I guess it was all inevitable since he's a HUGE womanizer...
A few days later he said he was sorry, that he loves me and hopes we can be best friends if I choose not to take him back. I told him it was better we don't talk since he felt that way about me and he did what he did. He said he would show me he felt different. Now every once in awhile he asks about my new relationship and talks about how he hopes I don't get married cuz theirs no one out there for him. I don't care at all what he has to say. I would never ever go back. It's been a year and a few months and he sadly still has hopes I'll be with him...
I'm so cold to him, yet he keeps trying every 3 months. I guess every 3 months when he gets bored of his latest gf.
Anyways, I guess I was more angry that I spent all that time on that loser knowing what I knew about him. I was also mad that he had me and that other woman almost the whole time. Mad that I never would have known if he didn't tell me and that he wasn't even remorseful of what he did when he broke up with me. I felt like something must me wrong with me because all my relationships I've been cheat on.
Oh welll.. I blame myself totally for that one. He was just a really baddd choice.
sorry, I meant, 'HE said"
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