i have been really blessed for the most part as far as others giving advice about becoming a mother, but today i had two really negative things brought up to me about "the possibilities." are any of you also experiencing this?
what i mean is, for example, yes.. i am fully aware that an infant can have colic.. thank you very much. is that something that really needs to be mentioned to a woman who could potentially deliver her first child any day now? "i hope she doesn't end up having colic like so and so's baby did..." is SO not what i want or need right now. is postpartum depression something that needs to be mentioned either, no matter how supportive the person thinks they are being? thanks, but no thanks. i've done my research. i understand that it is a real possibility for all women. i just wish people would realize that a pregnant woman (especially the first time around) is already especially wrapped up in emotions tied to the birth of her first child and becoming a mother. negative comments should be kept away unless brought up by the pregnant woman herself! if i really had my concerns, would i not reach out and seek the advice or research what to do or resources available to me? i appreciated learning about the what-ifs in birthing classes, but that was an environment where those topics were expected to be discussed.
i feel like i am doing the exact thing i am upset over.. and definitely wouldn't want to bring any of you reading this down in any way whatsoever.. just maybe one of you can relate and know you aren't alone in feeling frustrated over unnecessary advice that could be troublesome to a woman preparing herself for delivery..
i will get over letting this get to me, and am strong in my beliefs that my situation will be mine. unique, and my own. whatever happens as i enter motherhood, good or challenging, will be fine and i trust myself to be able to handle it. i trust myself to be a wonderful mother. i already asked the person mainly responsible for my experience today to keep things positive and in the present, as i think boundaries are so important. we'll see..
i just wish others knew when to keep their mouths shut sometimes. :) how about you? is this just the beginning of years of others giving their two cents whether you asked for it or not? probably so, huh. if this has happened to you, or you anticipate it happening, what are you going to do about it?
peace ladies :) hope everyone is feeling good this evening. we are all so close!