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I have a question about something school-related. My daughter (4 yrs old) just started preschool Monday and I'm already a little perturbed by a few things. My question is, do I write the teacher a note and have my daughter give it to him? Or do I wait until things smooth out as school literally JUST started?
These are the things that have bothered me:
-My daughter came home sock-less on the first day. They are nowhere to be found. ???
-I packed her a lunch and told them on the first day. They gave her school lunch AND her packed lunch (but didn't charge me because of the mixup). So the Lunchable she had eagerly picked out at the store with me was entirely ruined because she ate the school lunch instead.
-They wanted to put all the kids' naptime bedding (blankets and pillows) in a PILE TOGETHER. Is it just me or is this completely unsanitary?! Some of the bedding didn't look washed at all. So I told the teacher assistant on the first day, "PLEASE find another place for my daughter's bedding. I do not want it in the pile; that's unsanitary." I get told that's perfectly fine. When I pickup my daughter I find her bedding in the BOTTOM of a huge pile. They're working on building cubbies for them but in the meantime that's just gross.
-This school wears uniforms. We're to provide extra clothes in the event our child has an accident or gets dirty. So I packed an extra uniform as her extra. We were told on the first day that we could use regular clothes as the extra. So today I bring a regular old outfit and ask to have her extra uniform returned via her backpack so she could wear it the next day. WELL... someone removed the extra clothes but didn't return the uniform?! What the heck?! Uniforms are not cheap and we have a limited amount.
-My daughter is allergic to strawberries. She told me they gave her strawberries in her school lunch on Monday. It won't kill her; just make her break out into hives. BUT still, that's a pretty important issue. Food allergies should be taken seriously no matter how intense they are.
-I have no idea what my child does everyday. I don't have a letter sent home stating, "This is when we have lunch. And this is when we do circle time. And this is when we do reading time, etc., etc." Routine is so important to small children. I'm interested to know the class routine so we can try to stick somewhat to the same routine (for naps and eating) to make the transition easier. I'm just not getting any communication. But then again, it's only day 2.
So what would you do? I'm very new to this. I've never put a child in school before. Do I wait until things calm down this first week? Do I go to the principal and voice concerns (this is their FIRST year doing a preschool at this school so they obviously have kinks to work out)? Or should I just send her teacher and assistant a reminder that I need her uniform, missing socks and to please keep bedding separated (can we say gross germs, flus/colds, head lice)? I don't want to be THAT parent that is just always griping and unsatisfied with something. But I also want my daughter to have a healthy and safe year and I want to know what is going on in the classroom. HELP!
I'm pregnant so it is easy to over-react about things and become paranoid. But I would think that the bedding and allergy thing are pretty major.
These are the things that have bothered me:
-My daughter came home sock-less on the first day. They are nowhere to be found. ???
-I packed her a lunch and told them on the first day. They gave her school lunch AND her packed lunch (but didn't charge me because of the mixup). So the Lunchable she had eagerly picked out at the store with me was entirely ruined because she ate the school lunch instead.
-They wanted to put all the kids' naptime bedding (blankets and pillows) in a PILE TOGETHER. Is it just me or is this completely unsanitary?! Some of the bedding didn't look washed at all. So I told the teacher assistant on the first day, "PLEASE find another place for my daughter's bedding. I do not want it in the pile; that's unsanitary." I get told that's perfectly fine. When I pickup my daughter I find her bedding in the BOTTOM of a huge pile. They're working on building cubbies for them but in the meantime that's just gross.
-This school wears uniforms. We're to provide extra clothes in the event our child has an accident or gets dirty. So I packed an extra uniform as her extra. We were told on the first day that we could use regular clothes as the extra. So today I bring a regular old outfit and ask to have her extra uniform returned via her backpack so she could wear it the next day. WELL... someone removed the extra clothes but didn't return the uniform?! What the heck?! Uniforms are not cheap and we have a limited amount.
