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FaceBook/Myspace/Social Networking
What age do you think is appropriate for a Facebook or Myspace page? My 14 year old step daughter has a Facebook page and I thought it was a little inappropriate. Her mother is one of her friends and I'm sure she monitors her but her mother isn't exactly Ms. Innocent and I'm sure could have inappropriate pictures up or things written on her wall that might not be appropriate for her daughter to see. So I'm just wondering what age people find appropriate for Myspace, Facebook and/or other networking sites. Plus, do you think a child should be one of your friends given that you may have something inappropriate on your page?
I think you should have told her mom and suggested she monitor her daughter's facebook account. She may not even be aware that she has one or how she's talking.
I think teens (and even adults) forget that people can see their posts and that included potential employers! People need to remember that. It can cost them a job.
I think teens (and even adults) forget that people can see their posts and that included potential employers! People need to remember that. It can cost them a job.
My 14 yr. old neice was using inappropriate language on facebook so I sent her a message saying so. She said it was just joking, then she blocked me. I think there is too much unmonitored time spent online by kids.
I think it would depend on who is watching what they do on it. My youngest sister is 13 and has one, but it is private and monitored by myself and my mom. On the other hand I have a 12 year old cousin who is forever posting her cell phone number and heaven knows what else. She's been getting text messages from older men and anyone else who can read it. (Sadly my aunt won't do anything about it, even though I've said something numerous times) I think it's ok if closely watched by someone responsible, but otherwise shouldn't be allowed.
I wish they'd change the age limit back, for at least facebook. It was for college students only, had to have your school email. now anyone can have it. Myspace tends to be for the younger crowd. Though facebook has gotten the same way. I was shocked to find that my cousin's husband had made a facebook account for their 8 year old daughter!! I don't think that's apporpriate at all. We've tried talking to him about it with no luck. He just gives in to what ever she wants, since my cousin passed away in December.I just think at that age, they shouldn't be spending so much time online. go outside and play! get exercise.
That is true, but I'm sure her mom will see what I write and hit delete...lol. I guess I can't change much about it. Just wondered what people's thoughts were on these sites.
Mami- chances are if she posts those pictures on myspace, etc. She probably has them around the house for her daughter to see. Try to think of it as a positive that she is on facebook. You could set up an account and talk with her when her mom is being a b****.
I just think her mother is a little slutacious...lol. I've seen her pics when she had a myspace page and they aren't suitable for children. A few pics of her out with her slutacious friends with their cleavage and one of her from the back, like a booty shot. It just didn't seem appropriate, so if her pics are like the ones off of myspace, I don't think it's right for her daughter to witness that.
My grandson has a facebook page and he is 8. I was on one day and saw a friendship invitation from him. My daughter monitors it and thinks its cure, me? well Im old and old fashioned and am appalled! I think its way irresponsible, but that is me.
My 14 year old uses facebook. We monitor it. We do not have anything inappropriate on our pages that I wouldn't want my daughter to see. Our friends/family do not make inappropriate comments.
I think the age limit is 14? I could be wrong. Just from experience, I've found Facebook to be a little better than Myspace, a little more professional. You see more adults use FB and more teens seem to use Myspace. My daughter has both and I have a FB and have her on my friend's list. She'll be 18 in a couple of weeks.
Here's what I did. I let my daughter first get a Myspace when she was 14 because I knew that a lot of teens communicate that way but I had to know her password and I monitored it. I recommend keeping these accounts private, too, which they would automatically be at that age unless they're lying about their age.
Anyway, I would check her Myspace and if I saw anything innappropriate I would warn her to warn her friends that I was watching. I was very honest, didn't hide the fact that I was watching. I never saw anything bad on her end but would see bad language or suggestive pictures from her friends profiles (yes, I would go look at her friends profiles too and would be shocked sometimes. I wondered if their own parents watched their kids profiles?)
I would shut down her profile from time to time because I didn't like the way the kid were talking, which she didn't think was fair (at the time) but I would explain over and over that she better tell her friends I was watching and that they better clean up how they were talking or I would shut down her profile. I even shut it down for a whole year once.
I did give it chance after chance because I figured you have to let go little by little with your kids and give them some freedom but if they blow it then you have to pull in the reigns again and try again later. If we never did this then they'd never learn to take responsibility and earn our trust. Besides, I figured I'd rather have my kids password and check things then have them set up an account at a friend's house and I never know about it.
