How do you feel your teenagers relate to you?

[stella5349]

How do your kids relate to your morals and family values?

Are the rebellious? or complying?

Do they seem to take part in family events or go out on their own?

Are you feeling empty nesting since they are almost grown?

[Cherie762]

Mine get along good most of time with me, i discovered the best way to have a serious conversation with them  is while driving , if Im not making dirrect eye contact they dont feel like they are beeing grilled , which they are, They are honest with me, I know more than I wish i did, they arent saints, but neither was I at their age and I could not talke to my parents.

They get hormonal, I just ignore them, or tell them Im really mad and they need to stop, a verbal warning usually works. Im finding teen boys are easier \\

[April2]

You're right, every teenager will test you and rebel to a certain degree, some more than others depending on their personality type. I think you still have to remain firm in your rules and keep communication open. Be willing to be there for your child and listen to them. Never, ever allow them to back talk, be disrespectful to you or others. That's something I won't allow in my kids. They've complained about teachers to me before and I'll listen and even sympathize sometimes but I still remind them that they are their teachers and they must respect them.
I don't believe beating them is the answer, not unless you want a very angry teenager on your hands. It's a fine balance of knowing when to hold them back and when to let them go. It's kind of a learning process for all of us I think. They want so much to grow up and think they're already there but they're not quite there. Still, they deserve respect and deserve to be listened to but still need to understand that we adults are still in authority over them for their own good and they need to respect that.
Nobody said it's easy to raise teenagers! I think it's the hardest job in the world. Some day we'll get our reward when they're all grown up and give us grandchildren! :)

[ChitChatNine]

I'm glad you posted this question. Cause I was going to post something similar Stella!!!

It takes an enormous amount of work -- and I do believe almost every teen will test the waters to some degree, as well as the limits set by parents (some more than others) -

C~

[nuredshuz]

I have a 15 yo boy and 13 yo girl. They are good kids, dont smoke, drink or do drugs at all. They are somewhat disrespectful and swear TOO MUCH and they fight with each other WAY too much. I feel at a loss cuz I dont know what to do to discipline them?? They cuss infront of the younger kids and talk trashy in front of them. My husband has anger issues, so I cant rely on him, cuz his answer is always "beat their a$$, so I cant even tell him half the things that go on, cuz hes not reliable to disclipline them in love?? This is the toughest thing for me. How to discipline in love and effectiveness with these basically good kids?! Any advise? Thanks in advance, (sorry if I jacked this thread)

[VicUser]

My wife and I put our kids before our careers and making the most money we could and climbing the corperate ladder. We were involved with them and their activities, we steered them towards things like Boy Scouts, 4-H, organized sports, band and church youth activities.