There comes a time in your life when you finally get it... When in the midst of all your hurt, anger, fear and insecurities, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out- ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on.
And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective...
Slowly you begin you begin reassessing and remembering who you are and what you really believe in. You begin to discard the doctrines you have outgrown, or should never have practiced to begin with.
You accept the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will like you, appreciate you or approve of who you are... and that’s OK... they are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You realize that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something, or someone to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that there aren’t always fairytale endings; or beginnings for that matter and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You begin making your way through the "reality of today" rather than holding out for the "promise of tomorrow".You realize that much of who you are and the way you navigate through life is in great part, a result of all the social conditioning you’ve received over the course of a lifetime.
You stop working so hard at smoothing things over and trying to fix everything; it’s not giving up, it’s accepting things you can’t change. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right to want or expect certain things. And you learn the importance of communicating your needs with confidence and grace.
You learn how to say I was wrong and to forgive people for their own human frailties. You learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture.
You learn to walk away from drama and people who create it. And, at the same time, you eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify you. You avoid toxic people and conversations and stop wasting time and energy rehashing your situation with people.
You learn that talk doesn’t change things and that unrequited wishes can only serve to keep you trapped in the past. You stop lamenting over what could have or should have been and you make a decision to leave the past in the past where it belongs or it becomes the present and future.
You learn that respecting others means admitting we each have our own opinions and we will not all agree with the other. You learn to surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad and focus on the good.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time is FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because to give into fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries. You learn that you don’t know all the answers, it’s not your job to save the world and that sometimes you just need to Let Go.
Then you begin to invest your time and energy to affect a positive change. You take a personal inventory of all your strengths and weaknesses and the areas you need to improve in order to move ahead. You set your goals and map out a plan of action to see things through.
You learn that life isn’t always fair and you don’t always get what you think you deserve and you stop personalizing every loss or disappointment.
You learn to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God; but merely a random act of fate...Life is too short to be anything but happy.
Falling down is part of life, getting back up is living.