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535822 tn?1443976780

Bullying in Schools

Listening to the radio this morning I heard about a15 year old  commited suicide because of bullying ..in thisschool and I guess most they have 'zero tolerance' meaning they cannot fight back with bullying, we wre told years ago in England you stood up to a bully, how can you if its not allowed what does a child do just 'Take It' Mant of you have children who are going through this or will be , what will you do if your child is at risk from Bullies and they are not allowed to retaliate?
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973741 tn?1342342773
When you have a child . . . and you  have to have one to really get this----------  the lesson is playing the game well not always winning.  For that, all kids deserve the trophy.  It is an accomplishment to be on a team and do your best.  
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535822 tn?1443976780
As an Immigrant from UK when I first came to the US I wondered about the idea of rewarding children even when they didnt win a trophy, I then recognised the reason was that America has the kindest heart and a most most generous spirit ,it translated to the idea that the child would be hurt not to have some award.I do not believe this harms ,if the winner gets a big Trophy and the loser gets a small trophy for participating ,thats a good thing ,in my opinion,in fact the UK started to copy  .. Not being created equal does not mean that some kind spirit of building self confidence to do well cannot exist, so I understand what you mean, I like the way of rewarding all, even if its just for trying ....
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1056589 tn?1273747102
As you all will soon see I am very blunt and to the point .But I always tell the truth as I see it. People either appriciate it or hate it.

I agree that a childs home life impacts who they will become.
Emotional scars do take the longest to heal. But words are just that words. It is up to the parent to raise a child that is confident and self assured. So that the child knows that its all just a bunch of B.S. . When I was growing up I knew that I could tell my parents anything and they would not judge me. Why is it that some children are afraid to go to their own parents and discuss problems?How do parents not pick up on the fact that the child is having problems or suicidal? In my opinion it is absolutly and completely the parents fault!
I feel that this Politically Correct B.S is contributing to the problem. Why does everyone on the team deserve a trophy even if your team loses? It rewards mediocracy.It creates resentment. Dont get me wrong it is ok to lose and that does not make you any less of a person.Unfortuantly everyone cannot win and does not excel at everything.Everyone is not pretty or smart. And thats ok. We are not all created equal and thats what makes us human. Kids and actually people in general have become a bunch of  rude overindulged narcissitic  thin skinned wussies.
I am going to be honest here I was sort of an anti-bully bully. I would defend the kids that did not defend themselves. But after a while what actually bothered even more than the actual bullying was the kids not defending themselves. So after watching the same kids get picked on and the kids just letting it happen I decided that they needed to Nut up or deal with it. There is not always going to be some one around to defend you. You have got to learn to take care of yourself. Bullying has been going on sense the dawn of time and will continue until the end of days....Kids need to learn how to deal with it.
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535822 tn?1443976780
Very often if children see the family having respect for one and other they will emulate it, it will be part of their life and if there is kindness and respect at home it will follow into their school life ..I always found in my few dealings that the more disfunctional the family at home the more likely the child would hurt and bully others ..
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973741 tn?1342342773
Unfortunately bullies come in all shapes and sizes these days and a simple email address or facebook page leaves a kid open to bullying.  Some of the worst kind of bullying is that that does entail external bruises but that which isolates a child.  I hate that!  As to those that don't respect authority . . . to me it goes back to my original point.  Young children that are taught that kind of respect usually have some of it when they are teenagers.  I'm sure, not always, but parental responsibility to teach it and expect it of kids has to be there.  my opinion.
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1056589 tn?1273747102

I was very tiny growing up . I was very short and skinny.I was taught to be strong and to defend myself no matter what. If someone did try to bully me I took care of it the first time and nipped it in the bud. Bullies do not care if a teacher tells them not to bully. Actually that makes the situation much worse. I am not talking about children who are mentally or physically challenged. But children need to be able to stand up for themselves. It is not fun for the bully when someone knocks the h*ll out of them and they will not bully you any more after that.
I do not believe in home schooling on the grounds of sheltering your child from the big bad world. The big nasty world will still be there when the child turns 18 and heads to college. Even if there is some socialisation  it is not the same.You have got to learn how to get along with the masses whether you want to or not to be able to succed in life.  

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