Once I saw she was being responsible with both accounts I started gradually to back off and not check things as often. She had earned my trust.
Some day we have to let them go and it's better if we can work through these things while they are still living at home because if we're too strict and never let them do anything then they can really rebel once they leave home and we have no control at that point. It's a fine balance, I guess. I try not to be too strict but not too lenient, either. I try to make my kids be responsible for themselves by also be there for them.
The social networks and texting seems to be how this generation of kids is communicating the most with each other and as long as we are monitoring things I think we have to let them try their wings, little by little, so that they'll be responsible and ready enough to leave home when they reach adulthood.
Here's what I did. I let my daughter first get a Myspace when she was 14 because I knew that a lot of teens communicate that way but I had to know her password and I monitored it. I recommend keeping these accounts private, too, which they would automatically be at that age unless they're lying about their age.
Anyway, I would check her Myspace and if I saw anything innappropriate I would warn her to warn her friends that I was watching. I was very honest, didn't hide the fact that I was watching. I never saw anything bad on her end but would see bad language or suggestive pictures from her friends profiles (yes, I would go look at her friends profiles too and would be shocked sometimes. I wondered if their own parents watched their kids profiles?)
I would shut down her profile from time to time because I didn't like the way the kid were talking, which she didn't think was fair (at the time) but I would explain over and over that she better tell her friends I was watching and that they better clean up how they were talking or I would shut down her profile. I even shut it down for a whole year once.
I did give it chance after chance because I figured you have to let go little by little with your kids and give them some freedom but if they blow it then you have to pull in the reigns again and try again later. If we never did this then they'd never learn to take responsibility and earn our trust. Besides, I figured I'd rather have my kids password and check things then have them set up an account at a friend's house and I never know about it.
Once I saw she was being responsible with both accounts I started gradually to back off and not check things as often. She had earned my trust.
Some day we have to let them go and it's better if we can work through these things while they are still living at home because if we're too strict and never let them do anything then they can really rebel once they leave home and we have no control at that point. It's a fine balance, I guess. I try not to be too strict but not too lenient, either. I try to make my kids be responsible for themselves by also be there for them.
The social networks and texting seems to be how this generation of kids is communicating the most with each other and as long as we are monitoring things I think we have to let them try their wings, little by little, so that they'll be responsible and ready enough to leave home when they reach adulthood.
14 in way too young,i know of a girl 12yrs old and she puts up some very suggestive pics,she asked to use my computer,naive me said yes thinking she would be playing kid games on the p/c.she made a big mistake she forgot to logout before she went home and i tiold her mum that she sends and recieves msgs from 7 young men.Her mum laughed but i am guessing in the near future the mother nor the daughter will be laughing.!7 /18 is a better age.some parents are just dumb to see this sort of thing.Its sad really turning them into adults when they clearly cant handle it..how can they??
I thought 14 was a little young but her mother monitors everything she does so I'm not worried about that. What more concerns me is the fact that her mother is one of her friends and she's a grown up with grown up friends who I'm sure make comments to her wall and I'm sure that her daughter could stummble upon things that are none of her business. Her mother's friends aren't exactly conservative. I'm also sure her daughter sees some pics of her mother that may not be suitable. You know, her mom is single now so I'm sure she has those typical "look at me, I'm trying to be sexy" pics. I just don't think her daughter should be that much into her mother's personal life like that until she's older.
I have mixed feelings on this. Facebook/Myspace are such a cultural phenomenon that I'm sure the age gets younger and younger. But so many teenagers are left to their own demise during a very vulnerable time. I would never do that------- parents need to be involved. And if a parent is using these same tools as their own social network, should their child see all? In some cases, no. I also think kids need to know about the public aspect of what they put up. That they do not want anything up that they don't want to follow them forever. Just my thoughts.
my 16 year old brothers have a myspace and a facebook but the only people they are allowed to have on it are friends and family. i also have both (i'm 25 though) and only have people i know. (friends and family)
as far as too young...14 is way too young. 15 is even pushing it. BUT as long as the parents are involved (as in checking the emails to and from the child, the pictures the child has up, and the comments to and from the child) i don't see a problem with it. now if the parents are not involved with the childs myspace/facebook then i see a problem with it.
as far as too young...14 is way too young. 15 is even pushing it. BUT as long as the parents are involved (as in checking the emails to and from the child, the pictures the child has up, and the comments to and from the child) i don't see a problem with it. now if the parents are not involved with the childs myspace/facebook then i see a problem with it.
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