Sharing the news...

[kylesMom09]

So I was just wondering when everyone was going to start sharing their news with everyone in their lives??  For some reason even though I had no problems in the beginning of my previous pregnancy I am very nervous about this one and I want to wait awhile to tell everyone.  I am only 4 weeks and I have only told my best freind.  Has anyone started telling everyone?  Is anyone going to wait until the 1st trimester is over?

[kylesMom09]

Oh yeah I was sure to ask them to keep my secret and they are pretty truthful people so i think they will.  

[DPAW]

Just a suggestion since the world seems so small at times. I would go back to coworkers and ask them to keep yr news secret as you haven't shared with important family members yet. This pregnancy thing can be a touchy matter and you don't want a close friend or family member hearing yr wonderful news on the streets or from a stranger.

I had that prob last preg and it can be an uncomfortable situation.

n.b. if you got this message b4 , I'm sorry didn't think the email went thru

[yoli476]

Thank you.  It's so hard as I know some people just won't understand.  I know his family will be over the moon and will be very supportive.  So I am just hoping if people don't like the idea they keep zipped about it.  Don't need the hassle.  I really hope I can have a stress free pregnancy, well as much as you can when you have two hyper boys running around haha.

[kylesMom09]

Well for some reason today I just couldn't hold it in...I told my mom b/c well she's my mom and I know she will keep it to herself.  Then at work we found out that two of my co-workers were pregnant also and i was so excited that I let it slip to them as well.  I am not going to tell my in-laws for awhile b/c they try to be WAY too involved in our lives and it just gets worse when I am pregnant :)  So I am going to try to hold off telling anyone else until my Dr.s appt on Aug 5th and then after that I guess I will tell people as I feel fit. I hope everyone has wonderful months ahead of them and I can't wait to share it with you all!

[DPAW]

Hi dear, it all depends on your experiences. I had a m/c last year so hubby and I decided only to share with my mom and aunt who are both health professionals and of course I have to tell my mommy lol. The inlaws and our siblings will get the news close to end of 1st trimester and then we will share with friends etc. later. We have to be careful when we say the reason we won't tell is for fear of m/c because we must not put any negative energy out there. I said it alot last pregnancy eventhough close family and friends knew early on. I think either way is fine, but I do chuckle to myself as people suggest pregnancy topics to us or ask me when I am going try again, hubby and I are like wait you see the bump lol. Blessings to you on this wonderful journey!!

[Dolphin05]

I know how you feel when it comes to being together only a short time. My df and i were only together 4 months the first time we fell pregnant. Now we have been together 10 months and are 5 weeks pregnant. I wish you the best of luck!!!

[yoli476]

Me & my partner haven't told anyone yet.  I am fit to burst to tell someone though.  I am dreading telling my family though.  Me and my partner have been together 9 months and I have two children with my ex-husband.  Me and my partner wanted this so much.  It just feels right between us.  

[Dolphin05]

I would wait to tell the in-laws becasue you dont know what may happen. I had two healthy normal pregnancies except my 2nd was born at 33weeks 5days. Then we were ttc #3 and because i had no previous issues i told everyone right away. Well sadly my 3rd pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage april 2010 at 11 weeks but the fetus had died at 8 weeks. I honestly think my parents took it just as hard as i did, so to spare them hurt just in case i have not told them yet. I am currently 5 weeks and we are waiting till 12 weeks to tell everyone. I wish you the best and  a healthy 9 months.

[MissLisa82]

I am debating this question in my head.  This is my first so I have no history of things goign wrong, but that still doesn't make me terrified that it won't.  I have told my best friend and 2 random friends who don't know anyone I know.  Then I broke down and told my sister yesterday who in turn tells me she is pregnant too and has been for 9 weeks but has kept it from me since I have been struggling to get pregnant.  Wow, yeah so now my pregnancy won't be as big of a deal to my mom.

I keep thinking about telling my in-laws but am scared to.  This news will seriously make them the happiest people on the face of the Earth.  My husband is their only child who can have kids and since he is now 31 they have been waiting and pushing and asking for grandchildren for a while.  I want to tell them since they will be so happy, but if something does happen that will crush them more than anything.  I just don't know what to do.  Any advice??

[Laura1638]

I told my close friends and I just broke the news last night to my parents and grand-parents (after we saw the first heart beat to make sure it was somehow "real"). But my pregnancy has been quite bumpy so far. I am taking progesterone shots 3 times per week and a handful of pills every day... so I guess if everything feels ok for you I don't see a reason why not tell at least to your family. I would anyway like my family to know no matter what happens later.

[spiritwolf31]

We told my mother-in-law which was a mistake cuz that woman couldnt reign it in and told everyone. So now it will be more people to tell if I m/c again. I was so upset but then we thought about it and the way some of my nephews are and how I am..it was for the best because of the rough housing we all do (still big kids at heart..lol). We planned on telling everyone in August as soon as I got past the first trimester but my plans seem to always get changed. We know who not to tell these things in the future..lol (not my future as this is my last..but grandchildren and such).

[wasabic]

i told my my mama and dad and sis best friend and his parents when we fond out and then couple friends not all after the first u/s , i will tell everybody at 12 weeks cant wait to tell the people i work finally around end off august everybody will know .

[mmeriche]

a few of our closest friends know, in addition to a couple of random people that don't know anyone we know (haha, sometimes it is hard not to blurt it out to a total stranger in conversation as their knowing doesn't make any difference) .. we are telling our families this weekend, after the 8 week mark, and waiting to tell everyone else at 12 weeks, maybe even 14 weeks. everyone is different though, of course. ;) my cousin told the whole family the morning after she tested positive late the night before! it is fun to see how excited everyone in our family is for her and her husband, and the added excitement when they learn that we are also expecting will be awesome. a fun and blessed time to share.. and it will be a blast when we decide to announce it to all sometime in august or september. xo

[Dolphin05]

Well like you i had no problems my first 2 pregnancies. My third however ended in a missed mc april 2010, and with all three i told everyone right away. So now that we are pregnant again im trying so hare to wait. I did tell my best friend and df's mom but thats it for now. I want to tell my parents so bad but they took my mc so hard that im scared to. Like you im 4w5d so i have some road to get through before the magic 12 weeks.