It is possible that hormones could be contributing to you feeling out of control. Whenever there is chronic health problems or pain, there can be a mental component that could be mediated by hormones and/or stress hormones. Stress can also contribute to the feeling out of control. I suggest that you see your doctor or mental health professional to make sure the hormones are ok and that you do not have any serious mental health issues. If these are in order, or in addition you can also do things to bring back a sense of well-being and control by doing some mind-body techniques. Try to find someone in your area that would specialize in mind-body medicine.
The mind/body approach emphasizes the connections between the mind, body, and behavior. It consists of any method wherein you use your mind to change your behavior or physiology in order to promote health or recover from illness. Mind/body approaches include techniques that induce the relaxation response (yoga, mindfulness, deep breathing, repetitive prayer, body scan, progressive relaxation), cognitive therapy either within a group or one-on-one with a therapist, and coping skills for stress management. Mind/body approaches and programs have proved highly successful at increasing pregnancy rates and decreasing distress for women struggling with infertility. Common approaches are: Meditation, Relaxation Therapy, Centering Prayer.
I wish you wellness.