-My daughter is allergic to strawberries. She told me they gave her strawberries in her school lunch on Monday. It won't kill her; just make her break out into hives. BUT still, that's a pretty important issue. Food allergies should be taken seriously no matter how intense they are.
-I have no idea what my child does everyday. I don't have a letter sent home stating, "This is when we have lunch. And this is when we do circle time. And this is when we do reading time, etc., etc." Routine is so important to small children. I'm interested to know the class routine so we can try to stick somewhat to the same routine (for naps and eating) to make the transition easier. I'm just not getting any communication. But then again, it's only day 2.
So what would you do? I'm very new to this. I've never put a child in school before. Do I wait until things calm down this first week? Do I go to the principal and voice concerns (this is their FIRST year doing a preschool at this school so they obviously have kinks to work out)? Or should I just send her teacher and assistant a reminder that I need her uniform, missing socks and to please keep bedding separated (can we say gross germs, flus/colds, head lice)? I don't want to be THAT parent that is just always griping and unsatisfied with something. But I also want my daughter to have a healthy and safe year and I want to know what is going on in the classroom. HELP!
I'm pregnant so it is easy to over-react about things and become paranoid. But I would think that the bedding and allergy thing are pretty major.
Well, I definitely think you raise some valid concerns.
If I were you, I think I might just have to contact the principal about the strawberry issue, and while I got him on the phone, I would bring up the bedding. OK, so the strawberry allergy isn't serious(right now), but if they are actually overlooking stuff like this, who knows what could happen. I know mistakes happen and what not....but this is the schools BUSINESS. A school is charged with the welfare of your child when they are there. And the bedding, well....that's gross. There are plenty of times I see kids from my children's classroom that look a little less then hygienic. I do what I have to do to keep my kids clean and healthy.....so to have that challenged by carelessness and/or laziness prob wouldn't be OK with me either. All the rest of it might improve with time.....
I probably would in a jokingly way though ask where my child's socks were.
If I were you, I think I might just have to contact the principal about the strawberry issue, and while I got him on the phone, I would bring up the bedding. OK, so the strawberry allergy isn't serious(right now), but if they are actually overlooking stuff like this, who knows what could happen. I know mistakes happen and what not....but this is the schools BUSINESS. A school is charged with the welfare of your child when they are there. And the bedding, well....that's gross. There are plenty of times I see kids from my children's classroom that look a little less then hygienic. I do what I have to do to keep my kids clean and healthy.....so to have that challenged by carelessness and/or laziness prob wouldn't be OK with me either. All the rest of it might improve with time.....
I probably would in a jokingly way though ask where my child's socks were.
I agree with Cherie, state board has regulations as far as safety and sanitation. First week or no I would be greatly concerned. The strawberry thing is absolutely unacceptable on any level. I would also pop in from time to time unexpected to see how things are run.
A day care here in florida turned out to be a front for drugs and was shut down originally because of an accusation of child abuse by the owner and further investigation revealed a drug operation behind the scenes. None of the parents could even believe this and had no signs of anything.
I would keep my eyes and ears open and be on a first name basis with every worker there....
A day care here in florida turned out to be a front for drugs and was shut down originally because of an accusation of child abuse by the owner and further investigation revealed a drug operation behind the scenes. None of the parents could even believe this and had no signs of anything.
I would keep my eyes and ears open and be on a first name basis with every worker there....
Jpy I would venture to guess that the state board of health and the other moms would not like the sleeping in a pile idea. Yes like Chitchat said lice and more wait till flu season. imagine them all coughing wipping their little noses yes its not sanitary what ever happened to eah kid having a mat, and not only that even children have a right to privacy maybe some little girls and boys would nt be comfortable sleeping next to each other , and if they are what kind of a message is that sending them for when they are a bit older? Id get some moms together and get a petition going.to put a stop to the nap isssue there simply must be a better way.
As for the allergies unacceptable, thats settinga standard. What happens to the child allergic to peanuts? very dangerous. You inform them of allergies it is their responsibility to protect your child.
Yes its confusing the first few days but I would nip this in the bud.
As for the allergies unacceptable, thats settinga standard. What happens to the child allergic to peanuts? very dangerous. You inform them of allergies it is their responsibility to protect your child.
Yes its confusing the first few days but I would nip this in the bud.
C- I should ask her doctor for a prescrip for an Epi pen to take to school. The ones I had expired. And you're right- an allergy can turn on you in a moment's notice.
Yeah I wasn't too bent on the lunch/sock issues. My main issues are the bedding and the strawberries. I just wanted to mention what was aggravating me (not hard to do lately with all these hormones!) on top of the main issues.
Part of me does have grace for them. I really do understand it is the first few days and this is the first year of preschool at this school (they serve grades PK-8th grade). But the bedding and strawberry issue is definitely concerning!
Yeah I wasn't too bent on the lunch/sock issues. My main issues are the bedding and the strawberries. I just wanted to mention what was aggravating me (not hard to do lately with all these hormones!) on top of the main issues.
Part of me does have grace for them. I really do understand it is the first few days and this is the first year of preschool at this school (they serve grades PK-8th grade). But the bedding and strawberry issue is definitely concerning!
I'd bring a sleeping bag in it's own case with a closure. LICE ... do they not get it?
As far as the allergy to Strawberries. Hives today can be anaphylaxis tomorrow. Does your Dr. feel she needs an epi pen at school? With every ingestion of the causitive food the potential develops for more serious reaction. They MUST take her food allergy seriously. Avoidance is key.
As far as the lunchbox mixup; I'd let it go for this time - pick your battles
I'd send the teacher/assistant a reminder he socks were lost and your uniform is missing even though it's well-labeled.
By a back to school night which should be soon, hopefully the curriculum will be well in place ??
If anything has to do with the safety of your child I'd get right on them immediately .. like the allergies. There's no room for error with the safety/comfort of your child.
Just my 2 cents.
C~
As far as the allergy to Strawberries. Hives today can be anaphylaxis tomorrow. Does your Dr. feel she needs an epi pen at school? With every ingestion of the causitive food the potential develops for more serious reaction. They MUST take her food allergy seriously. Avoidance is key.
As far as the lunchbox mixup; I'd let it go for this time - pick your battles
I'd send the teacher/assistant a reminder he socks were lost and your uniform is missing even though it's well-labeled.
By a back to school night which should be soon, hopefully the curriculum will be well in place ??
If anything has to do with the safety of your child I'd get right on them immediately .. like the allergies. There's no room for error with the safety/comfort of your child.
Just my 2 cents.
C~
I am not a mother but I worked in a daycare setting for a really long time...
I would voice your concerns right away. Write a letter to the teacher first to see what kind of response you will get, if its not one that you like then go to the principle. Yes I am sure things on heck it being the first week. but no excuse on the allergy. They should have a list in the classroom and in the nurses office. As for the bedding, you are right being unsanitary, most of the time the bedding should be in cubbies or least separated by cots.
With it being there first year the might not be aware of everything that is needed..but that's not an excuse.
Hope this helps a little.
I would voice your concerns right away. Write a letter to the teacher first to see what kind of response you will get, if its not one that you like then go to the principle. Yes I am sure things on heck it being the first week. but no excuse on the allergy. They should have a list in the classroom and in the nurses office. As for the bedding, you are right being unsanitary, most of the time the bedding should be in cubbies or least separated by cots.
With it being there first year the might not be aware of everything that is needed..but that's not an excuse.
Hope this helps a little.
I want to add that I asked to personally switch out the extra clothing when the classroom was empty of children. I have no idea where they put the extra clothing and the assistant just said she'd take care of it. Had to clarify this on this same inquiry on another forum. So it isn't as though I'm being lazy and can't do these things myself. It's that I feel a wall is put up every time I try to voice my concern about something (like the bedding issue).
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